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f**k f**k Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
16th Apr '13

Called SO to see if we were gonna meet up later, he told me no because he was really mad at me. When I asked why he said "You told someone something very personal about me that I shared with you, and now it's a whole big mess. I will call you after my meeting to talk about it"



I am so anxious and mad at myself for being a blabber mouth even though I have absolutely no idea what I said. Fuuuuuuuuuuck me. Why do I always f**k things up???

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
16th Apr '13

you have no idea what he's talking about?

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
16th Apr '13

Did he say who you 'supposedly' told?

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
16th Apr '13

You don't even know what he's talking about dont be so hard on yourself! :/

Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Captain Obvious:" you have no idea what he's talking about?"


Absolutely none. I talk to my friends about a lot of things, but none of them are friends with him. I was talking to his sister about how we got back together but she swore secrecy and it's not like us getting back together needs to be some big dirty secret. f**k what the f**k did I say? I'm trying to remember but I can't. I said a lot of bad things about him when he was an addict and we were separated but that was months and months ago.

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 12139 posts
16th Apr '13

Is it possible he found your bg account and stumbled upon something?

Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" Did he say who you 'supposedly' told?"


Nope. I quoted word for word what he said to me. I'm very fearful because when I was an addict myself or when I'm drunk I say/said a lot of stupid shit. Oh man. I told him that I really wanted to talk it out and I wanted us to be okay. I wish we could talk now so I can know what I did and stop feeling anxious. But I have to wait a couple of hours.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting *PeanutButter*:" Is it possible he found your bg account and stumbled upon something?"

:!: "found" yep. I would not be shocked if my DH checked my BG regularly but if he did sometimes I think he would want to kick my ass.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
16th Apr '13

He's a freshly recovering addict. He's probably blowing something out of proportion because that's how they act lol.




Not trying to be rude, but this was the reason everyone here told you it was a bad idea to try things again at this point in time. It's going to be REALLY hard.

Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting *PeanutButter*:" Is it possible he found your bg account and stumbled upon something?"


Hope not. Going to start deleting shit. But he said I told somebody something, so I have a feeling it's a real life person that I said something to.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
16th Apr '13

Ok. Did not know there was a back story to this. Recovering addicts have a tendency to blame stuff on everyone else for awhile so I wouldn't be shocked if that was happening. I was with DH when I was coming down off of all the shit I used to take and I know it took a lot out of him but he was awesome for it.

Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" He's a freshly recovering addict. He's probably blowing something out of proportion because that's how ... [snip!] ... the reason everyone here told you it was a bad idea to try things again at this point in time. It's going to be REALLY hard."


Yeah I know. But that's the thing. I want to work through the hard stuff with him, because I love him. He's the father of my child and my lover.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
16th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:</b>" Hope not. Going to start deleting shit. But he said I told somebody something, so I have a feeling it's a real life person that I said something to."</blockquote>




thats pretty extreme.. If its about bg no point in deleting anything hes already seen it anywayd...

Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
16th Apr '13

I'm sorry :(



It is very true that the blame game goes on for awhile. I am a recovering addict and even though in my heart I knew that everything that happened in my marriage while I was using was my fault, I still tried to find ways to blame my DH. I know now that it was because of the guilt. If you blame someone else, you feel less guilty. It is stupid but that's just your mindset at that time. It gets better with time. I have been clean for over 2 years now and me and my DH are doing great.
Hang in there and if you need someone to talk to, you can pm me.

Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Sherri + 3:" I'm sorry :( It is very true that the blame game goes on for awhile. I am a recovering addict and even ... [snip!] ... clean for over 2 years now and me and my DH are doing great. Hang in there and if you need someone to talk to, you can pm me."


Thanks! I'm just super nervous about what he's going to say.