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Going with adoption? HighHeels Due September 21; 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 23443 posts
10th Apr '13

Who went with adoption? How was the adoption process (the papers and stuff)? How were you feeling after you had your baby? Sorry for so many questions,I have decided to give my baby up for adoption and want to know your experience. Yes,it was our decision to have unprotected sex,but I'm not financially or mentally ready for another baby..as much as I want another one,I can't right now. I'm afraid the only thing I'll feel after its all done is depression :/ But,I know the baby will have a better life with someone that is financially ready for a baby. My BFF's cousin and husband have been trying for three years and no luck,I told my friend I've been thinking of adoption and she told her cousin :) and it went from there.....and strangely,a year or two back I had a dream that I was pregnant and gave her the baby o.o

.:Lady SCARcastic:. 1 child; California 9124 posts
10th Apr '13

I didn't but I believe it is a wonderfully selfless act! Maybe an open adoption would be best for you since you're worried about being depressed. Knowing the people already and knowing their story I'm sure would make you feel even better about it. You would be giving them a gift that they've wanted for over 3 years.. thats amazing :)

HighHeels Due September 21; 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 23443 posts
10th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .:Lady SCARcastic:.:</b>" I didn't but I believe it is a wonderfully selfless act! Maybe an open adoption would be best for you ... [snip!] ... make you feel even better about it. You would be giving them a gift that they've wanted for over 3 years.. thats amazing :)"</blockquote>



:D thank you,for being positive. They said they would do an open adoption and that they wouldn't mind.

user banned Colorado 21030 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs.R =):" Who went with adoption? How was the adoption process (the papers and stuff)? How were you feeling after ... [snip!] ... :) and it went from there.....and strangely,a year or two back I had a dream that I was pregnant and gave her the baby o.o"


don't do it.
it sucked. still sucks. yesterday was my 9 year anniversary.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
10th Apr '13

I haven't gone through this, but I will link you to someone on here who has, and I'll link her to your post. She'll help you out and be real about how she felt.

MamaMia_38wks Due August 14 (boy); Newark, Delaware 677 posts
10th Apr '13

I am in no way financially stable let alone mentally stable & I could NEVER give my baby up . I give soooo many props to ladies who can do it & be strong ! You are doing something amazing for someone !!!

HighHeels Due September 21; 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 23443 posts
10th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ darah ♥:</b>" don't do it. it sucked. still sucks. yesterday was my 9 year anniversary."</blockquote>




I don't want to,but I'd rather this baby have a good life,rather than my son,the baby and I struggle.

HighHeels Due September 21; 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 23443 posts
10th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" I haven't gone through this, but I will link you to someone on here who has, and I'll link her to your post. She'll help you out and be real about how she felt."</blockquote>



:) thank you.

user banned Colorado 21030 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs.R =):" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ darah ♥:</b>" don't do it. it sucked. still ... [snip!] ... I don't want to,but I'd rather this baby have a good life,rather than my son,the baby and I struggle."


that's a part of life. i regret it and i recommend all women stay away from adoption. it's a scam. human-trafficking with a cute name baqsically, where the mother gets nothing out of it.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs.R =):" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" I haven't gone through this, but ... [snip!] ... who has, and I'll link her to your post. She'll help you out and be real about how she felt."</blockquote> :) thank you."


http://members.baby-gaga.com/member4922



I PM'd her a link to this post, too.

orchidlovingmama 2 kids; Santa Rosa, California 1769 posts
10th Apr '13

Sorry I havent been through this myself but I just wanted to comment and say how much I resprct your decision. You are truly putting the baby before yourself and this is sn act of true love. Its so wonderfiil that you eill be able to bless these peoople lives as well and imagine how wonderful the Childs life will be with parents whose world will revolve around him/her.

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" that's a part of life. i regret it and i recommend all women stay away from adoption. it's a scam. human-trafficking with a cute name baqsically, where the mother gets nothing out of it."



Pretty much.

.:Lady SCARcastic:. 1 child; California 9124 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" that's a part of life. i regret it and i recommend all women stay away from adoption. it's a scam. human-trafficking with a cute name baqsically, where the mother gets nothing out of it."


Is the mother supposed to get something out of it? You carried a life and then chose to give it to someone else for the betterment of the child (in most situations).. Its the biological mother's choice (again, in most circumstances - many times minors believe they aren't given a choice depending on their parents).. As far as I know, no one can force a well to do mother to give her baby up for adoption.. but in my eyes, the ones who chose a better life for their child because they know they can't do as good as someone else is completely selfless, you're putting the child's wellbeing and possibly happiness ahead of your own. No one ever said its easy..

HighHeels Due September 21; 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 23443 posts
10th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ darah ♥:</b>" that's a part of life. i regret it and i recommend all women stay away from adoption. it's a scam. human-trafficking with a cute name baqsically, where the mother gets nothing out of it."</blockquote>




I'm not going to put someone thru any sort of struggle,I'm thinking of what's best for myself and the baby. I personally know the couple,they have a house and vehicles and have the money to support a child. As much as I want another child,I can not right now.

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting .:Lady SCARcastic:.:" Is the mother supposed to get something out of it? You carried a life and then chose to give it to someone ... [snip!] ... selfless, you're putting the child's wellbeing and possibly happiness ahead of your own. No one ever said its easy.. "


Sure, some money and maybe some pictures. You're pretty much selling a child.