Reply
Teen kids (Sweet 16)? dsgfsgffdfd 1 child; Cayman Islands 52 posts
14th Apr '13

I know this forum is for kids but I can't find the forum for teen parenting (not being a teen mom, but actually having a teen kid).



My boyfriend's sister's daughter (our niece) is turning 16 towards the end of April. We've decided we wanted to buy her car, since my sister in law (I know we're not married, but I still consider them family) works a full time job as a registered nurse... I know she can't afford the car of her daughter's dream because she's struggling with bills & her job.



My boyfriend and I are looking into purchasing a 2012 audi A7 or a 2012 range rover evoque for her because she told us that's what she wants for her birthday. The thing is that I am CLUELESS about cars & my boyfriend is too busy with his job to go to the dealership with me. The guys at the dealership will sugarcoat everything to make me buy it and their opinion isn't one that I really trust.



If any of you ladies (or your man) knows anything about these two cars, can you lend a hand? Like which car has better gas mileage, safety, etc? I can't find the handbook online, which is making everything more difficult. :/

Elliot Grace (18 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18148 posts
14th Apr '13

IMO buying her a car is too much- might make her mom feel bad

user banned Due September 18; 1 child; California 21617 posts
14th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:</b>" IMO buying her a car is too much- might make her mom feel bad"</blockquote>




:!: especially an Audi or a range rover.

dsgfsgffdfd 1 child; Cayman Islands 52 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:" IMO buying her a car is too much- might make her mom feel bad"


Oh lord, no. We brought it up with her mother already. I asked nicely if I could buy her the car for her sweet 16th since my sister-in-law was ALWAYS there when I gave birth to my son. She agreed but told me I can't help her with gas, etc. because she wants to teach my niece to be responsible with her money.

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
14th Apr '13

That's a huge responsibility for a 16 y/o..

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
14th Apr '13

You really need to talk to her mom before you do that. I'd be LIVID if my sibling bought my kid a car in any circumstance, but I'd feel like shit on top of it if they did it because i was too poor to do it myself.

Elliot Grace (18 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18148 posts
14th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting KimberleeGrace:</b>" Oh lord, no. We brought it up with her mother already. I asked nicely if I could buy her the car for ... [snip!] ... She agreed but told me I can't help her with gas, etc. because she wants to teach my niece to be responsible with her money. "</blockquote>




Saying she's ok with it and then feeling ok with it are two different things. But it's your life- lol. She is one lucky gal! I got a Jetta for my 16th and thought I was hot shit! Lolol

dsgfsgffdfd 1 child; Cayman Islands 52 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting *A&N's Mama*:" That's a huge responsibility for a 16 y/o.."


She's a great driver. Her mother told me she had to bright her blood pressure medication when she got into the car with my niece but she was surprisingly a safe driver. LMAO :P

tooodles 240 kids; Thailand 5075 posts
14th Apr '13

I dont care if I was a millionare but I would never get a 16 year old thats just learning to drive a 2012 car yet alone a 2012 expensive ass fancy car. My kids will be practicing on buckets until they know how to drive and be responsible for a car. As for all the details of the cars when you go to the dealer they should have a paper with all that crap on it.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
14th Apr '13

I would not be spending that kind of money on a car that will most likely be crashed. They are expensive on maintenance as well. I dont feel an audi or range rover is a practical car for any 16 year old.

Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
14th Apr '13

Honestly, she is 16 and I would kill my sister if she were to buy my child a car like that. A 10 yr old Camry, sure. Go for it. But a car is a responsibility, and they should earn their luxury, not to be simply handed to just because Aunt and Uncle have the money to rain on them.

dsgfsgffdfd 1 child; Cayman Islands 52 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting T - 4 days:" You really need to talk to her mom before you do that. I'd be LIVID if my sibling bought my kid a car ... [snip!] ... my kid a car in any circumstance, but I'd feel like shit on top of it if they did it because i was too poor to do it myself."


My boyfriend was scared she was going to beat the living crap out of him for even offering but she took it really well. She knows that we're family and money is not an issue. She spoils my son in clothes, and created 4 diaper cakes at my baby shower. I told her if at anytime my niece acts up, she can take the car away and use it for herself Lmao

Dylan and Kallie's mama 2 kids; Sylvania, Ohio 5635 posts
14th Apr '13

Who would pay for the maintenance for the car? A 16 year old could not afford the repairs on either of these vehicles. You typically can't use after market parts on these brands like you would on a non luxury brand car. An oil change alone will cost at least 50 dollars. If you said her mom was already struggling she won't be able to afford it either. It's very nice of you to buy her a car, but I think it would be smarter to buy a used cheaper dependable car, like a Honda civic or something. Plus I've heard land rovers are not very reliable.

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
14th Apr '13

idk anything about the cars but if i was going to do something like that, i'd tell the niece that her mom bought it. i wouldn't acknowledge that i had anything to do with it.

dsgfsgffdfd 1 child; Cayman Islands 52 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting Moses.:" Honestly, she is 16 and I would kill my sister if she were to buy my child a car like that. A 10 yr old ... [snip!] ... and they should earn their luxury, not to be simply handed to just because Aunt and Uncle have the money to rain on them."


She's a really good kid, she's starting college at 17 because she's in the honors program. She's going to be graduating with honors, and going to a great Ivy league school in New Jersey so I feel like she really deserves something luxurious for all her hard work. If I had any doubts that she would take advantage of our trust, my boyfriend and I would not even consider buying her a car.