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first night alone...? Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
8th Apr '13

How did you handle your first night alone after breaking up with a long term, live in boyfriend?



We've been broken up for 3 weeks tomorrow, but he's still been living here. He moved out today. It's harder than I thought...I guess because it's sinking in...



What did you do that first night? Any tips to taking it easier?

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66650 posts
8th Apr '13

I didn't live with him, but we were together 4 years. I didn't handle it well... I stayed home/worked as much as I could and tried to keep my mind off it, but it didn't work. I wish I would've had a friend who would get me out of the house and do things. But I didn't. So I sulked. Try seeing if a friend will come over and have a girls night.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting kthx.:" I didn't live with him, but we were together 4 years. I didn't handle it well... I stayed home/worked ... [snip!] ... get me out of the house and do things. But I didn't. So I sulked. Try seeing if a friend will come over and have a girls night."


I don't really have any *good* friends. My mom went to her boyfriends. I just feel alone.

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66650 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" I don't really have any *good* friends. My mom went to her boyfriends. I just feel alone."


I totally understand. And it sucks. I'm not going to give you advice on what I did, because it was the exact opposite of what people tell you to do :lol: Just try to keep yourself busy. I found when my hands were idle, my mind wandered. And it made me feel even worse.

C'sMom! 1 child; Minnesota 1263 posts
8th Apr '13

It wasn't easy. I ended up reading most of the night away. I had a funny happy book. Not that it made me feel better , it was just not a love story at all

orchidlovingmama 2 kids; Santa Rosa, California 1769 posts
8th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" How did you handle your first night alone after breaking up with a long term, live in boyfriend? We've ... [snip!] ... harder than I thought...I guess because it's sinking in... What did you do that first night? Any tips to taking it easier?"</blockquote>




Try to focus on all the reasons you broke up and reiterate to yourself how much better your life is going to be without that person in your life. (assuming this is the case) Time heals ask wound so it may be difficult at first but be strong eventually you will be alright and much Hepper.

GCS 15 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 2786 posts
9th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" How did you handle your first night alone after breaking up with a long term, live in boyfriend? We've ... [snip!] ... harder than I thought...I guess because it's sinking in... What did you do that first night? Any tips to taking it easier?"</blockquote>




Treat yourself to something you normally wouldn't. A dinner out, a new pair of shoes, etc. and also rent a good movie or get into a good tv series on Netflix if you have it.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
9th Apr '13
Quoting JenniferW [Laina's Mom)]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" How did you handle your first night ... [snip!] ... A dinner out, a new pair of shoes, etc. and also rent a good movie or get into a good tv series on Netflix if you have it."


Would be nice to do that! But, I can't. Especially now with the breakup my funds are super duper low. I am waiting for the movies I want to see to come out on redbox. It was tough. He usually spent a night away once or twice a month anyway, but it's different this time knowing that this is my new normal.

SillyBek Due June 23 (boy); 17 kids; Utah 307 posts
10th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" How did you handle your first night alone after breaking up with a long term, live in boyfriend? We've ... [snip!] ... harder than I thought...I guess because it's sinking in... What did you do that first night? Any tips to taking it easier?"</blockquote>



In my truck at a truck stop by myself, in the middle if multiple tornado warnings on the long drive from Louisiana to utah. We traveled for work and were staying in Louisiana. Took me four days by myself but it gave me time to think, got back to utah and was ready to let him and that life go. Went to the liquor store with some girlfriends (he'd never in 3 years allowed me to drink) I ended up meeting the love of my life that night!