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have bf but i like someone else.. help -ChElSeY- 17 kids; Ontario 105 posts
10th Apr '13

so i have been with BD for 3 years and i love him. he's just really immature. i feel like his mom half the time which is sad since he's a year older than me.. :/ hes not here all week hes at school. i have told him multiple times that i want more attention from him. he hardly talks to me all week. then when hes here i have to fight with his stupid hockey stats for attention. so i started looking for attention elsewhere on this social website. im talking to this guy and im starting to really like him. i know its bad and my bf doesnt know. i have thought about breaking up with him several times cause sometimes hes just an ass and a child. but we have a one year old baby girl and i really love him. i just feel like im waiting for him to grow up.(ex. i asked him not to stare at girls cause i caught him once, looking is okay but when you follow slutty girls across a room it makes me feel like shit. anyway he thinks that im putting rules on him.) he can be a douche. he can be very sweet too although those occasions are rare. he usually only does something cute when he's horny. i have thought about us taking a break until he grows up, but i just cant. i feel like if he could just be mature then we'd be perfect together... and yet this new guy has got me so confused. i havent felt this way since i met my bf. so im confused as f**k please help

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 63810 posts
10th Apr '13

You're mad that he's at school all week and doesn't give you enough attention? Frankly, you sound immature. Do you life with your bf? If so, where are you planning on going if you break up with him for this other dude?

♥MamaToSilas♥ 1 child; Illinois 9242 posts
status 10th Apr '13

Im sorry but you sound immature.. hes busy with school. Give the dude a break. And if you arent happy in the relationship then dont be in it. And clearly you arent happy because you are intimately talking to someone else. You are starting to like this guy which means you are emotionally cheating on your boyfriend.

-ChElSeY- 17 kids; Ontario 105 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting Squeaky McGee [24 wks]:" You're mad that he's at school all week and doesn't give you enough attention? Frankly, you sound immature. ... [snip!] ... sound immature. Do you life with your bf? If so, where are you planning on going if you break up with him for this other dude?"


thanks? we still live with our parents. he stays at school all week then on weekends we go back and forth with the baby.

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 63810 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting -ChElSeY-:" thanks? we still live with our parents. he stays at school all week then on weekends we go back and forth with the baby."


If you're not happy, then move on. But take it from someone who has been there, done that... when you start a relationship while in a relationship, it usually doesn't work out.

♥Hippie Momma♥ Due July 3; 1 child; Colorado 570 posts
10th Apr '13

Honestly i think you sound immature. Hes going to school which means hes attemping to better himself and he obvisiously want to be in his childs life.... how is that HIM being immature?

-ChElSeY- 17 kids; Ontario 105 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting ♥MamaToSilas♥:" Im sorry but you sound immature.. hes busy with school. Give the dude a break. And if you arent happy ... [snip!] ... talking to someone else. You are starting to like this guy which means you are emotionally cheating on your boyfriend."


im 19. ive given up a lot of my freedom to be a good parent. does he not have to do the same?

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 63810 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting -ChElSeY-:" im 19. ive given up a lot of my freedom to be a good parent. does he not have to do the same?"


He's going to college to better himself. How is that not a sacrifice? :?

[Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker] 18 kids; noneya, TN, United States 3245 posts
10th Apr '13

The adult thing to do would be figure out your issues with him and whatever end result that entials. instead of intentionally seeking out another dude online to talk to. That is all kinds of fucked up. Imagine how you would feel if he did the same to you...

ashleeoh Due August 10; 1 child; Tucson, Arizona 2550 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting -ChElSeY-:" im 19. ive given up a lot of my freedom to be a good parent. does he not have to do the same?"


He is bettering himself by going to school. That is a very mature decision. Going on websites to try and find new guys while you are still with him is immature. He is going to school while being a dad and balancing a relationship, that sounds like a pretty stressful handful for a young adult, or anyone for that matter.

-ChElSeY- 17 kids; Ontario 105 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting ♥Hippie Momma♥:" Honestly i think you sound immature. Hes going to school which means hes attemping to better himself and he obvisiously want to be in his childs life.... how is that HIM being immature?"


its not him going to school. its how he acts when hes here. ex. the night he was suppose to come home late because he had a late class and he was going to just stay at his house for the night and i was going to let him sleep in. he didnt tell me that his class got cancelled and he went out drinking with his friends.. :/ i found out the next day

♥MamaToSilas♥ 1 child; Illinois 9242 posts
status 10th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -ChElSeY-:</b>" im 19. ive given up a lot of my freedom to be a good parent. does he not have to do the same?"</blockquote>




Hes going to school and bettering himself. That is a good parent.

-ChElSeY- 17 kids; Ontario 105 posts
10th Apr '13

thanks for the criticism ladies

-ChElSeY- 17 kids; Ontario 105 posts
10th Apr '13
Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:" The adult thing to do would be figure out your issues with him and whatever end result that entials. ... [snip!] ... out another dude online to talk to. That is all kinds of fucked up. Imagine how you would feel if he did the same to you..."


he has.. :/

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
10th Apr '13

Relationships take work and dedication. If you want them to work out you have to put up with them not always being fun and awesome. At the beginning things seem perfect and everything your significant other does will make you happy but EVERY relationship gets to a point where realty sets in and its not all rainbows and butterflies any more. Starting a new relationship might make you happy for a while until that relationship hits a reality check, then what? On to the next until it too isn't fun any more? It sounds like you need to realize that in a grown up relationship with responsibilities and children there isn't always a whole lot of time for each other and some times you just have to deal with that.