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Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
20th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Aussielover:</b>" The cells that




You have so much left to learn..

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
20th Apr '13

Damn it I missed stuff apparently.



Abortion is not equivalent to murder. And with the previous post you posted, maybe you don't need to keep your baby. A hold should never be raised simply because you're "taking actions for a mistake" a child needs to be loved & properly taken care of. If you just feel like you're having your baby because you made a mistake and ended up pregnant then I feel you shouldn't be having it. JMO.

linsα most, CZ, Czech Republic 30008 posts
20th Apr '13
Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" Damn it I missed stuff apparently. Abortion is not equivalent to murder. And with the previous post ... [snip!] ... feel like you're having your baby because you made a mistake and ended up pregnant then I feel you shouldn't be having it. JMO."


Damn, that is a brilliant point.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
20th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:</b>" Damn it I missed stuff apparently. Abortion is not equivalent to murder. And with the previous post ... [snip!] ... feel like you're having your baby because you made a mistake and ended up pregnant then I feel you shouldn't be having it. JMO."</blockquote>



Ding ding ding.




Raising a child shouldn't be seen as a consequence. It should be an honor to be a mom, and if you do feel like it's your "punishment" you SHOULD be considering your options.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
21st Apr '13

I feel bad for children who are born because their mother has the mindset of "I had sex so I have to deal with the consequences". Children should be born because they're wanted.

Rob's Living Dead Girl Royersford, Pennsylvania 3256 posts
21st Apr '13

I think when a pregnant woman says "taking responsibility for one's actions" it most likely doesn't mean that she sees the baby as a consequence, more of the situation being the consequence. An unwanted pregnancy being the end result of her having sex, not necessarily the baby. I can only guess though, I'll admit that. :/

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
21st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rob's Living Dead Girl:</b>" I think when a pregnant woman says "taking responsibility for one's actions" it most likely doesn't mean ... [snip!] ... pregnancy being the end result of her having sex, not necessarily the baby. I can only guess though, I'll admit that. :/"</blockquote>




Personally I feel that an unwanted pregnancy is the result of an unwanted baby.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rob's Living Dead Girl:</b>" I think when a pregnant woman says ... [snip!] ... I'll admit that. :/"</blockquote> Personally I feel that an unwanted pregnancy is the result of an unwanted baby."


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there's a significant difference in an unplanned pregnancy and an unwanted pregnancy.

Rob's Living Dead Girl Royersford, Pennsylvania 3256 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Destiel:" :!::!::!::!::!::!::!: there's a significant difference in an unplanned pregnancy and an unwanted pregnancy."

But don't unplanned pregnancies start out as unwanted seeing they weren't intentionally achieved? Yes, a baby does come out of an unwanted pregnancy. But that won't always deem the baby as unwanted.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Rob's Living Dead Girl:" But don't unplanned pregnancies start out as unwanted seeing they weren't intentionally achieved? Yes, a baby does come out of an unwanted pregnancy. But that won't always deem the baby as unwanted."


No my son was unplanned ... in no way was he ever unwanted.

Rob's Living Dead Girl Royersford, Pennsylvania 3256 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Destiel:" No my son was unplanned ... in no way was he ever unwanted."

That's my point, though.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
22nd Apr '13

My point is that your first answer to why you kept the pregnancy should not be "Because I have to deal with the consequences of my actions."



You think women who get abortions are cruel? Telling someone your primary reason to have your child is because your viewing your pregnancy and thus child as a "consequence" is even worse. :?



Honestly, I hate being born to a prolife mother. What I've endured at the hands of a woman who had me merely because she had to is not what I'd wish on any child.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Rob's Living Dead Girl:" That's my point, though."


what? I can assure you that women that have an unwanted pregnancy feel very differently than I did when I say the pregnancy test with my unplanned son.

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
22nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" No my son was unplanned ... in no way was he ever unwanted."</blockquote>




Both of my children were unplanned, but they were never unwanted. Had I not wanted them, I would have had an abortion instead of not wanting them and raising the kid simply because my birth control fail (first son).

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Aussielover:" I'm 17 and keeping my baby. I have help but it is proof that other girls can do it to. I won't make someone ... [snip!] ... make someone else pay for my mistakes. That is childish. I am making the right choice by being responsible for my actions."


Parenting might be the right choice for YOU. That doesn't mean abortion is wrong, and certainly not childish. It is damn sure one of the most adult decisions that anyone could ever face. It's not irresponsible either... irresponsible is assuming that every pregnancy should result in a live birth, with a child that is not wanted, that will NOT be properly taken care of. And don't even start in with "adoption"... there are enough kids in the system, being moved from home to home... and guess what?? they're not being "PROPERLY CARED FOR" either. Quality of life trumps all. You are not pro-life, honey... you are pro- birth. So.... are you are willing to take care of all of those potentially aborted fetuses?? No. Didn't think so. Don't judge then.