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How do i tell my parents? LastTimePartyers Due December 19; Missouri 1 posts
17th Apr '13

so yesterday me and my boyfriend found out i was pregnant. the problem is I'm only 13 and my boyfriend is 17. the thing I'm nervous about most is my parents reaction and how to tell them. i would like to keep the baby but i know I'm not old enough or mature to take care of them. I'm considering abortion but if someone wants to have a kid and can't i want to give mine to them. help?

MamaKate<3 TTC since Mar 2012; 2 kids; Ohio 16935 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting LastTimePartyers:" so yesterday me and my boyfriend found out i was pregnant. the problem is I'm only 13 and my boyfriend ... [snip!] ... to take care of them. I'm considering abortion but if someone wants to have a kid and can't i want to give mine to them. help?"


Are you for real?

Squeaky McGee [17 wks] Due May 7; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65960 posts
17th Apr '13

I can't even begin to relate to your situation, but you're definitely too young to raise a baby. If you're considering abortion, you need to tell your parents soon. They're going to find out eventually, and if you wait too long, you won't be able to have an abortion. If you're planning on keeping the baby, you'll need to get prenatal care. Just say, "Mom, dad, I screwed up and now I'm pregnant. Help me." They'll probably be pissed (I know I would be), but you're their child and they'll help you figure things out. Good luck.

αuτumnαl ~, FL, United States 67866 posts
17th Apr '13

"Mom, Dad...I'm pregnant."



I'd say you shouldn't be having sex that young and you should be on BC if you weren't. Maybe you'll hear it from your parents.

ivalilly 1 child; Kansas 603 posts
17th Apr '13

You're going to have to tell your parents, dear. I know it's scary. They will need to be there for you to even get an abortion or make any decisions about this baby because you are too young and by law, need parental consent for any procedures performed.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
17th Apr '13

Look into adoption if you'd like to do it. Otherwise, if I were in your shoes, I'd abort.
Motherhood is no joke and at that age I just think it'd really drag you down. You're too young for a job, too young to drive....



But as for telling your parents, just tell them. It'll be hard and maybe a bit scary to you but they can help you get through it, hopefully.

MamaKate<3 TTC since Mar 2012; 2 kids; Ohio 16935 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting hokey pokey.:" Look into adoption if you'd like to do it. Otherwise, if I were in your shoes, I'd abort. Motherhood ... [snip!] ... your parents, just tell them. It'll be hard and maybe a bit scary to you but they can help you get through it, hopefully. "


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Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
17th Apr '13

You are in a very adult situations so you are going to have to just tell them. Most likely they will be angry, sad, and/or disappointed. But you are not old enough to handle this on your own. Whether you choose to keep the baby or abort, your best resource is your family at this point.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14181 posts
17th Apr '13

Tell them so they can help you make the best choice, which in your case is abortion or adoption. Both are tough at any age and you need all the support you can.



Also your 17 year old boyfriend has no business with a 13 year old. I get the appeal of an older guy, but stick to guys around your own age to avoid future problems like this.



Good luck, hun.

ivalilly 1 child; Kansas 603 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" "Mom, Dad...I'm pregnant." I'd say you shouldn't be having sex that young and you should be on BC if you weren't. Maybe you'll hear it from your parents."


And this. Please get on BC after all is said and done. Or don't have sex.You are so so young and have so much to look forward to other than turning into an adult so quickly.

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
17th Apr '13

Just be frank and tell them as soon as possible. Get on birth control, and I'd abort in your situation.

Tracy B 1 child; Doncaster, United Kingdom 640 posts
17th Apr '13

Sweetheart, I think you already know what your parents reaction will be, but you must tell them asap. You need to sit down with them and please listen to what they have to say. They will be mad, upset and disappointed but please tell them.



It is not as simple as just giving your baby away, when you carry your little one for 9 months, felt it move, hiccup, then give birth to them, you may feel completely different, I would lay down my life for my little boy from the moment I found out I was pregnant. Also I do not think an abortion is an easy option as you think it will be, I am all for abortion as I believe it is the womans choice and it is your choice completely.



Good luck for the future and let us know how you get on x

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 21066 posts
17th Apr '13

If my daughter came to me and said she was pregnant...I don't even know what I'd do. I'd cry, alot probably, and then I'd talk over her options with her. ALL of her options.



OP, it's pretty simple at this point. Mom and dad, can I talk to you? I found out yesterday I'm pregnant. I'm scared, and I don't know what I want to do. Can you please talk about this with me?



And then once you make your decision, either way, look into some serious BC. Good luck!

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Tell them so they can help you make the best choice, which in your case is abortion or adoption. Both ... [snip!] ... I get the appeal of an older guy, but stick to guys around your own age to avoid future problems like this. Good luck, hun. "</blockquote>



!!!!!!



ETA: Also, won't the bf be charged?

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
17th Apr '13

My mom had me at 13.. she didn't tell my nanny until she was 6 months pregnant and she couldn't have an abortion because she needed her permission and knew there was no way in hell she would give it to her (my nanny is EXTREMELY pro life)
I would tell them. Flat out.. "I'm pregnant and I need your help deciding what to do"
I'm glad you're mature enough to realize that you can't parent this child... but girl, you should still be playing with barbies, not having sex!