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Cast Your Vote:

    • Yes, they need to understand. -- Votes: 4
    • No, they are too young. -- Votes: 29
    • Other . . . (explain please) -- Votes: 4
Monique and Dominic's mom 2 kids; Wyoming 2769 posts
17th Apr '13

I haven't talked to DD about it, we don't have cable, so she hasn't seen the news.

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11950 posts
17th Apr '13

Our youngest is only eight months old, so no way I could explain it. Our oldest is only three years old, she wouldn't understand without thinking the entire world is bad. I don't want to explain every bad thing in the world to our kids until they are much older and can understand that they don't need to be afraid every moment of their lives.

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29496 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mom of Tristan/Rayah +1:</b>" I feel you can't keep them in the dark about what the world is all about. Don't need naive children. ... [snip!] ... My eldest is 12 1/2 but I have always told him things since he was young as he is very inquisitive so he wanted to know things."</blockquote>



I don't see it as raising naive children. My son knows there are bad people and bad things happen but I don't need to sit him down every time something happens and explain it. He doesn't know about sandy hook either. Why terrify my kid of going to school?

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30558 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Mom of Tristan/Rayah +1:" I feel you can't keep them in the dark about what the world is all about. Don't need naive children. ... [snip!] ... My eldest is 12 1/2 but I have always told him things since he was young as he is very inquisitive so he wanted to know things."


No, they don't NEED to know what can happen. Why rob our children of their innocence?

Mom of Tristan/Rayah/Keat 3 kids; Alberta 2068 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♫♥♬:</b>" my kid is 3, she does not need to know about that...she does know that there are bad people that can hurt her, but im not explaining this."</blockquote>




But like I said I had a very inquisitive 4-5 year old son. If he seen something he wanted to know what it was about. I never offered the information just if he asked. He is still this way and likes to know everything. You guys in the states have more tradegy then we do where I live. So you guys have to deal with things differently then I feel I have too.

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" Pretty much same here. We see and deal with enough weird shit everyday--they're not clueless. I'm just ... [snip!] ... I'm just not going to add to it by showing them every big tragedy and disaster & talking about it. It's too much. "


yep..I have already told her that she does not let anyone touch her private parts, and if they do to tell mommy or daddy (shes always with me though!) but still, I also tell her not to go outside alone because she can get hit by a car, or someone can steal her. We use the chain on the door and stuff but STILL! in public I tell her stay with mommy and daddy and not to run off for those same reasons as well.

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29496 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mom of Tristan/Rayah +1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♫♥♬:</b>" my kid is 3, she does not need ... [snip!] ... the states have more tradegy then we do where I live. So you guys have to deal with things differently then I feel I have too."</blockquote>




I don't have cable. My son never saw news coverage. Even when I did have cable I didn't watch with him around. He's inquisitive and if he asks something I explain but I'm not going out of my way to ruin his innocence and burden him with the things as adults that we have to worry about.

Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6099 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Mom of Tristan/Rayah +1:" I feel you can't keep them in the dark about what the world is all about. Don't need naive children. ... [snip!] ... My eldest is 12 1/2 but I have always told him things since he was young as he is very inquisitive so he wanted to know things."


Yes we do need children who are naive they are children. My oldest is 4 and he's still a baby there is no need for him not to be naive I mean when he's older and starts asking I'll explain things to him. At this age, it is the age of innocence and I want him to be as innocent and pure as I can, he needs to be playing games and using his imagination and being a kid not feeling like he knows this world is evil.

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30558 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting ♫♥♬:" yep..I have already told he that she does not let anyone touch her private parts, and if they do to ... [snip!] ... the door and stuff but STILL! in public I tell her stay with mommy and daddy and not to run off for those same reasons as well."


Those are two completely different things. There is a difference between telling them things they know so they can protect themselves (scream if someone tries to grab you, etc).. and you telling them about a bombing that happened across the country. There isn't a need for that.

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Vindictive:" Those are two completely different things. There is a difference between telling them things they know ... [snip!] ... tries to grab you, etc).. and you telling them about a bombing that happened across the country. There isn't a need for that."


yep, exactly!

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29496 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" Those are two completely different things. There is a difference between telling them things they know ... [snip!] ... tries to grab you, etc).. and you telling them about a bombing that happened across the country. There isn't a need for that."</blockquote>




Agreed! I tell my son about not answering the door, not wandering off, talking to strangers but I didn't tell him about something that has no effect on him

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Akeema:" Yes we do need children who are naive they are children. My oldest is 4 and he's still a baby there ... [snip!] ... as I can, he needs to be playing games and using his imagination and being a kid not feeling like he knows this world is evil."


Totally, I want her to not be scared of the world yet, shes safe here with me most of the time! I want her to be happy and not worry about stuff for as long as possible!

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting ChristinaLynne:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" Those are two completely different things. ... [snip!] ... not answering the door, not wandering off, talking to strangers but I didn't tell him about something that has no effect on him"


me too, I tell her never to asnwer the door because she does not know who is there. Even if DHs friends are here, I do not leave my kids side! you never know someone can just up and run off :/

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11950 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Mom of Tristan/Rayah +1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♫♥♬:</b>" my kid is 3, she does not need ... [snip!] ... the states have more tradegy then we do where I live. So you guys have to deal with things differently then I feel I have too."


I have two very curious kids, most kids are. Our eight month old is currently experimenting away with different toys on the floor. Our three year old is playing with her doll house holding conversations between her stuffed frog and duck. If our three year old asks about it, which I doubt she will, I won't lie but I also won't explain everything in detail either. I may tell her that sometimes bad things happen and leave it at that. I won't tell her so much information that it scares her of starting school next year.



I agree with you in that kids are curious and as parents we should answer questions honestly. I just believe we should answer those questions with age appropriate answers too.

Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6099 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting ♫♥♬:" yep..I have already told her that she does not let anyone touch her private parts, and if they do to ... [snip!] ... the door and stuff but STILL! in public I tell her stay with mommy and daddy and not to run off for those same reasons as well."


My son knows those things too, but as far as the fact that we are at war, that people are dying every day over seas, that people want to kill each other and destroy each other. I think that they don't need that.