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does you SO/DH go to the gym? S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3828 posts
16th Apr '13

If so, how often do they go? Do they ever trade family time for gym time?



SO started going to the gym about 2 weeks ago. I'm so happy SO found something he is passionate about, but I know him - and he has a very addictive personality. He usually just goes after work for an hour or 2. But now it's all he wants to do.



I just don't want to see him take it too far and end up hurting himself in the end. Is there a limit I should let him get to before I try to put my foot down? SO is the type of guy that will take evvvvveeeryything to the extreme.



I do not mind him going at all, but today (for the first time) he traded spending this beautiful day with our son at the park, for gym time. It was just once, but I see it being an issue for me and him in the future.



He could have easily gone after we took him to the playground, but he refused and had to go then and there. I just don't want to see him get too far into going to the gym and getting fit that it becomes all he thinks about.



He has the tendency to do that with a lot of things. Do you ladies think I should talk to him about it now? Kinda set some rules: ex family time comes first, especially since we had plans first. Or should I just let him do his thing and if/when it starts becoming a problem, deal with it then??

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60983 posts
16th Apr '13

Yes. He goes every day for around 3 hours, sometimes it drives me up a wall, but eh.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3828 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting homes cool:" Yes. He goes every day for around 3 hours, sometimes it drives me up a wall, but eh. "


yea, SO is starting to go for longer and longer. It started just a half hour, then an hour, now hour in a half. Now he's spending loads of money on supplements and such. I'm all for him being healthy. But I know he has a problem of taking things too far. And I don't want this to become an addiction more than a passion or something he enjoys.

Flag 1 child; Newmarket, Ontario 1681 posts
16th Apr '13

Talk to him about it. That is nooot okay!

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60983 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting S ♥ J ♥ L:" yea, SO is starting to go for longer and longer. It started just a half hour, then an hour, now hour ... [snip!] ... a problem of taking things too far. And I don't want this to become an addiction more than a passion or something he enjoys. "


Yea. My husband has spent money on supplements, but I tend to load him up with gift cards for it on his birthday or Christmas so it doesn't affect our every day budget.

A, E & W's mommy 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Bulgaria 16021 posts
16th Apr '13

I would tell him it bothers you but don't lay down rules yet, just mention it so if it does get bad you bringing it up won't be out of the blue

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3828 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Flag:" Talk to him about it. That is nooot okay!"


that's what I'm scared of. I mean, he did ASK if he could go to the gym instead. But I mean, come on! Trading time with our kid for time at the gym is not cool with me. But I just brushed it off and I got to spend quality time with him :) so pfft to him! lol

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3828 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting A, E & W's mommy:" I would tell him it bothers you but don't lay down rules yet, just mention it so if it does get bad you bringing it up won't be out of the blue"


good idea! We're not a "rule" type of relationship, but I know if I don't put my foot down for him, he'll take things waaaaaay too far.

Super Mommy! Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12795 posts
16th Apr '13

1.5 hours: 6 days/week. Guys who are into working out love the gym. DH does not let gymtime interfere with our family time. Our family day is all day Sunday and we always sit down as a family and have dinner everyday. I run 4 miles 3 times a week tho. Its never been a problem for us. I'd rather he be at the gym than gaming.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3828 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Super Mommy!:" I'd rather he be at the gym than gaming."


lmao my SO does both! gaming doesn't bother me at all, he barely has time for it anymore and when he does, it's after LO is asleep and I'm ready for bed anyway.

PrincessCupcake Due October 23 (girl); 1 child; Palm Harbor, Florida 170 posts
16th Apr '13

My husband never works out, I don't want to nag him about it but blah, I worry about his health!
I'm the one who is always dipping out to go for a run or work out. He doesn't really mind. He works 7 am- 12 am during the week and I work from home and keep our daughter so sometimes family time has to take a backseat to mommy needing a break lol.
I don't think it matters what the activity is, if you feel like it is taking away from time that should be spent together, then you should talk to him about it.

JoAnna &hearts's Jett Due January 20 (boy); 1 child; Midlothian, TX, United States 6337 posts
status 16th Apr '13

Yup! He does crossfit for about 3-4 days. That's like 1.5 hours. Then on the other days he runs like 5 miles a day. Lol it doesn't interfere with our family time. I like that he goes though, because if he doesn't he's moody an falling asleep on the couch! Plus when he works out our sex life is ten times better. I work out too though, like 4 times a week.

Iyahna :^P Southern California, CA, United States 13109 posts
status 16th Apr '13

Almost everyday after work.I dont mind.He comes home happier and I'm loving the results.I used to go with before i got pregnant.

Gone 17 kids; Miami, FL, United States 15414 posts
16th Apr '13

Yes but we go together. We both go for only 1 hour, from around 6:30 to 7:30 PM, 5 days a week. So I dont think it takes away from family time.

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11601 posts
16th Apr '13

Yes, my husband works out every morning. He gets up by 5:00 a.m. and goes to work a couple of hours later. His job depends on staying in shape but even if he didn't have to he probably would and I'm okay with that. In fact, I support it 100%.



I think your husband wanting to work out an hour or two every day is fine, even if he missed a day at the park. Everyone needs some "me" time. If he's partaking in something healthy and isn't spending every single minute of his free time there and neglecting his family entirely then I see no issue. In fact, him exercising is ensuring his health and a longer future with you guys.