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user banned 33 kids; British Columbia 2986 posts
17th Apr '13

cheating, abuse and addiction on straight, its over. anything else I would try to work on it before making a choice.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 8778 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... lol! He was joking about breaking up once so I told him i'd lock him in my closet & feed him bolony string through the door :D"</blockquote>



Lmao!!

Red Terror 3 kids; Washington 88 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Captain Obvious:" The only way out of my marriage is in a body bag."


My husband and I have agreed it would need to be an epic 'Kill Bill' style fight.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Sailor Moon:
user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I don't really want to get into it but verbal abuse, addiction, not seeming to care about his kids, ... [snip!] ... to drain me. I'm more of a happy go lucky type of person and trying to make him happy just seems like a constant epic fail. "


I'm of the mindset that if it's going to effect you and your children badly enough, it's not worth staying, especially if addiction is involved.

I told DH if he ever became an alcoholic, or drug addict I would walk out the door and NEVER look back.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Sailor Moon:
user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Supafly★:" It's affecting me....my children are too small to understand. But my oldest is 4 and he's starting to understand. It's just...ugh. I just don't want to care anymore. "


I'm so sorry, I understand how you feel. You need to decide what is going to be best for you and your kids. It's not fair to them to grow up in a toxic situation.

If you ever want to talk, I'm here.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Sailor Moon:" I'm so sorry, I understand how you feel. You need to decide what is going to be best for you and your ... [snip!] ... be best for you and your kids. It's not fair to them to grow up in a toxic situation. If you ever want to talk, I'm here."


I know....I have to at least talk to him. I hope he'll listen for once. Thanks so much. <3

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1756 posts
18th Apr '13

i was just talking to my mom about this the other day, i honestly couldn't stay if my husband just randomly stopped showing affection or if he told me he didn't love me anymore or if i was catching him constantly lying. we both agreed that as long as we were straight forward if we were to cheat then we would do what ever it took to work through it

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7212 posts
18th Apr '13

It's nice to say you'd never break up, but I value myself too much to be miserable. I've been with my husband for 14 years and we'll celebrate our 11th wedding anniversary next month, but if things started declining, I'd leave.



Life is really short and you should do what you can to be happy.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Captain Obvious:" The only way out of my marriage is in a body bag."


This. When I said til death do us part, I meant it.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting kacti:" This. When I said til death do us part, I meant it."


exactly, I mean yes I get there are circumstances where it's impossible to stay with someone and you shouldn't live miserably but I think people are so damn quick to throw in the towel now a days.
" my husband didn't like my shoes f**k HIM DIVORCE"
" my wife smiled at someone else, that means shes a wh**e DIVORCE"

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting InkDMomma:" exactly, I mean yes I get there are circumstances where it's impossible to stay with someone and you ... [snip!] ... a days. " my husband didn't like my shoes f**k HIM DIVORCE" " my wife smiled at someone else, that means shes a wh**e DIVORCE""


This is kind of why I made this post. I see so many women on here like "Wow he said you're lazy because you sat on the couch all day so he had to cook and clean after working? I would totally leave him." And I'm like...really? What happened to sucking it up and looking at the bigger picture?



And then on the flip side: "I'm having a baby with a guy who has a girlfriend who is also pregnant. But he loves me and we'll be together forever!" Or some crazy shit like that lol.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Supafly★:" This is kind of why I made this post. I see so many women on here like "Wow he said you're lazy because ... [snip!] ... who has a girlfriend who is also pregnant. But he loves me and we'll be together forever!" Or some crazy shit like that lol. "


exactly! I see it a lot on here too. Oh you had a simple stupid fight, you need to leave him.
Or my single friends if they hear of a fight between a husband and wife they say how they wouldn't be with someone like that.
Marriage- to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.



Unless there are LEGIT reasons for divorce, I honestly think they should bring back the "waiting period" before you can actually get divorced. Or at least bring back the requirement for classes before you can get married. Nobody works through their problems anymore.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting InkDMomma:" exactly! I see it a lot on here too. Oh you had a simple stupid fight, you need to leave him. Or my ... [snip!] ... Or at least bring back the requirement for classes before you can get married. Nobody works through their problems anymore."


Agreed. In NY you actually have to be legally separated for a year before you can start a divorce, unless it's an extreme circumstance like domestic violence or child abuse. I totally agree with that.