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Should I move in with my best friend??? Advice! Karly&Maddox 1 child; Tulare, California 149 posts
12th Apr '13

So here is a little background my best friend has an 8 month old daughter and is currently single, has a 3 bedroom 2 bath house that's she wants me, my fianc

Piecey. 3 kids; K-Town, KL, Germany 63303 posts
status 12th Apr '13

I wouldn't. I don't like mixing finances and friends or family. If I were her, I wouldn't split things down the middle with you. That might make it easier to divvy, but your family will likely use more eletricity, water, etc. Seems like lots of people start off in these halfsies situations and then it dawns on the party with the lesser amount of people how unfair it is to them and things go sour from there. Idk. I'd look for something else.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
12th Apr '13

I would definitely do it.

amber..leigh 1 child; Brisbane, Australia 55 posts
12th Apr '13

I woukd use the month and a half you have to spend as much time there and observe her, we moved in with my best friend of 12 years and her so, and regretted it so much. I don't hate her or her partner but also can not wait to get out of here next month. Watch for things that will annoy you (not cleaning up after herself, leaving dishes in rooms etc.) and really think about whats best to do for you and her. Good luck!

ElleBelle (32 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 21625 posts
12th Apr '13

I have found from personal experience to never, ever move in with a best friend.

Iyahna :^P Southern California, CA, United States 12779 posts
status 12th Apr '13

If it's cheaper and bigger why not.

P & L's Momma 2 kids; Minneapolis, Minnesota 3812 posts
12th Apr '13

If it were me, I'd do it. I think the reason those things go badly is not having clear house rules, privacy rules, etc. As long as you sit down and go over everything in the beginning it should be okay. Maybe you can even all sign a contract.

[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
12th Apr '13

From experience I wouldn't. We rented a house with my bff (of 18 years) and it completely ruined the friendship.



In theory it sounds like a ton of fun and like everything would work perfectly, but combining households normally doesn't work. We clashed on cleaning styles, parenting styles, food etc.



I would really think long and hard about it.

user banned 1 child; Bluefield, Virginia 1053 posts
12th Apr '13

from experience, DO NOT! thats that :)

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
12th Apr '13

If it is necessary then yes for financial reasons, but otherwise, I say no!
We let my husband's sister move in with us a few months ago to help me babysit since our car is small and I have to do a school pick up. She has her own room in the basement, but I am so ready to get a van so she can move out!! I was used to it just being my hubby and kids and I for so long, that the way she does certain things annoys me, like how she cooks certain foods a different way, or loads the dishwasher weird, just stupid shit like that that I am used to doing my way! Plus she has no job and is not contributing a damn thing, so that's another reason I am ready for her to leave. But over time the differences might get to you.

Nickels522 Florida 17031 posts
12th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Piecey.:</b>" I wouldn't. I don't like mixing finances and friends or family. If I were her, I wouldn't split things ... [snip!] ... with the lesser amount of people how unfair it is to them and things go sour from there. Idk. I'd look for something else."</blockquote>




This!!!

Karly&Maddox 1 child; Tulare, California 149 posts
12th Apr '13

Another thing I forgot is that she works mon-Friday 6am-3pm and my fianc

[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
12th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Karly&Maddox:</b>" Another thing I forgot is that she works mon-Friday 6am-3pm and my fianc

Karly&Maddox 1 child; Tulare, California 149 posts
13th Apr '13
Quoting [♥]Mrs. Taylor:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Karly&Maddox:</b>" Another thing I forgot is that she works ... [snip!] ... Idk I just know from losing my best friend that I would never do it again, and I wish we had listened when people warned us."


he usually comes home and showers and stays up for another hour or two... but he had to be quiet in our home too because either myself or the baby was sleeping..

ElleBelle (32 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 21625 posts
13th Apr '13

I couldn't even handle roomig with my best friend in college! Let alone trying to do with babies and a family! It's so hard- the best friend boundaries get stepped on and things get awkward and it's just not worth losing a friendship over. I wish everyday I hadn't roomed with my best- she barely even got invited to my wedding