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JKBC♡ 2 kids; Somewhere, PA, United States 10297 posts
17th Apr '13

Please just come out and tell them, they can help you with your decision of what to do before it's too late. Since you are already aware that you are not mature enough to take care of a child, I would abort in your situation, at 13 there is no need to put your body through the stress of a pregnancy, your body will never be the same. You are so young, give your body the time to mature naturally, not forced to go through theheavy toll of a pregnancy. Good luck sweetie, and get on BC after this.

ivalilly 1 child; Kansas 603 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" My mom had me at 13.. she didn't tell my nanny until she was 6 months pregnant and she couldn't have ... [snip!] ... enough to realize that you can't parent this child... but girl, you should still be playing with barbies, not having sex!"


Absolutely agree with this. I am glad that OP realizes that they ARE too young to handle this on their own. That is a mature thing for her to realize.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Tell them so they can help you make the ... [snip!] ... own age to avoid future problems like this. Good luck, hun. "</blockquote> !!!!!! ETA: Also, won't the bf be charged?"


Probably not. My mom had me at 13.. my dad was 19 when I was born. Nothing was done.. that was 22 years ago though.

ivalilly 1 child; Kansas 603 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" Probably not. My mom had me at 13.. my dad was 19 when I was born. Nothing was done.. that was 22 years ago though."


If OP is from America, though, there is a good chance he might be for statutory (sp? sorry) rape. I can't remember if the partner has to be 16 and up or 18 and up to be charged with anything like that.

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
17th Apr '13

I can not relate. But if it were me, is abort. I couldn't imagine putting my body through pregnancy and labor at such a young age with an underdeveloped body. Just be honest with your parents. There is no good way to break to break the news gently

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting ivalilly:" If OP is from America, though, there is a good chance he might be for statutory (sp? sorry) rape. I ... [snip!] ... (sp? sorry) rape. I can't remember if the partner has to be 16 and up or 18 and up to be charged with anything like that."


She lives in Missouri and the law here is the minor has to be under the age of consent (16) and the adult has to be over 21 (if I remember correctly). He most likely won't be charged.

ivalilly 1 child; Kansas 603 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Future Hapa Mama-11 Weeks:" She lives in Missouri and the law here is the minor has to be under the age of consent (16) and the adult has to be over 21 (if I remember correctly). He most likely won't be charged. "



Thank you! :) I could not for the life of me remember.

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting ivalilly:" Thank you! :) I could not for the life of me remember."


No problem! But of course every case is different. It would all depend if the state wanted to prosecute.

ivalilly 1 child; Kansas 603 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Future Hapa Mama-11 Weeks:" No problem! But of course every case is different. It would all depend if the state wanted to prosecute. "


That's very true. Or if the parents of this girl wanted to try to press charges as well, I suppose.

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting ivalilly:" That's very true. Or if the parents of this girl wanted to try to press charges as well, I suppose."


The state would probably do it on their behalf since it would be criminal.

GavinsMomJohnnysWife 2 kids; Texas 2789 posts
17th Apr '13

OP just tell them in the calmest way possible. It's easiest to tell the parent you are closest with. I think raising a child at 13 would be extremely hard and you should discuss all of the available options before making a decision.

ivalilly 1 child; Kansas 603 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Future Hapa Mama-11 Weeks:" The state would probably do it on their behalf since it would be criminal. "


That's true, too. I guess the state would find out one way or another for sure.

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting ivalilly:" That's true, too. I guess the state would find out one way or another for sure."


I have heard doctors are required to report underage pregnancies. But I am not 100%.

ivalilly 1 child; Kansas 603 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Future Hapa Mama-11 Weeks:" I have heard doctors are required to report underage pregnancies. But I am not 100%."



I would think they would be obligated to. I kind of hope so. Really, a 17 year old should not be messing around with a 13 year old in my opinion. That is just taking advantage of a young, vulnerable child who would probably do anything an older person asks them to, to be accepted. :/ I hope that isn't the case. I just hate that for kids who think they have to have sex so young to be accepted into society.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Future Hapa Mama-11 Weeks:</b>" The state would probably do it on their behalf since it would be criminal. "</blockquote>



That's how it is here so I wasn't sure. If someone is under 16 then the state automatically presses charges even if the parents don't want to.