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SugaBritches. TTC since Jun 2014; 2 kids; Shaw AFB, SC, United States 8270 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Carissa Biron:" He actually sounds like he does care about you imo... My mom.and stepdad went through the same thing. ... [snip!] ... 17 years :) I think you should tell him you are pregnant, I have a feeling he will make a decision to run or commit if he knows"


He was the first to know that I was pregnant.
And about that...
I forgot to mention.
He doesn't want me to post anything about the baby on my fb, instagram etc. because we have mutual friends and "it'll make his life harder".



I"m so fucking confused.
He nutted up on me so bad when I posted on FB I was pregnant

Sock Lady 6 kids; 4 angel babies; Hell, ON, Canada 11734 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting SugaBritches.:" He was the first to know that I was pregnant. And about that... I forgot to mention. He doesn't want ... [snip!] ... and "it'll make his life harder". I"m so fucking confused. He nutted up on me so bad when I posted on FB I was pregnant "


Seriously? So what the hell is he going to do when the baby is born? Is he just going to make you hide it from the world so it doesn't "make his life harder"?



That's ridiculous hun.

SugaBritches. TTC since Jun 2014; 2 kids; Shaw AFB, SC, United States 8270 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Sock Lady:" Seriously? So what the hell is he going to do when the baby is born? Is he just going to make you hide it from the world so it doesn't "make his life harder"? That's ridiculous hun. "


That's what I said! I don't think he ever answered me.
In case you're wondering why it's all off my fb, that's why.

Mom to M&J Due December 24 (girl); 18 kids; Michigan 5397 posts
16th Apr '13

I agree with the other ladies. It seems like it is time for an ultimatum. He sounds like a good enough guy, but he also sounds selfish and immature. He wants to live the single life, but still have you around as back up for when he is lonely. Not saying he doesn't care about or have feelings for you, but he obviously isn't being that supportive. :(

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8149 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting SugaBritches.:" That's what I said! I don't think he ever answered me. In case you're wondering why it's all off my fb, that's why. "


If you want to post about the baby, do it. Don't let this wishy-washy guy make you take it all down.

Sock Lady 6 kids; 4 angel babies; Hell, ON, Canada 11734 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting SugaBritches.:" That's what I said! I don't think he ever answered me. In case you're wondering why it's all off my fb, that's why. "


Man...if he thinks people knowing about your pregnancy will make his life harder, he is in for a rude awakening when the baby is actually here.



I'm sorry you're going through all this hun.

Sock Lady 6 kids; 4 angel babies; Hell, ON, Canada 11734 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Nicola.:" If you want to post about the baby, do it. Don't let this wishy-washy guy make you take it all down."


:!::!:



Exactly! It's your life, and your Facebook, so he has no right to tell you what you can and cannot post about.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
16th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting SugaBritches.:</b>" He was the first to know that I was pregnant. And about that... I forgot to mention. He doesn't want ... [snip!] ... and "it'll make his life harder". I"m so fucking confused. He nutted up on me so bad when I posted on FB I was pregnant "</blockquote>




Ah I didnt realize he knew...
Hm. I would say cut all ties and tell hIm you need a break. Explain that you want to be with him but its just not fair to you or your babies and you feel strung along. Encourage him to make a decision...
but I think if he was an honest guy he would make a desicion when he found out you were pregnant... I'm surprised he hasnt made a desicion either way.

McLovin' 2 kids; Florida 20504 posts
16th Apr '13

It seems like he is afraid of committing to you, but he still wants to see you in private when it's most convenient to him. Basically have his cake and eat it too.

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
16th Apr '13

Hopefully what happened to me doesn't happen to you. My ex and I broke up, but we still saw each other, had sex, he still told me he loved me and wanted to be with me, but we shouldn't make it official yet. We should just be together without "being together." He strung me along for months. I thought he would finally be ready to commit. Turns out the whole time he was called me every morning and night, telling me he loves me, and saying we will be together soon, he was with another girl who was living at his house.
Based on my personal experience, if he's not ready to commit now, he will never be.

McLovin' 2 kids; Florida 20504 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" Hopefully what happened to me doesn't happen to you. My ex and I broke up, but we still saw each other, ... [snip!] ... another girl who was living at his house. Based on my personal experience, if he's not ready to commit now, he will never be."


I hate to jump to conclusions, but another woman came to mind for me as well. :?

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
16th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting McLovin':</b>" I hate to jump to conclusions, but another woman came to mind for me as well. :?"</blockquote>



That's what I thought, because her story is so similar to mine. I hope that's not it for her sake.

SugaBritches. TTC since Jun 2014; 2 kids; Shaw AFB, SC, United States 8270 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting McLovin':" I hate to jump to conclusions, but another woman came to mind for me as well. :?"

Nah I know it's not that at all.
I'm not worried about that in the slightest.

SugaBritches. TTC since Jun 2014; 2 kids; Shaw AFB, SC, United States 8270 posts
16th Apr '13

I have no fucking clue what to do.



He said he still get's his space with being how we are. But idk.
So hard to stay away :(

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8149 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting SugaBritches.:" I have no fucking clue what to do. He said he still get's his space with being how we are. But idk. So hard to stay away :("


Of course it is hard to stay away, you love him. But you deserve to be more than a tool to get him off. That is all he is using you for right now. If he can have sex with you and be out with his friends all the time why would he ever want to commit.



It would be different if all you wanted was sex too but it isn't all you want. You want more and you won't get it by being his convenient fuck buddy. Its going to be hard but the best thing for you to do would be let him go until he decides he does or does not want to be with you for good.