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do you? blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
12th Apr '13

Fake orgasms? I got a little too drunk today and had sex with with an old friend that I haven't had sex with for 3 years. I haven't had sex in over 8 months. He was really into it. It was ok for me but not wildly intense. He talks a lot of shit so I made a lot of noise. I mean I enjoyed it but didn't have an orgasm. He thought I did before I ever sounded really involved. I wasn't trying to fake an orgasm and I never do. When we used to have sex he thought I had orgasms and would say I did. Recently I told him I never had one with him. After this time he asked me did I have an orgasm, well he told me I did lol I said yes. Am I wrong? I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Idk why he thinks I have orgasms when I don't bc I'm normally not a noise maker lol




Do you fake orgasms or lead a man to believe you do to not hurt their feelings?

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20889 posts
12th Apr '13

i've only ever faked it with my ex gfs.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
12th Apr '13

Nope. My husband can tell.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
12th Apr '13

I just don't see how men can't tell. I mean it is so obvious when I do actually have an orgasm. Men confuse me.

Mrs. Daniel 1 child; California 547 posts
12th Apr '13

I know it takes more work on the guys part to make a woman orgasm, but it's a job a man needs to learn how to do. I feel I'd be doing us both a bad thing it I faked it.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
12th Apr '13

My husband is the only person that's every given me an orgasm everytime we have sex because it extremely intense everytime. He would know if I faked it lol He would also be very hurt too. I have faked it with a few women though

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
12th Apr '13

I do sometimes, not necessarily fake it, but I won't force it. I feel bad because I rarely ever have an orgasm during sex without some kind of other stimulation, and even then it can take a while. Usually I get mine out of the way before or do it right after, but sometimes I feel bad because it does take so much and it makes me feel like I'm making SO feel bad because I can't just do it even though he really tries.
I don't need to orgasm every time though. If I want it, I'll get it done one way or another.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20889 posts
12th Apr '13
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" I do sometimes, not necessarily fake it, but I won't force it. I feel bad because I rarely ever have ... [snip!] ... it even though he really tries. I don't need to orgasm every time though. If I want it, I'll get it done one way or another."

i almost always have to use other stimulation or it takes forever (i'm just so used to the stimulation). DH doesn't know it but with a toy or the shower head i get off in less than 5 mins. he wants it more than me so i take care of him, then when he's not home i get mine. lol

*4 boys and me* Due November 22; 2 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 4769 posts
12th Apr '13

Sometimes I....exaggerate? I guess? Sometimes he's just off his game and can't seem to hit the spot so I almost mentally force myself to orgasm, and it usually sucks so I... exaggerate I guess... dont know how else to put it

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
12th Apr '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" i almost always have to use other stimulation or it takes forever (i'm just so used to the stimulation). ... [snip!] ... head i get off in less than 5 mins. he wants it more than me so i take care of him, then when he's not home i get mine. lol"


Thats the same way I am. I can get off in less than a minute if everything is just right. But I worry about SOs feeling more than my sexual needs. I hardly ever have time to take care of myself but if I really want to, I do.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20889 posts
12th Apr '13
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" Thats the same way I am. I can get off in less than a minute if everything is just right. But I worry ... [snip!] ... about SOs feeling more than my sexual needs. I hardly ever have time to take care of myself but if I really want to, I do. "

i really couldn't give a shit less about sex *shrug* so i don't need the time. though sometimes i'm in the shower and i figure "why not" but that's only on the rare occasion that i get to shower alone without DD. lol

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
12th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting White Chocolate Milk:</b>" I do sometimes, not necessarily fake it, but I won't force it. I feel bad because I rarely ever have ... [snip!] ... it even though he really tries. I don't need to orgasm every time though. If I want it, I'll get it done one way or another."</blockquote>




I have only had an orgasm with oral. He does it but just as foreplay not to make me have an orgasm. We had discussions about sex and orgasms before and I told him he never made me have one. We are good friends no feeling attatched. But he is still a guy. He was like "I know you had an orgasm bc" and I was like Um yea. I didn't know what to say. I didn't need an orgasm bc or felt good. Idk why guys think it is all about an orgasm.




Now I don't know how to tell him how to give me one later wahhh

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
12th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *3 boys and me*:</b>" Sometimes I....exaggerate? I guess? Sometimes he's just off his game and can't seem to hit the spot so ... [snip!] ... so I almost mentally force myself to orgasm, and it usually sucks so I... exaggerate I guess... dont know how else to put it"</blockquote>




Yea that's what I did. Not fake it but just acted really into it and he thought I had one.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20889 posts
12th Apr '13
Quoting naturally crunchy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting White Chocolate Milk:</b>" I do sometimes, not necessarily fake ... [snip!] ... or felt good. Idk why guys think it is all about an orgasm. Now I don't know how to tell him how to give me one later wahhh"

i've only orgasmed maybe 5 times EVER from oral...

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
12th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting White Chocolate Milk:</b>" I do sometimes, not necessarily fake it, but I won't force it. I feel bad because I rarely ever have ... [snip!] ... it even though he really tries. I don't need to orgasm every time though. If I want it, I'll get it done one way or another."</blockquote>




Yea even with oral it can take 30 minutes! Even if I am super focused. The last guy I was with would not stop oral until I had like 4 orgasms so I m spoiled I guess ugh