Quoting Addi's Momma:" He sounds like he wants to have a single life but still get the persk of being married also. I would leave him and file for child support. He will probably never change."
My feelings exactly. He did cheat on me when my second son was 2 months. But i didnt find out until i had moved out already. I gave him a second chance, i believed in having a family for my kids. He gets nasty when i mention getting a separation and divorced. He tells me he will quit his other job so that i cant get that much child support and that he will fight to have one of the kids. Its not fair i get to have them both..ect...either way its a nasty situation.
Quoting Susie **Jayden & Jacob's :" He tells me the only solution right now is for me and the kids to moved back. I told him there's no ... [snip!] ... even feel like he wants it either. Idk I guess I just need to be alone for right now and do the best i can to do it on my own. "
If you're going to do it alone, do it alone, not with a shitty non-existent husband.
Quoting Susie **Jayden & Jacob's :" My feelings exactly. He did cheat on me when my second son was 2 months. But i didnt find out until ... [snip!] ... and that he will fight to have one of the kids. Its not fair i get to have them both..ect...either way its a nasty situation."
Sounds like a piece of shit.
Cheated on you, didn't tell you until you weren't living together, and instead of providing for his family now, he provides only for himself, and threatens to not provide anything for the children he created if you leave him, even though he refuses to be with you.
Divorce him. One day you will find someone who actually does care about you and your children.
Quoting Red Bottom:" Stop blaming his parents, he's responsible for his actions. You have two kids, unless you're working ... [snip!] ... are up, the economy is up, you NEED to be independent because I can bet you that you will not be married to this man forever. "
Your right I need to put my share in. I dont mind working, but i must say that i feel so attached to my children. I need to be responsible and get a job. I go on interviews and im putting my share just not getting the jobs. Its just hard on me he's never around to help me out with the kids so i can job search, filled out job applications and take care of them when i have interviews. I guess i would just want someone there to support me.
Yes, i know ultimately its his decisions not his parents. Unfortunately, my husband is very pessimistic about everything.
We just argue about today and he said just wait and see with gods will everything will workout. Hmmmm its been 6 months.
Quoting Susie **Jayden & Jacob's :" Your right I need to put my share in. I dont mind working, but i must say that i feel so attached to ... [snip!] ... We just argue about today and he said just wait and see with gods will everything will workout. Hmmmm its been 6 months. "
God granted free will, so stop expecting him to solve your problems. You have to solve your problems.
You both decided you'd be going to school so you need to be going to school. You both decided to have two kids, so now you have to weigh whether or not you'd be losing money if you worked at this point. If you don't have your degree, the chances of you getting a job worth having and paying for child care over, is slim to none. You are contributing by taking care of HIS and your children.
He is not being a husband, which he signed up to do when he married you.
He is not being a father, which he signed up to do when he impregnated you twice. Money does not make someone a father.
He's only worrying about himself. Which he proved when he told you to either deal with his shitty behavior or he will quit his job and fuck his kids over.
He doesn't care about you or your kids. And you need to stop just being okay with it. Have some self respect and stand up for yourself and your kids.
It's easy to be pissed about it, but DO something about it.