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Smoking around your kids NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
17th Apr '13

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Does it bother you when people do it? Do you say something? What about if you are in their home?
I'm at my grandparent's house right now... though they don't smoke right in front of DD.. they do it in the computer room which is on the main floor right beside the living room and kitchen. They literally light up every 15 minutes (not an exaggeration whatsoever either, if anything I'm down playing it) there is no ventilation because there is plastic on every window in this damn house- except the one in the computer room but they never fucking open it :roll: and you can SEE the smoke in the living room(and smell it, obviously). I don't say anything though because it isn't my house there for I feel it isn't my place. I just brought DD upstairs to play in the pack and play while she watches Dora. I don't want to be rude to them and staying up here and away from them is the only way I can avoid it because honestly it pisses me the fuck off. If they gave a shit about her they would smoke in the porch or outside or at least open a fucking window. She coughs her lungs out :( I'm afraid it's going to affect her long term, we've been here for a few weeks. Can't wait to leave Saturday!

Elle With FOUR! 4 kids; Wichita, KS, United States 18964 posts
17th Apr '13

We wouldn't go somewhere like that....I was protective of my first child, but when my second needed heart surgery to stay alive, people learned pretty darn quickly that it's not something they do if they value their life.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
17th Apr '13

I don't think a couple of weeks will affect her long-term, but I don't think it's right to smoke around a child. But like you said, their house their rules. Good thing you'll be leaving soon.

Momma x 2 18 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 1371 posts
17th Apr '13

I would say something. I never let anyone smoke around my children, even if we're outside, I always ask them to move away while they are smoking and I've never once had them inside with any smokers.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22368 posts
status 17th Apr '13

I would just take the plastic off one window and open it. You could nicely ask them not to smoke in the house but you never know how that will go

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
17th Apr '13

I wouldn't go over there.



You can't ask them to change what they choose to do in their own home. But I would stay away.

Princess Celestia +1 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3636 posts
17th Apr '13

I would say something, regardless of who's house it is. I know it's their own house, but if they refused, we'd leave. And if I knew they liked to smoke in the house, I doubt we'd go to begin with...



My mom's ex-husband used to do that while I was in the room or in the car, I got such awful headaches from it as a child.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Blythe.:" I would just take the plastic off one window and open it. You could nicely ask them not to smoke in the house but you never know how that will go"


Nah I'm not taking the plastic off a window.. my poppa will have a shit fit. He'd have a shit fit about me asking for them to smoke outside too because that would mean he'd literally have to be out there all day with the amount he smokes. He'd most likely think me a bitch for saying something about it.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
17th Apr '13

My mom smokes l

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Staten Island, NY, United States 29663 posts
17th Apr '13

I would take the plastic off the window as well. I'm assuming it's somewhere you HAVE to be right now? I know it's easy for people to say, "I wouldn't take my kid there." I'd say something like that too :lol: :roll: lol My MIL is a chain smoker and we don't take our kids there. WHEN we do, we stand in the rinky dink little kitchen and we hold the door open, lmfao. IDC if it's the dead of winter and IDC if it pisses them off. My kids lungs are more important than their heating costs. Anyway, I got off topic- at least take the plastic off in the room your in and crack it- if they say anything, say that she has a little asthma and the pediatrician has mentioned in the past that the ventilation is good for her. :)



GL mama.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Elle With Three &1/2:" We wouldn't go somewhere like that....I was protective of my first child, but when my second needed heart ... [snip!] ... heart surgery to stay alive, people learned pretty darn quickly that it's not something they do if they value their life."



!!!! same thing. My friend and her sister smokes in their house. When I was pregnant, my friend kept telling me that she would keep my son if I had to go in the hospital and I was so hell bent on that happening because I didnt want him in a smoke ridden home, and I didnt want to tell her not to smoke in her house.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Princess Celestia [12]:" I would say something, regardless of who's house it is. I know it's their own house, but if they refused, ... [snip!] ... My mom's ex-husband used to do that while I was in the room or in the car, I got such awful headaches from it as a child."


Which is why we're hardly ever here. I feel bad because they live three hours from us and hardly get to see DD unless we come here, but I can't subject her to it too often.

babycakes! 18 kids; Orem, Utah 1939 posts
17th Apr '13

If yourbstaying with them then I would have said something...butbif you are only there for an hour or so..maybe not...my grandma smokes in her house, and I will only allow rilan inside for maybe 15minutes at a time...she doesn't smoke when he is there, but it lingers...

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22368 posts
status 17th Apr '13
Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" Nah I'm not taking the plastic off a window.. my poppa will have a shit fit. He'd have a shit fit about ... [snip!] ... have to be out there all day with the amount he smokes. He'd most likely think me a bitch for saying something about it."


Can you turn a fan on to at least circulate some air?

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting tinana+2:" I would take the plastic off the window as well. I'm assuming it's somewhere you HAVE to be right now? ... [snip!] ... that she has a little asthma and the pediatrician has mentioned in the past that the ventilation is good for her. :) GL mama."


Long story but until Saturday, yes. When we're upstairs you can't really smell it but I know it's still in the air. Think I will take it off up here, my poppa never comes in this room, thanks. :) and we're going to go for a nice long walk today. When SO gets here Friday we'll be out all day and then Saturday we get to leave. :)