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- 2 children -- Votes: 0
- 3 children -- Votes: 2
- 4 children -- Votes: 11
- 5 children -- Votes: 14
- 6 children -- Votes: 9
- 7 children -- Votes: 4
- 8 children -- Votes: 3
- 9 children -- Votes: 1
- 10+ children -- Votes: 1
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" See this is a good thing. I was thinking about Families that have so many kids, that they couldn't get ... [snip!] ... and you don't *make* the older ones watch the younger. It's sort of like a first babysitting job, because they're getting paid."
I know quite a few people that only have 2/3 children , that the older child is doing most of the ''parenting''......family size isnt always the reason that siblings are forced into the role of caregiver (parents work/school schedule ,irresponsible parenting, abandonment by 1or both parents, etc.....)
All siblings should partake in each others lives though....reading a story , helping them dress, playing a game, & teaching life lessons is all part of being a sibling no matter how many you have! Its what builds the bond of family
I think age difference factors in as well, n ot just number of kids.
if you have 4 under 4... and and are young.. and in 10 years decide to have more, why not?
Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" I know quite a few people that only have 2/3 children , that the older child is doing most of the ''parenting''......family ... [snip!] ... & teaching life lessons is all part of being a sibling no matter how many you have! Its what builds the bond of family"
Helping is one thing, but not being able to function without them is another. I do agree that it sometimes isn't even about the number, but more about the Parents ability to handle the number.
I think its all in what you can handle on your own as parents without help. Right now we have two and it can be somewhat stressful and overwhelming.
The idea of another is up in the air(not until our youngest is 4) but Im drawing the line at 3, Im getting fixed after that. If we dont concieve again by the time Im 35, Im getting fixed.
Quoting Cheeks mom:" When they can't afford them or don't have time to parent each child"
Agree with this post, this is the point when a family has "too many" kids. For some families that number can be 10, for some families that number can be 2.
As for a "big family" I think 4 kids is considered a big family. That's a totally separate question though from having "too many".