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Minion Due September 30; 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 19972 posts
status 11th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:</b>" Damn. I'm the kind of person who would feel the need to talk to her and try to figure out WHY she did ... [snip!] ... instead, so maybe not a great idea. Hopefully whoever she said it to knows you well enough to know she was talking out her ass"</blockquote>




Oh yeah. She told my other best friend about it. The way it came up was Sheena and I (the good best friend) went out shopping for my wedding today and I asked about their dresses. Sheena said that she has bought hers already and is waiting for it in the mail, but Joy was talking about she didn't even know if she was going to buy a dress and if she did it would be the day of the wedding because she honestly didn't think SO will ever marry me and I'm an idiot if I think he is. And I aske her what else does she say and Sheena told me a bunch of things. She also said I'm pathetic because SO bought me a brand new car and an IPhone and how I called everyone when I got them going "look what he got me!!" And how I think I'm hot shit because I moved out of the projects and into SO's house. (It's a fairly nice house), and I think I'm the shit and all that.
And just a bunch of shit like that along with what I mentioned in the OP.



I told SO and he said it sounds like she's jealous. She lives in the projects, has a crappy car, is obsessed with her BD who I sleeping with everyone behind her back and she knows it and he's told her he will never marry her. :?



I don't know what to think. Yeah I've bettered myself in the last year, but I don't think I'm anything special.

Elle With FOUR! 4 kids; Wichita, KS, United States 18964 posts
11th Apr '13
Quoting Minion:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:</b>" Damn. I'm the kind of person who would ... [snip!] ... marry her. :? I don't know what to think. Yeah I've bettered myself in the last year, but I don't think I'm anything special."


Sounds like a CLASSIC case of jealousy to me hon. Never feel bad for doing what's good for you and your family - sounds like you've made some improvements she won't be making any time soon.

Minion Due September 30; 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 19972 posts
status 11th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elle With Three &1/2:</b>" Sounds like a CLASSIC case of jealousy to me hon. Never feel bad for doing what's good for you and your family - sounds like you've made some improvements she won't be making any time soon."</blockquote>



Thank you!

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 19708 posts
11th Apr '13
Quoting Elle With Three &1/2:" Sounds like a CLASSIC case of jealousy to me hon. Never feel bad for doing what's good for you and your family - sounds like you've made some improvements she won't be making any time soon."


That's what I was going to say. NEVER feel bad about making changes in your life for the better. You moved up in the world, and she's just pissed off that she hasn't yet. However...this does raise a question. Are you still expecting her to be in the wedding? Or what? Because unless you tell her otherwise beforehand, it could get kind of weird closer to the date. But good for you, and congrats TO you, for making such positive changes.

Minion Due September 30; 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 19972 posts
status 11th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:</b>" That's what I was going to say. NEVER feel bad about making changes in your life for the better. You ... [snip!] ... it could get kind of weird closer to the date. But good for you, and congrats TO you, for making such positive changes."</blockquote>




No. She's no longer in the wedding.
I'm not sure how to tell her without drama though.
My friend Sheena and I talked a long time about this today while we were out. Joy has said a bunch of shitty things to me about Sheena as well and we both decided we're about done with her.

Elle With FOUR! 4 kids; Wichita, KS, United States 18964 posts
11th Apr '13
Quoting Minion:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:</b>" That's what I was going to say. NEVER ... [snip!] ... we were out. Joy has said a bunch of shitty things to me about Sheena as well and we both decided we're about done with her."


Usually I'd caution against doing this kind of thing in a text, because of the lack of tact. However, since tact obviously doesn't mean shit to this b***h, just shoot her a text saying you heard what she's been saying and there's no room in your life for that kind of thing. You deserve to have people in your life who are happy for you!

Minion Due September 30; 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 19972 posts
status 11th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elle With Three &1/2:</b>" Usually I'd caution against doing this kind of thing in a text, because of the lack of tact. However, ... [snip!] ... saying and there's no room in your life for that kind of thing. You deserve to have people in your life who are happy for you!"</blockquote>




Thank you! I will do that!