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WWYD? s00nt0be04 4 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 543 posts
10th Apr '13

Thanks in advance for any suggestions/input.



DH started managing a new warehouse (this was just suppose to be temp) since he starts his other job in the 2nd week of May. Well, yesterday they told DH they would like him to stay there full time and take the manager/trainer position, but they would need him to put in the hours. LO is set to be here on the 30th. So, we haven't officially talked about it but I still don't know what would be best. DH asked if I would mind him going to work (6:30 am - 3 pm *if no overtime*) while I am staying in the hospital. I told him I wasn't sure yet I needed to clearly think about it. I have always had DH with me while at every hospital stay (there was a few times when he was in the Marine Corp where it just wasn't possible but other than that he had always been there day and night with our previous children). At first I was thinking ok day of surgery and after since my mother would be there during the day and I'd have her help to shower if needed or wait till DH got back to the hospital. But then I was thinking the day I get discharged so should he be take the day of and day me getting discharged off or what? I am just lost right now I know he wants this job but they knew he was going to have a kid at the end of this month from the beginning.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
10th Apr '13

I can understand wanting him there for the birth, but if this job is what's best for his career he should do it. My last 2 births DH was working and we couldn't afford for him to take off of work. I actually enjoyed the alone time to bond with the new baby before going home to 'real life' lol.

s00nt0be04 4 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 543 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting Lady GooGoo
misanthrope 2 kids; Ramona, California 15431 posts
10th Apr '13

I would want him to take the job. It's the responsible thing to do.

s00nt0be04 4 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 543 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting misanthrope:" I would want him to take the job. It's the responsible thing to do. "


True. Plus, the pay is and will be way better than other place that was offering him a position.

misanthrope 2 kids; Ramona, California 15431 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting s00nt0be04:" True. Plus, the pay is and will be way better than other place that was offering him a position. "


And the hours seem great. He will have a lot of time at home after work to bond with the baby. I know the thought of being alone in the hospital can seem scary, but it's really not bad. Like the other momma said I enjoyed my alone time in the hospital. Best of luck with everything.

CountryMommy 18 kids; Marshall, Texas 4537 posts
10th Apr '13

I would say stay at the place. Also there is such a thing as family leave act, where they would have to let him off and hold his position(I think not sure on all the ends and outs of it)