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Jealousy THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
17th Apr '13

i'm reposting this in here in hopes of getting actual responses.



is there a way i can help DD with it?

My cousin and his wife just moved in down the road with their 5 month old son. she's not used to seeing mommy with another baby. once in a while is fine at family stuff (when she's being passed around lol), but being at their house, she's extremely jealous. clinging to me like i've never seen her do. if i hold them both in my lap, she's fine to talk to him but otherwise she cries. i miss my "nephew" but DD makes me feel bad...how can i help her to over come this? usually if i'm holding him, i'm talking to her and reassuring her, telling her things like "mommy still loves you" and "you're still momma's baby". only one time was that enough for her and she just sat down at my feet playing.

we're hoping to be in a position to start ttc around the end of the yr or so but i'm scared of how she'll handle it...



DD will be 11 months in a few days.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6263 posts
17th Apr '13

Watching



DD is like this.. It worries me a bit because she will have a little brother or sister in about 6 months.

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" Watching DD is like this.. It worries me a bit because she will have a little brother or sister in about 6 months."

how old is she? i know with older kids you can get them to help out so they feel included and needed but right now she can't, and i'd like to visit family without her crying constantly...

Tisa Cameron 18 kids; Douglasville, Georgia 464 posts
17th Apr '13

We had this problem with my oldest nephew. He was 3 when his brother was born and at first wanted nothing to do with him or his mom, he finally got used to it, then we found out i was pregnant with DS1 not long after. My whole pregnancy he told me he was going to throw my baby in the trash, he didnt want anymore babies around. We just kept playing with him and my younger nephew, letting him help on his terms and play with him on his terms, basically involved him as much as we possibly could but on his terms. When my son was born, he was excited! Im lucky with this baby though, DS1 is ecstatic to have a baby brother coming, he calls him his baby. lol.

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Tisa Cameron:" We had this problem with my oldest nephew. He was 3 when his brother was born and at first wanted nothing ... [snip!] ... he was excited! Im lucky with this baby though, DS1 is ecstatic to have a baby brother coming, he calls him his baby. lol."

awww, well maybe it won't be so bad then...

Tisa Cameron 18 kids; Douglasville, Georgia 464 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" awww, well maybe it won't be so bad then..."


yea, im very thankful. my son also says hes having 3 kids lol, he loves babies. i think my nephew is scarred though, he is 7 and says he doesnt want kids cause theyre brats. lol. and he is never getting married, just girlfriends.

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Tisa Cameron:" yea, im very thankful. my son also says hes having 3 kids lol, he loves babies. i think my nephew is ... [snip!] ... though, he is 7 and says he doesnt want kids cause theyre brats. lol. and he is never getting married, just girlfriends."

awww. lol poor thing! i just don't want DD to be an upset wreck over not being the baby anymore...

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6263 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" how old is she? i know with older kids you can get them to help out so they feel included and needed but right now she can't, and i'd like to visit family without her crying constantly..."


15 months. She'll be about 21 months when the baby is born so hopefully old enough to help out and feel included. Right now she doesn't understand it and she's so used to all of the attention being on her so when it's not, she isn't a happy camper.

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" 15 months. She'll be about 21 months when the baby is born so hopefully old enough to help out and feel ... [snip!] ... she doesn't understand it and she's so used to all of the attention being on her so when it's not, she isn't a happy camper."

right. as i said in OP, she's used to being the only baby around...

Tisa Cameron 18 kids; Douglasville, Georgia 464 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" 15 months. She'll be about 21 months when the baby is born so hopefully old enough to help out and feel ... [snip!] ... she doesn't understand it and she's so used to all of the attention being on her so when it's not, she isn't a happy camper."


maybe when youre able to let her hear baby's heartbeat and go to ultrasound. im convinced thats what got my son excited. lol.

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Tisa Cameron:" maybe when youre able to let her hear baby's heartbeat and go to ultrasound. im convinced thats what got my son excited. lol."

that's cute! maybe...

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6263 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Tisa Cameron:" maybe when youre able to let her hear baby's heartbeat and go to ultrasound. im convinced thats what got my son excited. lol."


Right now she wouldn't even get it lol.
but she does always want the ultrasound picture that's on the fridge. She'll sit there and bug me to pick her up so she can touch it with her little fingie.. it's cute. :)

Tisa Cameron 18 kids; Douglasville, Georgia 464 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" Right now she wouldn't even get it lol. but she does always want the ultrasound picture that's on the ... [snip!] ... that's on the fridge. She'll sit there and bug me to pick her up so she can touch it with her little fingie.. it's cute. :)"


awww c: