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Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting LayLu:" I wouldn't even mind just giving him a blowjob. I just wanna know I can still get his dick hard because ... [snip!] ... in ten weeks and then we're gonna have to go six weeks without any sex.. I at least want a few good runs before she gets here."


That's pretty much how my SO is. I have to wait for him to initiate it because most of the time when I try he just acts like I'm not even doing anything. He says he doesn't know why he's like that lately but that he promises I haven't done anything and it's not because I'm pregnant. I really dunno.

LayLu 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting That one chick.:" That's pretty much how my SO is. I have to wait for him to initiate it because most of the time when ... [snip!] ... know why he's like that lately but that he promises I haven't done anything and it's not because I'm pregnant. I really dunno."


Sounds exactly like my SO. He hardly ever initiates it.. and even when he does, he doesn't even bother trying to turn me on. He'll rub my crotch for two seconds then try to stick it in. Like seriously? Play with my b**bs, kiss me, do something! Touching my vag for two seconds isn't gonna get me wet just like me poking your dick won't get you hard. :roll: I'm really gonna try talking to him about it tonight, but I doubt it'll change anything. It's really hard for me to even think about this stuff without crying, so I know I'm gonna get all emotional when I talk to him. Maybe if he sees me crying and sees how much it upsets me he'll attempt to change something.. I doubt it though.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting LayLu:" Sounds exactly like my SO. He hardly ever initiates it.. and even when he does, he doesn't even bother ... [snip!] ... I talk to him. Maybe if he sees me crying and sees how much it upsets me he'll attempt to change something.. I doubt it though."


I've cried about it before too and he just says he doesn't know what to do. At least when my SO initiates it he actually tries. I would be so sad :[

LayLu 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting That one chick.:" I've cried about it before too and he just says he doesn't know what to do. At least when my SO initiates it he actually tries. I would be so sad :["


I've tried explaining to him.. maybe he doesn't want it because we don't have fun sex anymore. It's always so damn boring. Maybe if he put in a little effort he'd want it more, or maybe if he made me think he wanted me I'd put in more effort and he'd want it. But no.. instead we have boring old people sex. It's always right before bed, on a weekend, and it lasts about five minutes. It's sad because I've been fantasizing about f**king him on the couch for like two months now.. and that doesn't even sound very exciting, but because our sex life is so damn boring.. it sounds exciting to me. I've tried initiating it and nothing happened. :cry:
Luckily for him, I'm not a cheater or I'd go get it somewhere else.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting LayLu:" I've tried explaining to him.. maybe he doesn't want it because we don't have fun sex anymore. It's ... [snip!] ... to me. I've tried initiating it and nothing happened. :cry: Luckily for him, I'm not a cheater or I'd go get it somewhere else."


I honestly believe it'll get better! I think it subconsciously it DOES have something to do with us being pregnant. Like, some kind of instinct turning his sex drive off because he already got you pregnant and now he is just being the provider and not "spreading his seed". It's a long shot but me and my boyfriend think that MIGHT be what's going on.

LayLu 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting That one chick.:" I honestly believe it'll get better! I think it subconsciously it DOES have something to do with us ... [snip!] ... being the provider and not "spreading his seed". It's a long shot but me and my boyfriend think that MIGHT be what's going on."


Ugh, I dunno. Maybe. It makes me so sad just thinking about it. He's never had a very high sex drive.. but before I knew if I came on to him I'd at least get something out of it. Now.. I feel like I could strip down and climb on top of him and he'd be like, "Not now.." :? It sucks because in all of my previous relationships they've all wanted me. They'd throw fits if we didn't have sex. Now.. sex is barely a part of my life and I can't stand it. I start getting insecure and wondering if it's something I'm doing wrong, then I start wondering what if he goes off and gets it from someone else, and my thoughts just spiral out of control. I trust him and I love him, and I know he loves me, but our lack of a sex life is making me think all this nonsense and I'm driving myself crazy and running myself into the ground.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting LayLu:" Ugh, I dunno. Maybe. It makes me so sad just thinking about it. He's never had a very high sex drive.. ... [snip!] ... our lack of a sex life is making me think all this nonsense and I'm driving myself crazy and running myself into the ground."


:/ I'm sorry. That really sucks.

*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
10th Apr '13

Twice a day! Or once. But mostly twice. With a 11, and 5 month year old.

Bump 1 child; Norman, Oklahoma 478 posts
10th Apr '13

Mine ranges, sometimes we go on an everyday streak & sometimes we can only get it in every other day. If we go too long without he stresses out about it lol