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Postpartum diagnosis :( Mama Oakerson + 3 princes 51 kids; Lawrenceville, Georgia 2158 posts
15th Apr '13

I had our third baby almost 7 months ago. I have been having symptoms since he was born but tried to pretend they weren't there. It has been getting worse and is beginning to drive a wedge in between my husband and I. I had PPD after my first and we separated for 5 months. We got back together and I got pregnant with our second and it went away. But now it is back and even worse. last time it just caused me to be sad and terrified to lose my baby. This time, I have that but way worse. And i can't stand to have sex, truthfully don't want him to touch me most of the time. I find myself angry all the time and the littlest thing irritates me. I love my husband and kids more than anything but there are many days that I just want to run away. The doc prescribed me meds but I really want to approach this naturally. I am really against anti-depressants. I don't know what to do, I had a pastor pray with me today at church. I feel so alone, I don't really want to discuss it with anyone close to me. I just want to be normal again. I feel like I am losing myself and I am so miserable.

Mom to M&J Due December 24 (girl); 18 kids; Michigan 5397 posts
15th Apr '13

You can always try St Johns Wart, diet change, exercise, sleep more if you can,.
Although if it is as bad as you say, medication sounds like an appropriate step to take. I hope you start feeling better . I've been there.

Mama Oakerson + 3 princes 51 kids; Lawrenceville, Georgia 2158 posts
15th Apr '13
Quoting Mom to M&J:" You can always try St Johns Wart, diet change, exercise, sleep more if you can,. Although if it is as ... [snip!] ... it is as bad as you say, medication sounds like an appropriate step to take. I hope you start feeling better . I've been there."


Thank you. How did you handle it? Did medication work for you? Did st. johns help? I bought some today.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18566 posts
15th Apr '13

Can I ask why you're against anti depressants? They I have truly work miracles for me... I tried St Johns wart but that didn't work for me..

Mama Oakerson + 3 princes 51 kids; Lawrenceville, Georgia 2158 posts
15th Apr '13
Quoting S U Z I E:" Can I ask why you're against anti depressants? They I have truly work miracles for me... I tried St Johns wart but that didn't work for me.."


My mother is a big pill popper and my brother passed away from a drug overdose. His addiction stemmed from taking pills and abusing prescriptions that led to shooting up heroin one night and taking xanax at same time. I know I would never do those things. He and I were very different. But the thought of taking anything like that scares me. I know I am different but I am so scared to become dependent on something. And I don't want to set an example for my sons to lead them on a path like he was.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18566 posts
15th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Oakerson + 3 princes:</b>" My mother is a big pill popper and my brother passed away from a drug overdose. His addiction stemmed ... [snip!] ... so scared to become dependent on something. And I don't want to set an example for my sons to lead them on a path like he was. "</blockquote>




I'm sorry for your loss...
Well, I'm actually an addict. Before I was described antidepressants I actually used illegal substances to self medicate.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
15th Apr '13

Why would you be anti anti-depressants?



Your body doesn't make hormones the way it should, anti-depressants correct that imbalance.



If you were a diabetic and your body didn't make the insulin it needed, would you be anti-insulin?



If they weren't called "anti-depressants" would you be so against them?



If you have a problem, you need to fix it. Having a problem doesn't make you broken. Having a problem and refusing to fix it, does.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
15th Apr '13

My suggestion would be to go ahead and start the medication while researching other more natural options. I really didn't want to get started on meds with my PPD, but I also knew how bad it could get. I took meds for a couple of months and was able to deal better. I stopped taking them for a month and then started again for another month. After that I felt pretty normal.
Just because you have to take meds now does not mean you will be on them forever. It should be a really low dose, which lessens chances of dependence. Sometimes meds really are the best option to fix the chemical imbalance that causes depression. Try them for a few weeks, if it doesn't help or get better than look into other options. But it should be a relatively short term solution. It's better to nip it in the bud before anything happens. Good luck with everything. I know how horrible PPD can be. I still think I'm dealing with some now, but I manage.

Mom to M&J Due December 24 (girl); 18 kids; Michigan 5397 posts
15th Apr '13
Quoting Mama Oakerson + 3 princes:" Thank you. How did you handle it? Did medication work for you? Did st. johns help? I bought some today."


I was prescribed Prozac and also an anti anxiety medication. After trying all of the homeopathic "remedies" to treat me ppd, I did use the medication, and it did help. I eventually got off of the Prozac and now just have the anti anxiety mediation for rare occasions that I need it. Making sure I stick to a sleep schedule and eat right are keys in keeping stable, but i'm not very good at the sleep schedule part. I take st johns wart daily now, and can definitely notice a difference if I don't take it. Although, it did not help at all when I was deep into the depression.

BBNO5NTHEOVEN Due April 25; 5 kids; California 4935 posts
15th Apr '13

Have you tried exercise? I don't know much about depression other than watching it really consume those I love. I'll pray for you that it lifts and soon. Are you still nursing? I'm always weird, don't want sex, grumpy, exhausted, overwhelmed.... and more when I'm nursing. I don't feel unhappy in fact I have felt so blessed since I married my hubby and despite the grump and everything I still love my life... But hubby is so forgiving and patient I think if he weren't it would be way more difficult to be happy. I also don't have the severe fear you describe. About 2 months after I stop BFing I start feeling normal again and then BOOM I get preggo again! Haha. If you need to talk you can message me <3

oscarsmom Colorado Springs, Colorado 31 posts
15th Apr '13

So sorry to hear you are dealing with this!! The organization I work for has a great resource/article about this on the website http://bit.ly/15aObLy - maybe this will help?