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new single mom of 2 Indiana Jones 2 kids; Texas 312 posts
14th Apr '13

So, my husband walked out on me & our 2 kids last Sunday evening. We have a 5 month old & a 16 month old. We had been arguing last Sunday & he just got up & said he was done & he left. I've already filed my divorce but I'm second guessing it. He doesn't call to talk to our 16 month old. He doesn't ask about them. He hardly talks to me at all except about getting his stuff
It hurts so bad. I'm completely devastated! I look at my kids & wonder how anyone could just leave like he did. I've asked a million times for him to come see them & he always said "i cant, I'm busy, I'm trying to find work, i don't have a way to get there..." & after i asked him to come home this weekend to spend time with them he said he would probably be working. This morning on fb he was tagged in a status with a bunch of girls. He has all the time in the world to spend with girls & friends but not his kids?!?! He obviously found a way to make that happen but can't make visitation happen?? I'm so mad now! How am i supposed to cope with this?! What do i do now?!

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
14th Apr '13

I'm sorry that must be so heartbreaking :( sounds like he is better of staying away from you guys. You can't make him want to see his kids (i know how much you must want to make him). Talk with your family to help cope.

Indiana Jones 2 kids; Texas 312 posts
14th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Carissa Biron:</b>" I'm sorry that must be so heartbreaking :( sounds like he is better of staying away from you guys. You ... [snip!] ... guys. You can't make him want to see his kids (i know how much you must want to make him). Talk with your family to help cope."</blockquote>



I realize that. He says one thing but does another. He saw them friday hut only bc he came to get some of his stuff. He didn't even ask to see them, i mentioned it & since he was already on his way he said ok. He stayed for maybe 30 mins? I just hate this for my kids. I try to keep myself busy but i still keep replaying everything.

ThreeLittleBirds Due August 28; 3 kids; Pueblo West, CO, United States 952 posts
14th Apr '13

Trust me. If you have been arguing and fighting with him, its better that he is gone. Better for your kids. The ideal situation would be him coming to visit his kids but you need to just focus on giving them twice as much love because you're the more stable parent right now.

♥three babies ♥ Due September 13; 4 kids; California 7373 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting ThreeLittleBirds:" Trust me. If you have been arguing and fighting with him, its better that he is gone. Better for your ... [snip!] ... to visit his kids but you need to just focus on giving them twice as much love because you're the more stable parent right now."

:!:

Indiana Jones 2 kids; Texas 312 posts
14th Apr '13

I know he's better off gone right now. He has lots of issues & lots of growing up to do. I'm just not used to being alone i guess. & I'm so mad that he gets a free ride to do what he wants while I'm here doing the right thing & me & the kids are suffering the consequences of his choices. That's what's so frustrating!

ThreeLittleBirds Due August 28; 3 kids; Pueblo West, CO, United States 952 posts
14th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Indiana Jones:</b>" I know he's better off gone right now. He has lots of issues & lots of growing up to do. I'm just not ... [snip!] ... I'm here doing the right thing & me & the kids are suffering the consequences of his choices. That's what's so frustrating!"</blockquote>



I know its frustrating. Believe me. I kicked my ex husband out but the result was the same. He does whatever he wants at any time, pays a pathetic amount of child support, and makes time for the kids when he isn't too busy with his "life". You're going to have to get used to the fact that if you aren't together you don't have a say in what he does. You have to forget about all that. Your number one focus and priority has to always be the kids. You've got to take your feelings out of the equation. I know its not easy and it won't be for some time. But you can do it. I'm sure you're a great mom and you are enough for your babies.

C'sMom! 1 child; Minnesota 1263 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting Indiana Jones:" I know he's better off gone right now. He has lots of issues & lots of growing up to do. I'm just not ... [snip!] ... I'm here doing the right thing & me & the kids are suffering the consequences of his choices. That's what's so frustrating!"

I completely understand this. I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. I remember how devastated my daughter was when her daddy was out living it up with whoever.

Indiana Jones 2 kids; Texas 312 posts
15th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chloe's mommy*:</b>" I completely understand this. I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. I remember how devastated my daughter was when her daddy was out living it up with whoever."</blockquote>




Im thankful she's so young, but i know she still has to miss him. He was a part of her life every single day until last week. I feel like now shes starting to get used to him being gone. When he first she first left she used to walk around our house saying "daddy?" & looking for him but now she's ok. I kind of feel like she's happier. I kinda feel guilty that i wanted him back bc of how he's treating my kids now but I've accepted it now & any "man" that can walk out on 2 beautiful babies like that to have fun with his friends doesn't Matter anymore to me. I boxed up all of his stuff last night! Moving on now & I'm actually kind of happy too (: