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Need Advice Son's Father Is Trying To Take Him Trevor's Momma Due December 16 (boy); Angola, 5 posts
8th Apr '13

Hey to all my mommy friends i need advice... Timmy is taking me to court for visitation rights, dont get me wrong i offer to let him see are son at his moms but he doesnt want me there... i dont feel as if my son is safe alone with his dad... accounted to his history of family violence and substance abuse and im scare if i let him take our son ill never see my baby again.... any advice

Soon 2 be mom of 3 Due November 6; 2 kids; Massachusetts 412 posts
8th Apr '13

Is the history of violence and abuse documented in the courts? If so I assume the court will take that into account

username1 1 child; Chicopee, MA, United States 30921 posts
8th Apr '13

tell that to the courts. does he have an records on file about his bad past? bring those up if so to prove he isnt safe alone with him

JKBC♡ 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 9186 posts
status 8th Apr '13

If he has a documented record of those, I highly doubt he'd win.

orchidlovingmama 2 kids; Santa Rosa, California 1769 posts
8th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Trevor's Momma:</b>" Hey to all my mommy friends i need advice... Timmy is taking me to court for visitation rights, dont ... [snip!] ... of family violence and substance abuse and im scare if i let him take our son ill never see my baby again.... any advice"</blockquote>




Ask you can do is take it to court and voice your concerns. You unfortunately have to leave it to the judge

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
8th Apr '13

If there's a custody agreement, he can't take him away. If there isn't, he can. Anyway, if there's already a court date set up, it's not for anyone but the judge to decide.

JΔS Georgia 72435 posts
status 8th Apr '13

If you have full physical custody, he can't take him (legally). If you feel that his visits should be supervised, say so during the hearing.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" If you have full physical custody, he can't take him (legally). If you feel that his visits should be supervised, say so during the hearing."


Actually, that depends. Physical custody can be defined just as that-whoever is physically in possession of the child. If there's nothing legal set up, then whoever has the child living with them is the custodial parent. If the dad takes the child for visitation and does not return him, then there's nothing she can do about it, except to take it to the court.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
8th Apr '13

If he's just asking to see the child more, then he certainly is required by law to return him to you.



I'm sure the courts know all about his history.



If they allow him to see his son more, you don't have much of a choice. He can't become a better father unless you give him that opportunity.

Trevor's Momma Due December 16 (boy); Angola, 5 posts
8th Apr '13

My son is three months and his father doesnt communticate with me i have to go through his mom.. and he been to jail twice and just recently he served all his charges so he done with all that. He has grabbed his little brother who six and screamed at him you want me to give you something to cry about and threw him on the couch.. and i said something so he grabbed me throwing me against the wall..

Trevor's Momma Due December 16 (boy); Angola, 5 posts
8th Apr '13

i offer to take my son to his fathers mom so his father can see him but his dad wants him alone and at his apartment with his gf. his dad has made one bottle and change about a dozen diapers in three month and the times he did see him he spent 20 minutes with him and then started playing the game and i asked him to change and he started fighting with me.. my has not had one diaper rash because i change him when its need his father has let him sit in it until i took m son and changed him myself

Trevor's Momma Due December 16 (boy); Angola, 5 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:" Was any of it documented?(the bit with his brother and hitting you) If so, you MAY be able to get the ... [snip!] ... then he will get some form of visitation most likely. If he is unsafe, then fight it through the courts as hard as you can. "


no we didnt call the cop or anything we just stay at the neighbors until he left

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting Trevor's Momma:" no we didnt call the cop or anything we just stay at the neighbors until he left"



Lesson learned. Call the police. Your only hope in using that in court is having your neighbor testify against him.