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    • It's disrespectful to the actual parent -- Votes: 76
    • It's cute. The kid gets two! -- Votes: 12
Mandi Bass 1 child; Minnesota 1026 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" I think it's disrespectful. If the child started calling them mommy or daddy on their own that's one thing but to try and push a kid to say that is not appropriate IMO."


This!

one of each 4 me TTC since Mar 2014; 2 kids; Ohio 6169 posts
14th Apr '13

To me the terms are very special. It is supposed to be in our divorce papers that in future relationships the kids are not allowed to call the new SO mom or dad. I have been with my husband for 3 years since my youngest was 2 and they both call him by his first name. Sometimes they slip up but we correct them nicely. My ex husband though, if they slip up and call them my current husbands name (who they see daily and their dad a few times a month) he gets mad and tells at them

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
14th Apr '13
Quoting one of each 4 me:" To me the terms are very special. It is supposed to be in our divorce papers that in future relationships ... [snip!] ... up and call them my current husbands name (who they see daily and their dad a few times a month) he gets mad and tells at them"


That's odd. I could understand hurt or sad, but mad is a weird reaction. I can empathize with him, though. That has to suck.

Pey and Trista's mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42502 posts
14th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" I think I'd be highly pissed if I were in that situation. My friend who I was referring to, (the one ... [snip!] ... her for something, he goes "I LIKE MY KAYMMY BETTER! She lets me do whatever I want!" Ugh. That would just make me SO mad!!! "</blockquote>




They all are pretty civil so that may be different but yes if they are doing it just to be a*****e its very disrespectful. I think out being one kid involved compared to more with different father and different levels of involvement is when it gets to be really complicated. Her older 3 dislike their bio dad because he had never been good to them so to them their step dad is dad.....the other kiddo (step kid since there is also a bio kid) is also close to him so i think she would feel awkward being the only one calling him by his first name.

♥Simply Whitney♥ TTC since Dec 2012; 1 child; Australia 932 posts
15th Apr '13

My brother has his kids call his new wife Mama Lace. It didn't upset his ex wife until they started calling her Mama Kim. Personally I think the step parents should be called by their first name if the other parent is very much involved.

Proginoskes II 3 kids; North Carolina 1295 posts
15th Apr '13

Heh, this reminded me of what my ex's daughter called him. He didn't see her for years and years, and only called like once a year- She called him "BioDad". I never even met her and she referred to me as "stepmommy".
Now he's pulling the same crap with my daughter, hasn't seen her except for running into us in public for almost a year now, moved to another state with no notice, is pretty much completely absent. So if she calls my BF "dad" or any variation on her own, I won't stop her.

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
15th Apr '13

If you step up to the roll of a parent, you deserve the title.



I don't see how it makes me less of her mother for her to have another one. It doesn't take away anything I've done. It just adds to her life.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
15th Apr '13

A parent is a parent. You don't have to give birth to be a badass, amazing parent.

LA REINA™ Chicago, IL, United States 15863 posts
15th Apr '13
Quoting T - 4 days:" If you step up to the roll of a parent, you deserve the title. I don't see how it makes me less of her ... [snip!] ... it makes me less of her mother for her to have another one. It doesn't take away anything I've done. It just adds to her life."


I agree. It always amazes me to see how many women wouldn't want their ex's spouse to love their child like their own.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th Apr '13

I think it's extremely disrespectful if the actual parent is involved in the child's life. I have 2 step children, and i do not let them call me mom. The woman who gave birth to them is the only one who deserves that title. I correct them every time they call me mom. Now they emphasize the word STEP when some one else refers to me as their mom.



If their mother was not a part of their life, then I would gladly take on that role and the title that goes with it, but since she is their only mom... I think she's the only one who they should call "Mom". I still love them and treat them like they're my own when they are with me, but as far as allowing them to call me mom, no... I wouldn't want my kid calling someone else mom either..

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
15th Apr '13
Quoting ProginoskesII (SuperKink):" Heh, this reminded me of what my ex's daughter called him. He didn't see her for years and years, and ... [snip!] ... with no notice, is pretty much completely absent. So if she calls my BF "dad" or any variation on her own, I won't stop her."


That's what I call mine, too, when I'm talking about him. It's confusing when you have two. My step-dad is my DAD though. The man who created me is just "bio-dad." But since we've started to mend our relationship, I consider "bio-dad" a HUGE step up from what I used to refer to him as... "sperm-donor" Lol.