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Relationship Advice... Carrie Lynn "KayKay" Japan 5 posts
14th Apr '13

Hey all!



My name is Carrie. I'm not expecting nor am I TTC. I am just here for some advice. You all can be as honest as you can with me, even if it's brutal. I don't mind at all.



My question to BG:
I am a VERY jealous girlfriend. When a girl talks to him, I simply want to beat the f*** out of her. Today, he posted a picture of himself in a "wife beater" on Instagram, and I got PISSED. He didn't even care that I was mad. Is it wrong for me to be this mad, or am I just overreacting?

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
14th Apr '13

Yes, it's very wrong and you need to make some changes or get ready to lose him and become the psycho ex.

Carrie Lynn "KayKay" Japan 5 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" Yes, it's very wrong and you need to make some changes or get ready to lose him and become the psycho ex."


I definitely will be psycho. I'm SO MAD that I could just cry.

user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
14th Apr '13

I have the same issue to an extent. It's hard being insecure. But getting angry about a picture he's not even naked in or something is just gonna push him away. Pick and choose your battles.

Tiffany Knickerbocker 19 kids; Indiana 519 posts
14th Apr '13

You are over reacting and if you get that mad over something so little id say you are probably controling as well.

Walking in Memphis 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Macon, Georgia 5976 posts
14th Apr '13

You would become my very jealous ex-girlfriend... No one likes insecurities or jealousy in a relationship. I think it's time to move on and take a deeper look at yourself.

user banned 16 kids; Maryland 8308 posts
14th Apr '13

I think you're over-reacting. Guys post pictures like that the same way girls post pictures mostly nude. It happens. Doesn't mean he's doing anything wrong.

Carrie Lynn "KayKay" Japan 5 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting Tiffany Knickerbocker:" You are over reacting and if you get that mad over something so little id say you are probably controling as well. "


I don't feel like I am though, I mean, I let him do what he chooses to, and I don't tell him to do this and that or act a certain way.. He just out of the blue did this, and I would completely understand if I posted pictures of myself, but I don't.. Damn I'm crazy..

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting Carrie Lynn "KayKay":" I definitely will be psycho. I'm SO MAD that I could just cry."


Whatever you do, change for yourself. This is not healthy. It's not normal. Think about how much easier it will be if you didn't get mad at things like these. It would be so much better, less stressful and you can potentially save your relationship.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46839 posts
status 14th Apr '13

Have you considered counseling to get at the root of this anger?

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting Carrie Lynn "KayKay":" I don't feel like I am though, I mean, I let him do what he chooses to, and I don't tell him to do this ... [snip!] ... just out of the blue did this, and I would completely understand if I posted pictures of myself, but I don't.. Damn I'm crazy.."


"I let him do"



He is a grown man and his own person. I'm sure he already has a mother. You don't "let him" He can do as he pleases.



Listen to your self.



"he out of the blue did this"
You're talking like he out of the blue started going to the strip club and spending hundreds of dollars every night on them. Or something horrible like that.



he.took.a.picture.

talexys 1 child; Ontario 1138 posts
14th Apr '13

When you get really angry over a situation like this, just stop and ask your self is it WORTH pushing him away over? is it a REAL problem? Sometimes I get angry over things that are petty and I just stop and think before I say something. I always ask myself if it's actually effecting our relationship or do I just need to get a grip. You don't want to end up loosing him and getting mad over a picture like that, well you are just going to destroy your relationship one bit at a time.

Carrie Lynn "KayKay" Japan 5 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Have you considered counseling to get at the root of this anger?"


No I haven't.. Maybe I should.. Hah...

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46839 posts
status 14th Apr '13
Quoting Carrie Lynn "KayKay":" No I haven't.. Maybe I should.. Hah..."


Yeah....it's really not funny.



Your behaviour sounds really, really unbalanced and unhealthy.

user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
14th Apr '13

Stupid phone double posting.