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user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs. Grinch:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I love Kenzi:</b>" you wernt dumped bc you were fat your were ... [snip!] ... Well when I was 17 I gained weight from the depo, and my exes friends made fun of him for being with a fatty so he dumped me."

oh jesus you have to get over that. 17 year old boys are immutare. i cant even count how many boys in my highschool broke up with their gf's because they were p***y whipped for buying the girl flowers.
he had a problem with standing up to his friends. they were probably jealous and wanted it to end. calling a dudes gf fat is like the first trick in the book

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs. Grinch:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TootsMcGoots:</b>" Really? You think your son deserves better ... [snip!] ... I had no idea what I was in for. I'm just surrounded by girls who bounced back like nothing and I got stuck with the fat genes"


Those girls are the freaks of nature lol Chin up, mama, it takes time :)



Also, they're not "fat genes". It's baby weight that may or may not go completely away. Hips widen permanently, so don't think you're fat because your bones shifted.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting I love Kenzi:" mine is trying to lose weight since he got his letter for testing to be a police officer. i swear he is more moody than i am this time around"


OMG MINE TOO! I ask him all the time "Are you sure YOU aren't pregnant you a*****e?" lol

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" OMG MINE TOO! I ask him all the time "Are you sure YOU aren't pregnant you a*****e?" lol"


he has been feeling sick for 2 months lmao

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting IDGAF ❤:" I am fat & I enjoy it haha. I figure, if a guy likes me he will like me fat and all lol. Even then, ... [snip!] ... I am so if someone doesn't like it, that is their problem, not mine. What someone thinks of me affects my daily life in no way."


I'd much rather enjoy a good night out with my husband, than worry about the calories in my food. I'm honestly happier now chubby than I ever was skinny. Would I like to weigh less? Sure. But I have a man that loves me and we do things we enjoy and have a great family. Screw it.

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs. Grinch:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Rowdy:</b>" Awe hun, sounds like your pretty miserable... ... [snip!] ... Ya it did. I've been bottling it up because no one will listen. Is that like surgery? Or just hair and nails stuff?"


Good, Im glad you got it out :) There are a lot of women on here willing to listen, me included if you ever need to talk. Although, it might be a good idea to see a professional because honestly, if you are talking about depression, you need to see someone who can help, not just listen.

I find hair and nails does a fantastic job of perking me up! I dont have kids yet so I can afford to have a pamper day pretty regularly, and its fantastic, not sure if thats something you could try to do for yourself too.

The mummy make over is surgery to take off the left over skin on the belly and some times includes a b**b lift. Obviously dont do this yet if you are planning on having more babies. Having said that, I didnt realise you didnt have your baby that long ago. Seriously, what you are doing is working, it does take time..

nothingness Arizona 3578 posts
16th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:</b>" While it is great that you are working towards a healthier weight, you should also look into a healthier ... [snip!] ... I know it's hard to feel good about yourself when you don't like what you see, but the way you're talking about it's extreme."</blockquote>




I am setting up counseling, but it takes time to get in. I can't do meds yet (bf) so it'll have to be natural therapies for now. Idk I just got set off cuz I wanted to send my SO a dirty pic but all I saw were rolls and stretch marks. Just 190 lbs of disgusting skin. And saggy b**bs, and cellulite that I didn't have before. Dammit there I go again :(

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30523 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I'd much rather enjoy a good night out with my husband, than worry about the calories in my food. I'm ... [snip!] ... Would I like to weigh less? Sure. But I have a man that loves me and we do things we enjoy and have a great family. Screw it."


I would rather enjoy my meal and be a fatty, than eat food that tastes like cardboard and be skinny lol. I mean yea sure, to weigh less would be awesome but I am comfortable with who I am.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
16th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs. Grinch:" <blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:</b>" While it is great that you are ... [snip!] ... marks. Just 190 lbs of disgusting skin. And saggy b**bs, and cellulite that I didn't have before. Dammit there I go again :("

im almost 300 lbs shame on me =) when i was 220 i sent naughty pictures to my so. he liked them lmao

nothingness Arizona 3578 posts
16th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Rowdy:</b>" Good, Im glad you got it out :) There are a lot of women on here willing to listen, me included if ... [snip!] ... that, I didnt realise you didnt have your baby that long ago. Seriously, what you are doing is working, it does take time.."</blockquote>




Oh no no no no I have horrible anxiety about going under. I can do a pamper day though, on Friday. Ill see if it helps.



But f**k my 45 year old mother looks better than me after 3 damn babies. That's not ok to me. I just wished I loved myself. Idk how to. I want to. It's just habit and normal to hate myself

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
16th Apr '13

ill tell you a secret tons of men love chunkier women they just dont say so bc they are worried about what their friends would think

nothingness Arizona 3578 posts
16th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I love Kenzi:</b>" im almost 300 lbs shame on me =) when i was 220 i sent naughty pictures to my so. he liked them lmao"</blockquote>




But if you're happy then it's nothing. I'm not saying I think this about all big women, just I have high standards for myself and I promised I'd never go back to 200 lbs. and I broke it. It's unacceptable to me for me to be overweight.

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs. Grinch:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Rowdy:</b>" Good, Im glad you got it out :) There are ... [snip!] ... babies. That's not ok to me. I just wished I loved myself. Idk how to. I want to. It's just habit and normal to hate myself"


From what I have been reading, Ive been pretty close to where you are now. Im glad your setting up counselling, I know it worked wonders for me.

To be honest, pamper days really do make me feel good about myself. I get compliments, and it makes me feel good. I also had to kind of force myself into loving me. That was a task but I did it. Pick one thing about yourself that you really like, say your eyes or lips or b**bs lol. Then focus on that, buy awesome eye shadow or learn to do smokey eye make up, get a sexy deep red lipstick, and instead of focussing on how yucky other parts are start to focus on how shiney your hair is or how long your fingernails are. Then send your SO a pic of that. Like send him one of just your lips blowing him a kiss, or give him a sexy wink etc. He will love it, and hopefully that will help build your confidence :)

nothingness Arizona 3578 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I love Kenzi:</b>" ill tell you a secret tons of men love chunkier women they just dont say so bc they are worried about what their friends would think"</blockquote>




They love confidence too, and I don't have it. I just don't get why he stays, when there's babes he can have his pick from out there. Just cuz I had his baby I feel like he's just here for that. It might be my own mind twisting itself but that's how I feel. Why is here? Why doesn't he treat me like the others did?



I just don't get it. I don't believe he's that one in a millon men that are truly genuine and all around good.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30523 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting I love Kenzi:" ill tell you a secret tons of men love chunkier women they just dont say so bc they are worried about what their friends would think"


Seriously!! Sooo many dudes LOVE chunky girls...and I have even converted a dude who was use to always being with skinny chicks lol. I may be chunky but I have a pretty face & that goes a LONG way, further than a skinny chick with a fucked up face lol.