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Parental guidance Mummy-2-2-Monsters 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 8778 posts
14th Apr '13

"Children are too coddled these days and have little to no discipline. They are all winners, no one loses. Etc..."




What's your take on this? Do you feel it's true?

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
14th Apr '13

i kind of think children are too exposed these days. though i'm not sure where the line is. my brother and i were too sheltered growing up and we were clueless to a lot of things. made us look like idiots. i still do at times...

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11903 posts
14th Apr '13

My kids loose all the time, I'm not a fair game player though. I only give them a 10second start and then the race is on. Same with games. We play by the rules but whoever wins wins. They get upset, but then I explain to them even though they didn't win they could always win later or at a different game. Nobody is great at everything.

j0des(+2) 18 kids; Virginia 5095 posts
14th Apr '13

I think it depends on the parent(s) honestly..



I will coddle, I will give my kid a medal/prize/praise for good effort. I will teach them good sportsmanship, how to give/share. I will discipline how/when necessary. I am fair but I am strict. I am loving, but I dont over coddle them. I am honest with them, I dont sugar coat much.



I think its all about balance.



Everyones always busy trying to be politically correct. Its child rearing, they are your kids. As long as you dont put them in danger, raise them as you see fit.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
14th Apr '13

Eh I do think alot of kids these days don't have enough discipline, at least that's my opinion on why some generations are brats and things like that, not gonna get into details. But I don't see how a child or older kid can be"coddled"to much, and "there all winners and not enough losers"is a dumb statement, every kid should be brought up not put down :)

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting j0des(+2):" I think it depends on the parent(s) honestly.. I will coddle, I will give my kid a medal/prize/praise ... [snip!] ... politically correct. Its child rearing, they are your kids. As long as you dont put them in danger, raise them as you see fit."

pretty much all of this too

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 6992 posts
14th Apr '13

This is no line anymore between the children who are coddled and the parents who just don't give a shit. I think the 80's generation is the last 'good' one of people. We at least still have manners and are respectful. I'm not talking about all of them some are not so good.

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting supa~~fly:" This is no line anymore between the children who are coddled and the parents who just don't give a shit. ... [snip!] ... one of people. We at least still have manners and are respectful. I'm not talking about all of them some are not so good. "

i was a 90s kid and i'm HUGE on manners. :D

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
14th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" i kind of think children are too exposed these days. though i'm not sure where the line is. my brother ... [snip!] ... and i were too sheltered growing up and we were clueless to a lot of things. made us look like idiots. i still do at times..."</blockquote>




This to. I was sheltered but my husband was exposed to drugs that could have easily messed up his life. And other kids that are seriously exposed to sex so they get confused... Over exposure is just as unhealthy as being sheltered

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
14th Apr '13

I think its true mostly. I mean the elementary school in my home town a few years ago implemented a rule stating that they could not play any games or do any contests with one clear cut winner or winning team because the felt it would hurt kids self esteem to be on a loosing team or if they didn't win. Then those kids would come into our highschool (grades 7-12) in grade 7 and cry in gym class when they where on a loosing team. IMO that's way worse than letting them realize that in life there are people who win and people who loose. Things like that make them believe that everyone is a winner and then they join the real world where they realize that it was all a lie. In the real world the "winners" are the people who put 100% into what they do on top of having a natural ability to do what ever it is they are doing. Why should society teach our children the exact opposite.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 6992 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" i was a 90s kid and i'm HUGE on manners. :D"


I'm not saying all 90's kids are bad but man!!!!!!!!

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting supa~~fly:" I'm not saying all 90's kids are bad but man!!!!!!!!"


lol. i was raised with a southern mentality so respect is a big thing.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 8778 posts
14th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brookie99:</b>" I think its true mostly. I mean the elementary school in my home town a few years ago implemented a rule ... [snip!] ... top of having a natural ability to do what ever it is they are doing. Why should society teach our children the exact opposite."</blockquote>




That's the way I feel about it too.

j0des(+2) 18 kids; Virginia 5095 posts
14th Apr '13

I am scared for my kids being around others peoples kids.. I will not over coddle them, therefore, they will be exposed to the lack of parenting on their friends. I feel like my job is a million times tougher because I have to over parent/over inform due to people having kids at such a young age or not paying attention to their kids crys for attention because they are too busy with their plans to do whatever..



(I know far too many people who would rather go out to the bars/clubs than stay home with their kids. Not that they arent entitled to go out/have fun/have a break, its that its always an ongoing thing)



I am freaking out that I am going to have to over inform my kids about rape..



Its all over the news..no one can pull a blind eye. We have to actually teach our kids about personal space, respect, when no means no. Im sorry but when I was raised it was already an understanding/a given.



This in Debate and Discuss..so I just wanted to say it.

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22817 posts
15th Apr '13

In general, i think it's true. But, it also depends on where you live and the type of families at your kids schools and events.
Competition is great and should be embraced.
There is more to learn from failures and effort and struggling than winning and having things come easy for you.