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mama bear mentality? luvryans3 3 kids; Japan 51 posts
Apr 11th '13

Ok if your children's father had a new girlfriend that u didn't know about until your child told you but this girlfriend doesn't want to meet and expressed that but is around your kids would you feel suspicious? How would you take that?

Preggo Bear Claw Due May 3 (boy); 64 kids; Firestone Park, CA, United States 691 posts
Apr 11th '13

I wouldn't be too happy, but if she doesn't want to meet there isn't much you can do without flaring up drama, so long as your LO isn't reporting anything bad or mistreatment - let it be .... She might come around ....

The Pretender Due May 5; 2 kids; Brazil 1232 posts
Apr 11th '13

I wouldn't be suspicious per-say... but I'd think they were probably just really immature and if they were going to be with my kids then I would insist on meeting them.



If they can't give me the courtesy of meeting me face to face then they have no business playing house with my kiddos.

nothingness Arizona 3578 posts
Apr 11th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting luvryans3:</b>" Ok if your children's father had a new girlfriend that u didn't know about until your child told you ... [snip!] ... girlfriend doesn't want to meet and expressed that but is around your kids would you feel suspicious? How would you take that?"</blockquote>




My child would not be around her. Period. And the BD is in big trouble also.

luvryans3 3 kids; Japan 51 posts
Apr 11th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Preggo Bear Claw:</b>" I wouldn't be too happy, but if she doesn't want to meet there isn't much you can do without flaring ... [snip!] ... flaring up drama, so long as your LO isn't reporting anything bad or mistreatment - let it be .... She might come around ...."</blockquote>




She accidentally spilled the beans. I don't think she meant to talk about her but she was telling me a story about the girl's daughter.

Preggo Bear Claw Due May 3 (boy); 64 kids; Firestone Park, CA, United States 691 posts
Apr 11th '13

Is there any particular reason she might not wanna meet? I'd be really upset if my child accidentally mentioned her because that might mean her dad or g/f are teaching the child to keep secrets ... Not cool, confront them and offer a lunch date; if they say no - visitation should cease until further notice ...

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
Apr 12th '13

Some men don't cause they don't want hear the drama of " well my child better not be around her blah blah blah ..I would just call him up and ask to meet her. My ex tells me about his girl friends. It don't bother me, thing is if any of them are rude to our daughter he kicks them to the curb. It has only happen once.

luvryans3 3 kids; Japan 51 posts
Apr 12th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Preggo Bear Claw:</b>" Is there any particular reason she might not wanna meet? I'd be really upset if my child accidentally ... [snip!] ... secrets ... Not cool, confront them and offer a lunch date; if they say no - visitation should cease until further notice ..."</blockquote>




No idea that's y I was suspicious.

luvryans3 3 kids; Japan 51 posts
Apr 12th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:</b>" Some men don't cause they don't want hear the drama of " well my child better not be around her blah ... [snip!] ... It don't bother me, thing is if any of them are rude to our daughter he kicks them to the curb. It has only happen once."</blockquote>




That's the thing. She said she's not ready to meet.

callme_algae Delray Beach, Florida 4 posts
Apr 12th '13

I don't think will feel suspicious

♥ laura-marie + 1 1 child; Stalybridge, United Kingdom 1341 posts
Apr 12th '13

If me and my bf broke up and he got a new girlfriend I know he wouldn't introduce them for a while because he waited to introduce me to his eldest son when we got together which is good.
I'd have to know about her and I'd probably want to talk to her to make sure she isn't mental haha

LittleBear's mama 3 kids; Ontario 480 posts
Apr 12th '13

I am sort of in the same situation. I know my ex has been dating someone, he quickly introduced me to her. Now I would like a meeting with the ex, the new girl me and my dh to discuss things concerning the kids. She is staying over there pretty much every weekend, which is fine, but some ground rules do need to be laid out. My ex already encourages the kids not to say anything about what they do on the weekends over at their dads place (soooo wrong, encouraging them to keep secrets), and she needs to be made aware of their medical stuff (my ex likes to 'forget' to give them their meds), and she needs to understand the terms of the ex and i divorce agreement. Whenever I ask to get together he says he isnt sure when she is coming to town again...then I find out she was in town all weekend with her daughter.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
Apr 12th '13

i would be kind of upset but i would give her a few weeks. maybe she is still adjusting to a new bf and kids on top of it. i wouldnt expect her to be comfortable meeting me for at least three weeks. if like three weeks down the road she still is refusing to meet her then you have a problem and need to say to your ex i have to meet her

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
Apr 12th '13
Quoting The Pretender:" I wouldn't be suspicious per-say... but I'd think they were probably just really immature and if they ... [snip!] ... them. If they can't give me the courtesy of meeting me face to face then they have no business playing house with my kiddos. "

:!:
This.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Apr 12th '13
Quoting luvryans3:" Ok if your children's father had a new girlfriend that u didn't know about until your child told you ... [snip!] ... girlfriend doesn't want to meet and expressed that but is around your kids would you feel suspicious? How would you take that?"


I would say that it really isn't your business as long as there is no suspicion of mistreatment. What occurs on their time with their father is his business. I don't think he has to introduce you to people. Likewise, if you have a boyfriend, I don't think you need to introduce him to the father.