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iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
11th Apr '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" Well the wife seeing all that shit isn't doing herself any favors. She should delete the husband to ... [snip!] ... his wife or gf for me I would have been thankful that I got the spend my life with him. Even if it sucked for someone else."


Oh she has deleted him, well both of them. This is just coming from common friends that think they're helping by telling her what's going on. Like their stuff (husband and side girl) is all public and they're uploading pics of them together like it's no one's business. I totally agree with the fact that there's 2 sides of the story, I was just baffled at how many are agreeing with it (and not in defending her).

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
11th Apr '13

I could not remain friends with someone like that. Integrity, class and decency are characteristics I require from my relationships.

user banned California 8675 posts
11th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:</b>" And I'm also glad the a*****e got a huge tat of my friend's name on his arm. :lol:"</blockquote>




You know what that is dumb to even say that. You as a friend need to be the better person and not talk so much shit about him. That isnt doing her any good.

DJ Tanner 1 child; 5008 posts
11th Apr '13

My mother had an affair when I was 10 with a teacher I had at school. They ended up getting married, but I still have issues with it because he lied to everyone about it. Her family told me they didn't care about my dad as long as my mom was happy. I couldn't be friends with the girlfriend at all. I would call her out. As far as the wife, the best advice I can give is when she files put adultery as the reason because our family court bases visitation on the reason and if he's been out of the infants life for another woman, they will frown upon that!

JΔS Georgia 72400 posts
status 11th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" The more I think about it the more I realize that something like this would break up my friendship with ... [snip!] ... I ever trust her with my OWN husband, ya know? I mean... obviously it takes two, but it's just not something I could condone. "</blockquote>




I agree. I only have two true blue friends. We have been best friends for over 15 years, they are both like my sisters. I don't care if its "not my business", they would be hearing my mouth if they ever pulled some low class shit like that. That's just how we are. When you have friends that you've known for that long, to an extent, there is no such hing as staying out of eachother's business.

Queen Aries Baby 1 child; Orlando, Florida 12052 posts
11th Apr '13

id have to stay out of it. i once dated a man whose wife left him it was hell. even though it was a secret. lesson learned its not cool to either party

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
11th Apr '13
Quoting laura+2.5:" <blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:</b>" My friend is the wife. And her ... [snip!] ... :( poor thing. Just be supportive as much as you can. Maybe suggest she clean up her friends list or temporarily deactivate fb?"


Yeah she did, I don't think she's looking at their stuff. I just happened to find it because, well, they're not hiding it. It's a big c*********k because here everyone knows everybody. My friend is not involving herself with any of it though. She's smart and mature and she knows her responsibilities are with her children.



I was just so...surprised at how many people are supportive of the other girl and making it known, knowing that he's still married and he literally just left them out of nowhere.

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
11th Apr '13
Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" The more I think about it the ... [snip!] ... could condone. "</blockquote> I agree but I think the wife if the friend not the gf please correct me if I am wrong."


Yeah, OP is friends with the wife, but I was answering the hypothetical question about if your friend got together with a married man. :D

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
11th Apr '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" The more I think about it the ... [snip!] ... you have friends that you've known for that long, to an extent, there is no such hing as staying out of eachother's business."

This is exactly how I feel. If I told my friend there was nothing wrong with what she was doing, I would be failing as a friend.

user banned California 8675 posts
11th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" Yeah, OP is friends with the wife, but I was answering the hypothetical question about if your friend got together with a married man. :D"</blockquote>




Oh lol but I still totally agree with what you said earlier.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
11th Apr '13
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" This is exactly how I feel. If I told my friend there was nothing wrong with what she was doing, I would be failing as a friend."


:!:



I couldn't feel ok with myself if I defended her behavior.

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
11th Apr '13
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" This is exactly how I feel. If I told my friend there was nothing wrong with what she was doing, I would be failing as a friend."


In my head, I'm thinking about my best friend, here, and yeah, I totally agree with that.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
11th Apr '13
Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:</b>" And I'm also glad the a*****e ... [snip!] ... even say that. You as a friend need to be the better person and not talk so much shit about him. That isnt doing her any good."


ok, that's nice and all...but I'm saying this here. I'm not saying this to my friend. I'm not going to help my friend by talking shit to her about her POS husband, she already knows that. I'm helping her by listening. This is just a thought I'm writing on this forum...so if you think it's dumb, that's cool.

laura+3.0 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 14725 posts
11th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:</b>" Yeah she did, I don't think she's looking at their stuff. I just happened to find it because, well, ... [snip!] ... of the other girl and making it known, knowing that he's still married and he literally just left them out of nowhere."</blockquote>




Yeah, we live in a small town too so I know how that goes. SOs mom refers to the town as a fish bowl because everyone knows everyone and runs their mouths. That definitely makes things a little harder for her, so sad.



I'm sure there are people who don't agree but don't publicly post their opinion. Especially her friends, they aren't going to bash her for everyone to see. :/

BooBee 2 kids; Virginia 1598 posts
11th Apr '13

Be suppportive? No, absolutely not.
But i would remove myself from that friendship entirely and mind my own business.