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Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6013 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Future Hapa Mama-11 Weeks:" Call CPS. That sounds like child neglect, IMO."

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I don't see why you're debating. Call them, which would you rather see the baby being taken away or the baby dead?

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
17th Apr '13

I am on the phone with them now.

Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6013 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Jeeper:" I am on the phone with them now."



Good.

ElleBelle (37 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 22468 posts
17th Apr '13

I may get slack for this, but if I was honestly putting myself in your shoes I would talk to her and/or help her before calling. She was your roommate, I'd give her a chance to shape up and get her shit together first. But I also understand there is a very thin line between trying to help and going too far when help should get involved




Eta I think it's up to you and how well you know your roommate

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 119170 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:" I may get slack for this, but if I was honestly putting myself in your shoes I would talk to her and/or ... [snip!] ... trying to help and going too far when help should get involved Eta I think it's up to you and how well you know your roommate"


I feel like this too. She should offer to watch the baby for a few days while her roommate has time to talk to someone, maybe get on meds if they decide thats the best course of action.

ElleBelle (37 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 22468 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:</b>" I feel like this too. She should offer to watch the baby for a few days while her roommate has time to talk to someone, maybe get on meds if they decide thats the best course of action. "</blockquote>




Maybe it's just because my roommates have always been my best friends and I'd do anything for them lol. Oh college

ElleBelle (37 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 22468 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" True. I think she'd also know whether a talk would do any good anyway."</blockquote>




Exactly

Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6013 posts
17th Apr '13

I think you guys aren't taking the child in to consideration. The baby is in really bad shape, she needs help now.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 119170 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Akeema:" I think you guys aren't taking the child in to consideration. The baby is in really bad shape, she needs help now."


Because OP cant do that while the mom gets her shit together? What help is a foster home going to do that the OP cant? I mean I know its asking a lot of the OP but that is something I'd be more than willing to do for a friend

ElleBelle (37 weeks) Due September 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 22468 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Akeema:</b>" I think you guys aren't taking the child in to consideration. The baby is in really bad shape, she needs help now."</blockquote>




I totally understand this side too, that's why I am so conflicted. But I was being totally honest, if it were me with my old roommate I would opt to help her than get CPS involved. But if something happened to the baby I'd never forgive myself either. There is no wrong choice in this situation IMO

"L" 2 kids; Danville, Indiana 5901 posts
17th Apr '13

She already offered to help that one day and she obviously didn't want her help because she left the baby alone while she took a shower. Sounds like either she needs to accept the help or CPS should get involved.. Either way, sounds like PPD and she needs to get help

Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6013 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" Because OP cant do that while the mom gets her shit together? What help is a foster home going to do ... [snip!] ... do that the OP cant? I mean I know its asking a lot of the OP but that is something I'd be more than willing to do for a friend"


She already offered to help and was told no. So I think at this point the only way this woman is going to take help and have her child saved is if they force her to.

California Dreaming ♡ Due April 24; 3 kids; The Valley, CA, United States 2775 posts
status 17th Apr '13
Quoting Akeema:" She already offered to help and was told no. So I think at this point the only way this woman is going to take help and have her child saved is if they force her to."



I agree.

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
17th Apr '13

If something does not feel right and you feel the child's health was in danger you should ALWAYS call. Best case scenario is that an investigation is done and is unfounded. I would rather be told that I was wrong about my suspicions then to do nothing and have it weight on my heart if something happened to the baby.

Kait. 3 kids; Iowa 2345 posts
17th Apr '13

What did they say? I would have called too. That poor baby :(