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One more chance ★ASHLEY★ 17 kids; Michigan 1274 posts
12th Apr '13

Last night my fiance and I got into AGAIN for the millionth time, This time was different though. I stood up for myself and told him I was done being put down and treated like garbage and I was tired of him telling me he's gonna pack his shit and leave so I told him to go and just leave (of course he didn't). I slept on the couch and he took the bed (which kinda pissed me off but whatever I was not sleeping next to him right now) I gave him my engagement ring back and told him I had to think for a few days and I wasn't sure what I wanted anymore because I've been unhappy for a little while now. Anyways, today hes acting extremely nice and trying to do everything in his power to cheer me up. I guess some of his co workers are going out for drinks later and we got invited to go. Honestly I don't want to go. We probably should because its been a long time since we've been out for adult time but I don't know I just dont want to be around him right now let alone a bunch of people he knows that I don't. UGH I just don't know what to do. I mean I guess it's kinda hard when you have people telling you not to worry and they'd help out as much as possible. One of them being a guy that I've been friends with since high school and had a fling awhile back telling me he's always loved me and he'd be there for me and do anything to get me back.



I'm so sorry I'm all over the place. I'm just aggravated to hell and confused....



Thanks for listening to my rant >.<

☠BryBry'sMuM☠ Due March 19; 1 child; Fullerton, California 15229 posts
12th Apr '13

girl you did the right thing! and he should kiss your ass but the fact of the matte he should be doing this all the time not just bc you told him your not sure about you guys.
you prob shouldnt go if your not wanting to be around him bc it might bring tention or you might argue.
has he always treated you like shit?
im having serious probs with my SO bc he treats me like shit to. im trying to tell him this weekend we need a break im so scared & nervous but i ask myself
do i want to live the rest of my life like this? we've been together for over 5yrs and not much has changed.

★ASHLEY★ 17 kids; Michigan 1274 posts
12th Apr '13

Which is exactly why I don't want to go. I already know he b***hes about me at work because I'm roommates boyfriend and him work together and he filled me in on a bunch of stuff Matt (my fiance) says at work and it completely pissed me off because when I told him to leave home life and home he said he would never complain about me at work to his co-workers >.< Seriously he must think I'm stupid or something.
Don't get me wrong he works his ass off to pay the bills because I stay home and watch the kids. (My DD and my roommates 3 year old and 2 year old) on top of cleaning the house, doing dishes, washing and folding laundry and NEVER get a thank you from him until LAST NIGHT! I already told him if it goes back to the way it was in a week or two then I'm done and he can pack up his shit and go. It hurts but its what needs to be done!

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
12th Apr '13

OK, leave the old "fling" out of this. You don't need to leave one man for another. That makes things more complicated than it's worth.



And I do not suggest going out for "drinks" when you are on rocky terms right now. That could intensify feelings and make them surface in an ugly way.

☠BryBry'sMuM☠ Due March 19; 1 child; Fullerton, California 15229 posts
12th Apr '13
Quoting ★ASHLEY★:" Which is exactly why I don't want to go. I already know he b***hes about me at work because I'm roommates ... [snip!] ... to the way it was in a week or two then I'm done and he can pack up his shit and go. It hurts but its what needs to be done!"


ya im right there with you! but i wash dishes and help clean & make dinner take care of our son. he just works and never give LO bathes ever!!!! i do everything for him i feel like his slave at times.
it hurts so bad havign to leave ive been having anxiety bc of im so conflicted

★ASHLEY★ 17 kids; Michigan 1274 posts
12th Apr '13
Quoting ☠BryBry's MuM☠:" ya im right there with you! but i wash dishes and help clean & make dinner take care of our son. ... [snip!] ... take care of our son. he just works and never give LO bathes ever!!!! i do everything for him i feel like his slave at times."


Yupp I do that too. I'm just getting tired of being a freaking door matt!

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
12th Apr '13
Quoting ★ASHLEY★:" Which is exactly why I don't want to go. I already know he b***hes about me at work because I'm roommates ... [snip!] ... to the way it was in a week or two then I'm done and he can pack up his shit and go. It hurts but its what needs to be done!"


Do you tell him thank you for working and supporting you and your child? I mean, does he need to constantly thank you for doing what you should be doing?

★ASHLEY★ 17 kids; Michigan 1274 posts
12th Apr '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Do you tell him thank you for working and supporting you and your child? I mean, does he need to constantly thank you for doing what you should be doing?"


Yes I do. I don't expect a thank you every time I do something but an occasional thank you would be nice.