Thanks for the replies ladies.
SO and I just joked about eloping and inviting just the parents (including his moms husband).........His mom is very low income, my parents are very low income, but his dad and new wife are well off.
So only two of them would make it and they could be our witness and ditch our kids on them. lmfao.
We got some shit for eloping but it was well worth it. Saved money,time, and the hassle of feeling like we had to cater to other people.
Almost two months later, no one has an issue anymore.