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1st time mom nothing to see Due August 21 (boy); 2 kids; Japan 602 posts
12th Apr '13

what s the best advice you ve had on birth and delivery has a first time mom?




I wanna tell my 1st time mom friend to make sure she has a birth plan, try to have it her way as much as she can but also expect it not to go has planned




I dont know why but to me it makes sense, but when I say it out loud it sounds like the stupidest advice ever

AaliyahVal'sMommy 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cleveland, Ohio 1364 posts
12th Apr '13

Well i'm dissapoitned because i had one and already one of the plans i wanted is out the window.
No water birth.
Now depending on my ultra sound next week, i might have to be induced, so perhaps two out the window...

Iron Man 6 kids; 1 angel baby; 1700 posts
12th Apr '13

Get an epi. 8)



Lol, seriously, though? What you're saying is bang on.

mom of three 3 kids; Missouri 5303 posts
12th Apr '13

I would def. recommend a birth plan to a first time mom.

************************* Chehalis, Washington 362 posts
12th Apr '13

I think birth plans set people up for disappointment. Yeah, you can have a general idea of how you want things to go but in the end, you aren't the one controlling anything. I would majorly stress to think of the birth plan as a suggestion, not written in stone. JMO

nothing to see Due August 21 (boy); 2 kids; Japan 602 posts
12th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting AaliyahVal'sMommy:</b>" Well i'm dissapoitned because i had one and already one of the plans i wanted is out the window. No water ... [snip!] ... window. No water birth. Now depending on my ultra sound next week, i might have to be induced, so perhaps two out the window..."</blockquote>




I m really sorry :(
but I m sure you ll have a perfectly healthy baby. good luck with everything mama

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
12th Apr '13

I'd tell her to know what she wants out of her birth but not to be too surprised or upset if some things don't go her way. Labor and birth can be pretty unpredictable sometimes. My personal best advice would be to research, research, research! The more she knows about common procedures, meds, etc the better she will feel about what she agrees to and what she doesn't.

nothing to see Due August 21 (boy); 2 kids; Japan 602 posts
12th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Iron Man:</b>" Get an epi. 8) Lol, seriously, though? What you're saying is bang on."</blockquote>




lmao, she set on not having an epi, but I told her not to be disappointed if she gets one anyway.

nothing to see Due August 21 (boy); 2 kids; Japan 602 posts
12th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ρiηkie ρie:</b>" I'd tell her to know what she wants out of her birth but not to be too surprised or upset if some things ... [snip!] ... The more she knows about common procedures, meds, etc the better she will feel about what she agrees to and what she doesn't. "</blockquote>




:!: thats perfect. thats what I was trying to say but my way sound just dumb

AaliyahVal'sMommy 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cleveland, Ohio 1364 posts
12th Apr '13
Quoting nothing to see:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Iron Man:</b>" Get an epi. 8) Lol, seriously, though? What ... [snip!] ... on."</blockquote> lmao, she set on not having an epi, but I told her not to be disappointed if she gets one anyway."

I'm set on not having one either.

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
12th Apr '13

i dont see the point in a birth plan. they never really work out. Just tell her to have some decisions made on wether she wants an epi or not. Just let her know how your labor and delivery went and tell her everyone has different experiences.

nothing to see Due August 21 (boy); 2 kids; Japan 602 posts
12th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mom2andrew&carter:</b>" i dont see the point in a birth plan. they never really work out. Just tell her to have some decisions ... [snip!] ... she wants an epi or not. Just let her know how your labor and delivery went and tell her everyone has different experiences."</blockquote>



I didn't have a birth plan with my first, nothing went has I expected and my midewife "pushed things down my throat" and made most choices for us. I thought it should have been her job to ask me what I wanted and I regretted not making my wishes clearer. which is why it is important to have one anyway

* MRS KING * 2 kids; Whitesboro, Oklahoma 1550 posts
12th Apr '13

Definitely have a birth plan, so that she has a little more control than the doctor. Women with birth plans usually do a little more research than those who just leave it up to doc. If she knows what she wants, itll be easier for her to not be pushed into something shes not sure about. But like everyone else said, when it comes down to the safety of mama and baby, things dont usually go according to plan.