So for those of you who have read some of my other posts about SOs son then you know some of the things that I have been dealing with lately. For everyone else t make a long story short this child has come into our lives and caused nothing but drama and more problems then I can even begin to describe. So last night SOs son comes home after 7pm after his grandmother told him he wasnt allowed out to begin with. So when he got home his grandmother went off. He then proceeded to tell us this wild story about how he had just been kidnapped and robbed at gun point by some 50 yo guy. But supposedly the guy only robbed him of a fake watch and a tee shirt but left him with his $500 iphone and his $150 pair of Jordans. Upon hearing his wild story I told his dad to call the cops and make his son file a police report upon hearing that his son went off. Started saying shit like Im no fucking snitch I aint calling the cops and so on. I told him flat out if he wasnt lying then he would want to call the cops. After much arguing I called 311 had a cop come to the house made him file a report. And the icing on the cake is while we where waiting for the cops to show up SOs mom called her daughter to see if she knew the guy he claimed robbed him and turns out she did. From what she said this guy used to do shit like that but hasnt been in any trouble for 15 years and besides that if he had robbed him he wouldnt of left the kid alive. So the cop shows up at our house and starts asking SOs son what happened and through the course of the questioning this little bastard changed his story 20 fucking times. After the cop got done with SOs son SO went to talk to the cop and the first words out of the cop's mouth where "You know your son is a fucking lier right?". The cop was willing to file the report investigate everything and then turn around and arrest SOs son for filing a false police report but SO told him to just drop it because he didnt think it was fair to the old guy to be harassed just because his son cant tell the truth. Then after the cop left SOs mom confronted her grandson about all his lying and all the other shit he has been doing he copped an attitude with her so she told him to hand over his phone because she is sick of his shit he refused which upset her all the while his father was sitting right there and didnt do shit which upset her even more. She stormed out of the house so I went to check on her just to find her on the porch in tears over this shit. I talked to her for a while to see why she was upset once I hear what happened I fucking snapped. I went in the house and I put everything out there. I told SOs son that we are all sick of his shit he has made everyone's life a living fucking hell since he has been here. Every time we turn around he is lying stealing anything he can get his hands on to sell for drugs including his grandmother's meds that she needs to keep her alive. Then I told him that worst of all since he has been here his grandmother's health has gotten so bad because of the stress he is putting on her and that he could care less that the shit he is doing is actually killing his grandmother. Then he tried to tell me he does care that his behavior is affecting his grandmother's health which I told him was a fucking lie because if he gave a shit at all he would stop this shit. Im so sick of the shit with this kid he is 17 yo its time he grew the fuck up and started acting right. And its not like he doesnt know that what he is doing is wrong because he does hell his own fucking mother kicked his ass to the curb because he was doing the same shit at her house that he is doing here. Im sick of SO not maning the fuck up and being a parent to his child.
Wow he wouldn't be my SO any longer. That is for damn sure.
If you don't have any kids and aren't married, why do you stay?
It just seems like a fuck ton of drama that you don't have to and don't need to deal with
I sure wouldn't be there. I know all about having a teenager in your home wrecking your life, I grew up with 2 screw up older sisters and now one of them has 2 outrageous teenagers. I'd let the kid get arrested so I wouldn't have to house him until he turned 18, sounds like the kid needed parenting a LONG time ago.
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Wow he wouldn't be my SO any longer. That is for damn sure. If you don't have any kids and aren't married, ... [snip!] ... and aren't married, why do you stay? It just seems like a fuck ton of drama that you don't have to and don't need to deal with"
Honestly the only reason Ive stayed this long is because of his mother. I dont want to leave her alone with SOs son because she is scared to death of him. That and she has MS and needs someone here with her during the day to make sure she is ok.
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" Honestly the only reason Ive stayed this long is because of his mother. I dont want to leave her alone ... [snip!] ... she is scared to death of him. That and she has MS and needs someone here with her during the day to make sure she is ok."
That is very sweet of you, but they have home health aides and such for situations like these. You don't need to be around it. It isn't your responsibility (sorry, I know how crass and uncaring that sounds)
I would let him get arrested & maybe that would teach him a lesson. Also take away his fancy phone
Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:" I sure wouldn't be there. I know all about having a teenager in your home wrecking your life, I grew ... [snip!] ... the kid get arrested so I wouldn't have to house him until he turned 18, sounds like the kid needed parenting a LONG time ago."
Thats what I said. I talk to his mom on FB all the time about her son because he refuses to talk to her and she is constantly apologizing for her sons behavior. But she refuses to take responsibility for the way he is she always want to blame it on someone else but in reality she was a piss poor mother to him and she raised him to be the way he is now because it was easier to let him do what he wants then to actually parent him. And the real kicker here is that SOs son technically has custody of himself so we could kick him out right now but SO wont do it. Every time SOs mom or I try to talk to him about the shit his son is pulling while he is at work he always falls back to one of two responses "Well its to late to do anything about it now" (even if whatever it was just happened an hour ago) or " Well what the fuck do you expect me to do about it I work all day Im sorry I have a fucking job and I dont have time to deal with this bull shit". I get that its to late for us to correct 16+ years of bad behavior but its not to late to lay down some rules and give him consequences for his bad behavior. But the thing that pisses me off the most is that we always have SOs sisters three kids and if they did any of the shit his son is doing SO would beat their asses but when it comes to his kid he doesnt do shit. He let his kid get away with stealing his mother's meds to sell them for drugs but the one time his nephew stole a pack of cigs from SOs mom to take to school he beat that boys ass then made him wear a hat and sign detailing his crimes and walk all over the place in stores everything wearing them I still have pics of his nephew in his hat and sign.
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" That is very sweet of you, but they have home health aides and such for situations like these. You don't ... [snip!] ... like these. You don't need to be around it. It isn't your responsibility (sorry, I know how crass and uncaring that sounds)"
She has a CPA that comes 5 days a week but she is only here for 2 hours a day and her MS is so bad that 90% of the time she cant even walk on her own. And your right he isnt my responsibility and if SO would make an effort to parent his child then I would be fine taking on the role of a parent to his child. But its like no matter what I do or his grandmother does to try to correct his child nothing changes because his father doesnt back us up on anything.
Quoting M walls:" I would let him get arrested & maybe that would teach him a lesson. Also take away his fancy phone"
Believe me I wish they would take his ass to jail but I doubt it would do any good. Reason being his father used to be a gang banger spent 10+ years in prison and just made all kinds of fucked up choices when he was younger. His sons mother from the time he was little (SO went to prison for the last time around the time his son was 4 almost 5) told him all about his fathers life style and the poor choices he made but rather then using his dad's life as an example of how not to live she glorified his lifestyle. So his son has grown up thinking being in a gang, selling drugs, and going to prison are good things. Ive sat his son down and so has SO (mind you he only did it so I would stop bitching at him) and explained to him that that life is nothing to be proud of or nothing to aspire to be. Hell SO has college degrees and by all rights he should be making anywhere between $35 to $50 an hour but because of his record he is stuck at a piss poor job making $20 an hour. I get that to someone 17 $20 an hour sounds like a lot of money but after taxes, paying bills, and buying food SO is lucky if he even has enough money to put gas in his car to get back and forth to work until next payday.