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ArmyWife & Mom x3 TTC since Jan 2014; 3 kids; Colorado 2065 posts
status 17th Apr '13

I would call. Like others have said she may need help or at least a wake-up call.

Akeema 18 kids; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 5979 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Future Hapa Mama-11 Weeks:" Call CPS. That sounds like child neglect, IMO."

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I don't see why you're debating. Call them, which would you rather see the baby being taken away or the baby dead?

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
17th Apr '13

I am on the phone with them now.

Akeema 18 kids; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 5979 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Jeeper:" I am on the phone with them now."



Good.

Elliot Grace (17 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18104 posts
17th Apr '13

I may get slack for this, but if I was honestly putting myself in your shoes I would talk to her and/or help her before calling. She was your roommate, I'd give her a chance to shape up and get her shit together first. But I also understand there is a very thin line between trying to help and going too far when help should get involved




Eta I think it's up to you and how well you know your roommate

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112296 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:" I may get slack for this, but if I was honestly putting myself in your shoes I would talk to her and/or ... [snip!] ... trying to help and going too far when help should get involved Eta I think it's up to you and how well you know your roommate"


I feel like this too. She should offer to watch the baby for a few days while her roommate has time to talk to someone, maybe get on meds if they decide thats the best course of action.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:" I may get slack for this, but if I was honestly putting myself in your shoes I would talk to her and/or ... [snip!] ... trying to help and going too far when help should get involved Eta I think it's up to you and how well you know your roommate"

True. I think she'd also know whether a talk would do any good anyway.

Elliot Grace (17 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18104 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:</b>" I feel like this too. She should offer to watch the baby for a few days while her roommate has time to talk to someone, maybe get on meds if they decide thats the best course of action. "</blockquote>




Maybe it's just because my roommates have always been my best friends and I'd do anything for them lol. Oh college

Elliot Grace (17 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18104 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" True. I think she'd also know whether a talk would do any good anyway."</blockquote>




Exactly

Akeema 18 kids; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 5979 posts
17th Apr '13

I think you guys aren't taking the child in to consideration. The baby is in really bad shape, she needs help now.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112296 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Akeema:" I think you guys aren't taking the child in to consideration. The baby is in really bad shape, she needs help now."


Because OP cant do that while the mom gets her shit together? What help is a foster home going to do that the OP cant? I mean I know its asking a lot of the OP but that is something I'd be more than willing to do for a friend

Elliot Grace (17 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18104 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Akeema:</b>" I think you guys aren't taking the child in to consideration. The baby is in really bad shape, she needs help now."</blockquote>




I totally understand this side too, that's why I am so conflicted. But I was being totally honest, if it were me with my old roommate I would opt to help her than get CPS involved. But if something happened to the baby I'd never forgive myself either. There is no wrong choice in this situation IMO

Aura and Luna's Mommy 2 kids; Danville, Indiana 5805 posts
17th Apr '13

She already offered to help that one day and she obviously didn't want her help because she left the baby alone while she took a shower. Sounds like either she needs to accept the help or CPS should get involved.. Either way, sounds like PPD and she needs to get help

Akeema 18 kids; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 5979 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" Because OP cant do that while the mom gets her shit together? What help is a foster home going to do ... [snip!] ... do that the OP cant? I mean I know its asking a lot of the OP but that is something I'd be more than willing to do for a friend"


She already offered to help and was told no. So I think at this point the only way this woman is going to take help and have her child saved is if they force her to.

ArmyWife & Mom x3 TTC since Jan 2014; 3 kids; Colorado 2065 posts
status 17th Apr '13
Quoting Akeema:" She already offered to help and was told no. So I think at this point the only way this woman is going to take help and have her child saved is if they force her to."



I agree.