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New relationship Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
10th Apr '13

So my lovely adult friend (hahah it's not creepy, she's 30 and I'm 20, she has three kids and one of them is my child's ago so she's like my cool aunt who I occasionally drink beer with :P) were having a talk about my ex the other day. My ex and I have been sleeping together, and slowly getting back together. But yesterday he asked for space. So I cam to this conclusion. It is perfectly normal and healthy to want breathing room and space from this relationship, but do not use it as an excuse to use. WHat I need out of the relationship is pure honestly, I'm not asking for sobriety because I can't make you be sober, I'm just asking that you always be honest with me. Do you think that's a good thing to say to him?

Im watching you 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Adelaide, Australia 4985 posts
10th Apr '13

men tend to say what they want , and its up to the woman to hear it



now its up to you , do you want to keep going back to your ex or move on



dont let him make the decision , you have a voice , use it

user banned 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
10th Apr '13

what makes you want to work it out with someone addicted to drugs?



I'd wait for him to be completely sober before pursuing a relationship. imo

Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting Im watching you:" men tend to say what they want , and its up to the woman to hear it now its up to you , do you want ... [snip!] ... up to you , do you want to keep going back to your ex or move on dont let him make the decision , you have a voice , use it"


Well I gave him space all yesterday, but we're supposed to go to lunch today and I don't want to wait around to see if he calls. I want to know this morning if that's happening or not.

Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting ℳary ℐane:" what makes you want to work it out with someone addicted to drugs? I'd wait for him to be completely sober before pursuing a relationship. imo"


I love him. I'm not inlove with him but he is such a beautiful person. and it's so encouraging that he's getting clean.

Im watching you 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Adelaide, Australia 4985 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" Well I gave him space all yesterday, but we're supposed to go to lunch today and I don't want to wait around to see if he calls. I want to know this morning if that's happening or not."


ok so you are going to let him run the relationship



why wait for his call , if you made plans you have made plans , if you want to call and find out call and find out



whats the worse he could do , say he cancelled ,



i would start to do your own thing and not wait for a man to tell you whether or not you are in a relationship



and one day isn't space , lol

Im watching you 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Adelaide, Australia 4985 posts
10th Apr '13


Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" I love him. I'm not inlove with him but he is such a beautiful person. and it's so encouraging that he's getting clean."



you have just figured out what to do



why be with someone you are not in love with



time to move on