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mrs.bedell 2 kids; Grand Forks, North Dakota 763 posts
Apr 17th '13

fallowing your story hopefully your friend and the baby get the help they need

Melissa 1 child; Michigan 1411 posts
Apr 17th '13

If the roommates heard her baby crying for two hours while she was taking a shower... why didn't they go pick the baby up? I would never let a baby just scream while I was right there.... I would have called CPS too and seen about getting her some psychiatric help. It sounds like she has PPD or something else going on with her mental status, especially since you mentioned that she didn't take care of herself even before the baby was born.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Apr 17th '13
Quoting Jeeper:" She doesn't even properly care for herself. She didn't take a shower for a whole week after she had the ... [snip!] ... 3 months refused to go to her OB appointment and refused to see a neurologist even though the OB told her it was life or death."


She needs help... not to be demonized.

Baby_Majick Due May 1 (twins); 4 kids; 3 angel babies; Sullivan, Missouri 4129 posts
Apr 17th '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" She needs help... not to be demonized."


I agree.. sounds like depression. Dry skin happens, my son had dry skin a after he was born (his hands and feet were extremely dry) I worked on them with lotion... she's not using lotion on her, and thats ok thats her choice. Taking a shower for 2 hours, mothers need time to them selves at time, and it is ok to let the baby cry 2 hours seems a bit much though... I have gotten in the bath and the baby start crying, I had shampoo in my hair so I just finished my bath and then got out to him. Another thing if the baby is crying that much... she may have colic, and breast babies will nurse a lot until the supply comes in... so it doesn't mean she isn't feeding her right... and all babies are wrinkly... when they are first born... i'm not saying that the mother isn't being abusive, but i'm not going to say she is either.. I think she needs to see a therapist. She may have a discount from her child. CPS may be able to get her help though for her depression.

Baby_Majick Due May 1 (twins); 4 kids; 3 angel babies; Sullivan, Missouri 4129 posts
Apr 17th '13
Quoting Mel♥Claire:" If the roommates heard her baby crying for two hours while she was taking a shower... why didn't they ... [snip!] ... on with her mental status, especially since you mentioned that she didn't take care of herself even before the baby was born. "


I agree! Maybe they are angry at her and telling stories?

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
Apr 18th '13

As for everyone accusing the other roommates of ignoring the baby crying they did NOT she had her bedroom locked so that they could not get in there to help the baby cry each room has a deadbolt on the door. CPS did come out and talked to her. I only got some info second hand they haven't given me a report yet and they probably won't but I was told they taught her how to hold the baby and pick her up right. Told her to take her to the pediatrician and told her to bathe the baby. They are also going to be watching her closely and make sure she is doing what she needs to do. This is all I have heard so far bit at least they did something.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting Jeeper:" As for everyone accusing the other roommates of ignoring the baby crying they did NOT she had her bedroom ... [snip!] ... her closely and make sure she is doing what she needs to do. This is all I have heard so far bit at least they did something."


That's good that they are teaching her and helping her. Hopefully some mental help comes along. I had severe PPD and I shit you not it's as if no sun was in my day every day until I started taking anti depressants. It was like a light switch, I could experience life again.



Pregnancy and birth is traumatic, some girls just need the extra help.

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" That's good that they are teaching her and helping her. Hopefully some mental help comes along. I had ... [snip!] ... was like a light switch, I could experience life again. Pregnancy and birth is traumatic, some girls just need the extra help."

Believe me I know I went through PPD and I know exactly how it goes I didn't even want to take care of my daughter but I don't think she has PPD I think she is just naive and very immature she doesn't take care of herself and she acts like a child. I left her with my daughter for 20 minutes once and I get back she was locked in her room and my at that time 6 month old was laying in her crib screaming. That is not PPD she didn't even have the baby yet.

Baby_Majick Due May 1 (twins); 4 kids; 3 angel babies; Sullivan, Missouri 4129 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting Jeeper:" Believe me I know I went through PPD and I know exactly how it goes I didn't even want to take care of ... [snip!] ... her room and my at that time 6 month old was laying in her crib screaming. That is not PPD she didn't even have the baby yet."


You can have PPD during pregnancy because of hormones... she may suffer from depression as is. The sad part if she is PPD it can get worse. If she doesn't get help or know how to control it... it can be dangerous for both mom and baby.

Melissa 1 child; Michigan 1411 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting Jeeper:" As for everyone accusing the other roommates of ignoring the baby crying they did NOT she had her bedroom ... [snip!] ... her closely and make sure she is doing what she needs to do. This is all I have heard so far bit at least they did something."

I wasn't "accusing" anyone... You didn't include that information in your OP, so it sounded like they let the baby cry for two hours. I'm glad she seems to be getting help, hopefully everything works out for her and the baby.

Akeema 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Kissimmee, FL, United States 6824 posts
Apr 18th '13

I'm kind of getting tired of everyone defending her. She's abusing her child and yet you are all oh that poor mom. WHAT ABOUT THE BABY. It doesn't matter the reason for it, the fact is that that baby needs help and needs help now. If the mom happens to have PPD fine, but that doesn't mean she should keep the baby and that she should just be all dandy and felt bad for while the baby is forgotten. Stop making excuses for this woman to me it seems like she should never had a baby.

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting Akeema:" I'm kind of getting tired of everyone defending her. She's abusing her child and yet you are all oh that ... [snip!] ... felt bad for while the baby is forgotten. Stop making excuses for this woman to me it seems like she should never had a baby."

Thank you someone actually read everything I was saying and got it. Everyone we know agrees she should never have had a baby she has slept with 23 yes 23 different men since she lost her virginity 7 years ago and that is the ones she can remember she slept with a guy once just to get a ride home from the clubs. While she was pregnant she was clubbing all night refusing to see doctors and she isn't even sure who the father is. Before she was even pregnant enough to be tired she would lay in bed and sleep until 4 in the afternoon and then get up and eat her first meal for the day usually ramen noodle soup or a frozen dinner if she wasn't eating instant meals she would eat fast food. She doesn't take care of herself how in the hell are we supposed to expect her to take care of a baby.

Kait. 3 kids; Iowa 2345 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting Akeema:" I'm kind of getting tired of everyone defending her. She's abusing her child and yet you are all oh that ... [snip!] ... felt bad for while the baby is forgotten. Stop making excuses for this woman to me it seems like she should never had a baby."


:!: Yes. Just, YES.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting Akeema:" I'm kind of getting tired of everyone defending her. She's abusing her child and yet you are all oh that ... [snip!] ... felt bad for while the baby is forgotten. Stop making excuses for this woman to me it seems like she should never had a baby."


i agree just didnt want jumped on for saying it

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
Apr 19th '13
Quoting Jeeper:" Thank you someone actually read everything I was saying and got it. Everyone we know agrees she should ... [snip!] ... she would eat fast food. She doesn't take care of herself how in the hell are we supposed to expect her to take care of a baby."


If she is this terrible of a person, why were you even second guessing yourself to call CPS in the first place?