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*************************************** Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
10th Apr '13

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************************* Chehalis, Washington 362 posts
10th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" To just move on. My DH a*****e to me lately. He says he wants to get along and work things out but then ... [snip!] ... but why take it out on me?!?!? I didn't do it! I don't know what I really figured posting this would do just needed to vent!"</blockquote>



Have you tried counseling?

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
10th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting amkcr8667810:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" To just move on. My DH a*****e to me ... [snip!] ... I don't know what I really figured posting this would do just needed to vent!"</blockquote> Have you tried counseling?"</blockquote>




He doesn't think other people can help! I think if he got couseling about his dad it would automatically help our marriage because I know that's why he's so angry! I have lost a dad and a brother but I feel like I don't deserve this!

************************* Chehalis, Washington 362 posts
10th Apr '13

Well I won't get into my situation but suffice it to say I've been married, divorced, and remarried to the same person. What I've learned is that as long as they are WILLING to change and/or make an effort at bettering the relationship, don't give up. When someone is stuck in their ways and absolutely refuses to change or attempt to get help, there's nothing you can do. Good luck.

TmA's mommy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
10th Apr '13

If he is not willing to change and is putting all of the blame on you then it is probably best to move on, which is a lot easier said then done when I am not in your situation. It is worse with a young child and one on the way but in the end if he doesn't change it will be worse on your children being raised in a home where their parents do not get along, it is unhealthy for you and the kids.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
10th Apr '13

I know and I keep trying to tell myself that but it's so hard to do! I know that I can always move back in with my parents but I just feel so lost! I wish I had never let all my friends drift away when I met him. Idk I feel like if I walk away, I feel like on giving up on my children. But I feel like by walking away I'm doing then good. I have been crying all morning and my 13 month old keeps walking up to me and giving me all these kisses and I just love my son so much and I want my kids to have the family they deserve! Idk

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
10th Apr '13

Has his behaviour only started to change after his fathers death?? It's no excuse to take it out on you but if he just lost his dad, maybe this is his grieving? He should get counselling, honestly.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
10th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *A&N's Mama*:</b>" Has his behaviour only started to change after his fathers death?? It's no excuse to take it out on you but if he just lost his dad, maybe this is his grieving? He should get counselling, honestly."</blockquote>




Yeah that's when it really started. His dad dies then he lost his job and within a few weeks we found out we were expecting it was a tough month, and now he's just an ass. But idk I guess I will try talking to him again and if he's not willing to change I think it's time to make a change!

************************* Chehalis, Washington 362 posts
10th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *A&N's Mama*:</b>" Has his behaviour only started to change ... [snip!] ... an ass. But idk I guess I will try talking to him again and if he's not willing to change I think it's time to make a change!"</blockquote>




Whoa whoa...holy hell...not to say him taking it out on you isn't wrong but give the guy a break...that's a TON to deal with. Losing your job is a lot to deal with, having a baby is a lot to deal with, burying a parent is beyond comprehension and he got thrown all 3 in a month? Cut him some slack, keep pushing for sounseling, but I think you need to be a little more understanding.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting amkcr8667810:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *A&N's ... [snip!] ... all 3 in a month? Cut him some slack, keep pushing for sounseling, but I think you need to be a little more understanding."


I know. I am trying but I think because of these pregnancy hormones I am so sensitive.

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting amkcr8667810:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *A&N's ... [snip!] ... all 3 in a month? Cut him some slack, keep pushing for sounseling, but I think you need to be a little more understanding."


Friggin smart phone!!!!! >:(



I totally agree with this, though. Or DH has been through a lot an I don't think it's fair of you to jump to divorce. What happened too "til death do us part" anyhow... I hope he doesn't consider bailing on you when find yourself in a similar situation

☠BryBry'sMuM☠ Due March 19 (girl); 1 child; Fullerton, California 15229 posts
10th Apr '13

has he always treated you like this or only since his father passed?