Cast Your Vote:
- 2 children -- Votes: 0
- 3 children -- Votes: 2
- 4 children -- Votes: 11
- 5 children -- Votes: 14
- 6 children -- Votes: 9
- 7 children -- Votes: 4
- 8 children -- Votes: 3
- 9 children -- Votes: 1
- 10+ children -- Votes: 1
a family is considered big/ when they have how many kids in your opinion?
we re on baby #3 and I think I m done having kids, but has a little girl my dream was to have 4. so I m keeping my options open just in case.
on the other hand I feel that 3 is a lot and 4 would be too many.
When they can't afford them or don't have time to parent each child
Too many or just big? I have a lot of siblings, 7 to be exact. DH had 8 until a few weeks ago.
I have four kids. We're considered a big family but I do not think that we have "too many" children.
It really depends on how many you can handle. If a person can successfully raise 10 kids and support them well why not :D
I stopped at 3. I'd say it just depends on what you can handle mentally. For me, we are outnumbered at 3, so thats our limit. But my husbands cousin has 4 kids all under 6 and they are happy. I'd personally would probably loose it.
Quoting nothing to see:" a family is considered big/ when they have how many kids in your opinion? ETA: we re on baby #3 and ... [snip!] ... was to have 4. so I m keeping my options open just in case. on the other hand I feel that 3 is a lot and 4 would be too many."
well... I have 4.. my SO has 3.. and we've talked about having one together. lol
but.. neither of us have our kids full time.
I used to think 5 was too many. but.. honestly.. after 3.. tis' just chaos no matter how you look at it.
I think it depends on the person. One is too many for me sometimes in terms of being able to manage being a good parent. But I suck lol.
When you can't take care of them. I think huge families are cool in theory. But, when you NEED your older Children to help out with the younger ones just to be able to function on a daily basis, that's not you Parenting, that's making your kids Parent your offspring. So I don't really think they're very cool when I actually sit and think about it.
I consider 8+ a big family. 4 is average where I'm from... But I think as long as you can emotionally, physically, mentally, and finically support your kids then have as many as you want. DH is 1 of 14!
I don't think there is such a thing as "too many" that would apply to every family. As long as the parents are capable of caring for all of them financially, mentally, physically, emotionally, and any other way they need, the can have as many as they like. It's when it starts falling to the older siblings to care for the younger ones or the family can't survive without outside help, that i think the family needs to stop expanding.
We have 4 kids, They are 5 yrs and under, We plan on being done.
We have 6 kids (ages 17, 13, 12, 5, 2, and 5mo).....The older chilren do help w/the younger ones but not any more extensively than chilren w/only 2 siblings. They willingly take turns pushing the extra cart or stoller at the store, entertain each other while i cook or do laundry and if they actually ''babysit'' they are paid just like a non family member.
Dh & i take turns doing things 1 on 1 w/them (movies, shopping, playdates, etc) as often as possible but they usually request a sibling come along (which ever one they r getting along w/at the moment ,lol)
I voted for five. Not because I think its "too many" but because that is when I consider a family to be big. I know lots of families with 7 or more kids (SO's family is LDS and they tend to have tons of kids lol) and I think its too many for some, and just right for others. Basically when the older kids become the "parents" of the younger kids that is too many. If the parents are still taking care of and raising all the children then I think its just fine. We are having at least 3 and then seeing how we feel about more children after that.
Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" We have 6 kids (ages 17, 13, 12, 5, 2, and 5mo).....The older chilren do help w/the younger ones but ... [snip!] ... as often as possible but they usually request a sibling come along (which ever one they r getting along w/at the moment ,lol)"
See this is a good thing. I was thinking about Families that have so many kids, that they couldn't get normal things done without their older kids taking on some of the responsibility. If you had to, you and your husband could do it on your own and you don't *make* the older ones watch the younger. It's sort of like a first babysitting job, because they're getting paid.