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I don't understand what I did. Tristan and Auroras mummy 2 kids; Australia 595 posts
13th Apr '13

Last night me and my partner when to our friends 21st he went with he's brother and I went in with my friend. We met o I said hey gave him what he forgot and continued the night. Then later on he said something about getting a photo but I wanted to but as a joke I said no but was still getting my phone to do so he cracked the shits and went outside so I thought ok leave him. The rest of the night I had my friends little sister wanting to play with me and a friend needed advice. My boyfriend and the ones he came with said they were going I said want to get a picture before you leave? And he wouldn't talk to me just left. He would have had to know I was joking before cause I laughed and people who witnessed it said he was out of line they could even tell I was joking. My friend tried to get a picture and he just walked off. When I got home (he's with he's parents) I tried talking to him on fb and he tried to say that I ignored him all night and put him down and my friend wanting to take a photo pushed him to the edge. I tried to say sorry but he told me he's done with me and to sort something out with the twins and then to fuck off. He says he's unhappy cause all I do I'd put him down and push him to much. If anyone has read my other posts they would know what he's like. He doesn't help me with the babies in the morning he sleeps in and always goes out. How is wanting him to be there bad? But yeah now he's broken up with me. I don't know if someone has got in he's ear but I don't see what I did wrong. When no one else can either. Then won't let me apologize. I'm so numb and hurt :(

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
13th Apr '13

You say he does nothing for you or your kids and constantly goes out, and you're upset that he is dumping you and you don't understand why.



You two have two kids, he has yet to marry you, let alone live with you.



Tell him thank you. File for custody and child support. And move on with your life.

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
13th Apr '13

you need to rewrite this whole thing...it makes no sense and is alllllllll over the place.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75033 posts
13th Apr '13

That was a little hard to follow but it sounds like he did overreact. It doesn't sound like a normal reaction so it sounds like he was either using this small situation as a reason to break up with you or he has been bottling up his feelings for a while and just exploded. Maybe he doesn't like the way you were joking with him? Not saying it was an acceptable reaction but it doesn't make sense so there's obviously a bigger reason for him freaking out.

user banned Due December 20; Georgia 1823 posts
13th Apr '13

I'm sorry. I really tried to read this but it makes zero sense.

Bri + 1.5 <3 Due October 20 (girl); 1 child; Florida 4350 posts
13th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" You say he does nothing for you or your kids and constantly goes out, and you're upset that he is dumping ... [snip!] ... to marry you, let alone live with you. Tell him thank you. File for custody and child support. And move on with your life."</blockquote>




I agree with this 100%. I know it might hurt right now, but this is honestly the best thing for you & your babies. You will see that eventually.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
13th Apr '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" You say he does nothing for you or your kids and constantly goes out, and you're upset that he is dumping ... [snip!] ... to marry you, let alone live with you. Tell him thank you. File for custody and child support. And move on with your life."


This!



I couldnt follow this post, but I agree with ^.

Tristan and Auroras mummy 2 kids; Australia 595 posts
13th Apr '13

Sorry. He does live with me but he doesn't believe in marriage. I said "no" as I was taking out my phone to take a photo he knows I always joke like that. He does keep things bottled up and he thinks I'm a shit girlfriend and has wanted to leave me for over a year. I don't see how I'm a shit girlfriend when all I want is to be loved and looked after along with my babies

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
13th Apr '13
Quoting Tristan and Auroras mummy:" Sorry. He does live with me but he doesn't believe in marriage. I said "no" as I was taking out my phone ... [snip!] ... me for over a year. I don't see how I'm a shit girlfriend when all I want is to be loved and looked after along with my babies"


Leave. I wouldnt be with someone that thinks that Im a shit girlffriend.

Tasha & Nika Due December 22 (boy); 1 child; San Jose, CA, United States 16040 posts
13th Apr '13

This all seems petty and immature.



I don't see why you would apologize to someone who treated you like that for no apparent reason.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
13th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tristan and Auroras mummy:</b>" Sorry. He does live with me but he doesn't believe in marriage. I said "no" as I was taking out my phone ... [snip!] ... me for over a year. I don't see how I'm a shit girlfriend when all I want is to be loved and looked after along with my babies"</blockquote>




He believes in marriage, just not with you. Which is more than evident since he's been making sure he doesn't enjoy being with you or a father to your kids for the past year.



Here's your out. Let him leave.

Tristan and Auroras mummy 2 kids; Australia 595 posts
13th Apr '13

It is very immature. All I want to do is talk in person and he never does it. He rather hurt me. I have no support where I am. I havnt got a phone at the moment so I can't even ring my dad. My car doesn't have rego cause of an accident. Everything has gone to shit for me :(

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
13th Apr '13
Quoting Tristan and Auroras mummy:" It is very immature. All I want to do is talk in person and he never does it. He rather hurt me. I have ... [snip!] ... at the moment so I can't even ring my dad. My car doesn't have rego cause of an accident. Everything has gone to shit for me :("


if he lives with you.....how can he not talk to you in person?

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
13th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tristan and Auroras mummy:</b>" It is very immature. All I want to do is talk in person and he never does it. He rather hurt me. I have ... [snip!] ... at the moment so I can't even ring my dad. My car doesn't have rego cause of an accident. Everything has gone to shit for me :("</blockquote>




Looks like this is nothing new. You need to start being honest with yourself. You have the Internet, you have a means of contacting your father.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
13th Apr '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tristan and Auroras mummy:</b>" It is very immature. All I want ... [snip!] ... nothing new. You need to start being honest with yourself. You have the Internet, you have a means of contacting your father."


This!