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How often are you having sex? hiljoys Michigan 83 posts
10th Apr '13

Hi!



Out of curiosity - how often are you having sex? Do you have to plan it or do you still have spontaneous, fun sex?



I have a 10 month old son, and I miss regular sex SO much. Ugh, it kills me. My husband basically refuses to have sex with the baby in the house (which is 99.9% of the time) - when my mom baby sits, we will come home and have sex instead of going out on a date and catching up with each other. It just sucks. I mean, I don't mind coming home to have sex, I just hate that it's every single time and it feels rushed and planned - And I'm getting awfully tired of planned out sex. I want him to come home and just.. violate me! haha.. or at least just go back to how it was. I mean, everything has changed in every other way.. sex should stay the same! :(



To answer my own question - we probably have sex twice a month.



Anyone else?

vaginaboob Due January 3; 1 child; Illinois 330 posts
10th Apr '13

Sex? What is that? I don't really remember...after my baby I lost my sex drive completely so mayyyybe...once or twice every few months.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
10th Apr '13

I don't have kids yet so I don't know if you were looking for my answer but maybe once or twice a month since I got pregnant.

nothing to see Due August 21; 2 kids; Japan 602 posts
10th Apr '13

we have a 3 year old and a 10 months old. I m also 21 week pregnant and we have sex everyday or every other day

user banned 17 kids; Boston, MA, United States 9473 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting JDeee:" Sex? What is that? I don't really remember...after my baby I lost my sex drive completely so mayyyybe...once or twice every few months."


this lol.

hiljoys Michigan 83 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting JDeee:" Sex? What is that? I don't really remember...after my baby I lost my sex drive completely so mayyyybe...once or twice every few months."


Aw :(



That sucks. I hope it comes back for you!
I sort of feel the "what is sex"? type a thing too.. sigh. I just feel like sex is a big part of a relationship, you know? It makes me feel close to my husband, and when we don't have it.. like ever (I've apparently got a higher sex drive than he does - and compared to our old sex lives) it just makes me sad.

J ♡ N + 1 2 kids; Kill Devil Hills, North Carolina 1159 posts
10th Apr '13

Usually Saturday night and Sunday night. He works 12+ hours a day... At night so I never see him. :( I'm lucky if I get it on the weekend. He's sick or I'm sick or I'm bleeding. Ugh.

hiljoys Michigan 83 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting nothing to see:" we have a 3 year old and a 10 months old. I m also 21 week pregnant and we have sex everyday or every other day


EVERY DAY?! Oh dear god, I want your sex life! lol

Faye's Mama 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 4559 posts
10th Apr '13

Between two and four times a month, a little less than once a week. Dh and I have some issues and I have a lack of sex drive.

LayLu 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
10th Apr '13

I want it every damn day but I'm lucky if I get it once a week. :(



SO has always had a very low sex drive and mine has always been crazy high, but recently it's getting to the point where I'm depressed.. I feel like he wants nothing to do with me, I feel like he thinks I'm gross because I'm 30 weeks pregnant and look like a beached whale. He's told me several times weight is not a factor (which I can believe, I've seen some of the girls he's been with).. but when I'm 30 weeks pregnant and already insecure about how I'm looking.. damn, at least try to make me feel sexy. But he doesn't. He'd just rather not have sex. And when I talk to him about it, it goes in one ear and out the other. No effort, he doesn't even try. He just listens to me and agrees with me and everything stays the same. :cry: :cry: :cry:

hiljoys Michigan 83 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting J ♡ N:" Usually Saturday night and Sunday night. He works 12+ hours a day... At night so I never see him. :( I'm lucky if I get it on the weekend. He's sick or I'm sick or I'm bleeding. Ugh."


I feel your pain. We usually plan for sunday when my son is at my mom's, but that's usually every other weekend. Maybe time will make things better.. this actually makes ME feel better that I'm not alone in the no-sex department.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting LayLu:" I want it every damn day but I'm lucky if I get it once a week. :( SO has always had a very low sex ... [snip!] ... No effort, he doesn't even try. He just listens to me and agrees with me and everything stays the same. :cry: :cry: :cry:"


I'm in the same boat. :[

someonesangel Due April 19; Kansas City, Kansas 213 posts
10th Apr '13

This will be my first baby but since I have been pregnant my SO and I still have sex pretty regularly when I'm not having a lot of pelvic pain. I know after I have the baby if my sex drive was still as high I would make the time for it. I don't think I could handle wanting to have it and getting turned down because of a baby in the house. I would at least think it could be doable when the baby is sleeping or even take a fast shower together.

Aura and Luna's Mommy 2 kids; Danville, Indiana 5805 posts
10th Apr '13

1-3x a month

hiljoys Michigan 83 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting LayLu:" I want it every damn day but I'm lucky if I get it once a week. :( SO has always had a very low sex ... [snip!] ... No effort, he doesn't even try. He just listens to me and agrees with me and everything stays the same. :cry: :cry: :cry:"


Ohhh, I totally understand. I really do. When I was pregnant, my husband would have sex with me up until I was about 25ish weeks? When I started to show a lot more, but anyway, I would try like every single day to have sex with him because my drive never slowed. He wanted nothing to do with it, and eventually it stopped completely.. I was really hurt by this too, and he finally told me that it made him feel weird that there was a baby in between us. I mean, I get that.. but it still hurt. I was still me! It's hard after baby too, because your body is trying to go back to normal and it just takes time. I gained about 60lbs with my son, so I had a lot of excess weight (still trying to lose 25) so it still makes me insecure/feel gross. I keep telling myself it just takes time. Time, time, time.. agh!