I hate that shit too. I'm not a "till death do us part ONLY" but I'd only get divorced if he was engaging in some seriously destructive habitual behavior and wouldn't try to get better or get help.
Quoting InkDMomma:" exactly, I mean yes I get there are circumstances where it's impossible to stay with someone and you ... [snip!] ... a days. " my husband didn't like my shoes FUCK HIM DIVORCE" " my wife smiled at someone else, that means shes a whore DIVORCE""
Right... LOL. My husband and I were together for 3 years before we made our vows. We made damn sure that it was what we really wanted.
Now that it's done... divorce is NOT an option. No matter what. We might end up killing each other one of these days... LOL, but we will still be married when we do.
Quoting Supafly★:" Mostly for married mamas since getting a divorce is much harder [technically, not emotionally] than just ... [snip!] ... a SAHM, hell you're 39 weeks 5 days pregnant and you would STILL walk out the door that very instant if he _____. What is it? "
Been through it. He was abusive, controlling, and my kid was hiding behind my legs because she was afraid of him when he threw his hourly temper tantrums. I held on for 5 years, I'd had enough, and ended it. Our lives are 100% better now, it was totally worth it.
I left for several reasons:
He was totally emotionally void
He was a piece of shit dad
He was a pathological liar
Oh he had an affair (twice) from craigslist, got some slut knocked up and has 5 kids, none of which he pays on or sees :D
We split 2 months before our 7th wedding anniversary.
My ex was a controlling verbally abusive lazy lump. He collected disability while I worked 3 jobs 6 days a week and expected me to come home to him cook clean and be his submissive sex slave. I put up with it for years finally refusing to do any of that!! Pretty sure he started an online relationship with the girl he is with now. There was nothing good left to our relationship, nothing worth staying for. We were like roommates who shared a bed(when he wasn't on the computer till the wee hours of the morning) Thankfully we were never married but were engaged and together for 9 years and had 2 kids.
Glad I stumbled across this thread... Haven't really figured out what would make me leave, but right now I'm trying to find reasons to stay :?
Cheating, physical and emotional abuse.
Quoting Captain Obvious:" The only way out of my marriage is in a body bag."
What if he did something like.... had sex with a teenager? Found pedophilia content in his porn stash?
This happened to someone I know...
Quoting FroggysMommy:" What if he did something like.... had sex with a teenager? Found pedophilia content in his porn stash? This happened to someone I know..."
That's kind of outlandish. 1. After 10 years pretty sure I'd have seen some red flags. 2. His job required him to go through an extensive psychological screening.
I had always told my ex-husband that divorce was NEVER an option, that we were going to make it work no matter what.
He found his option though. He was cheating with multiple women. I tried EVERYTHING I could to be a good wife. After I exhausted everything that I could do, he told me that his cheating was going to continue and I was just going to have to live with it. I realized then that one person cannot hold a marriage up. Both people have to want to make the marriage work and it was not a marriage if he was going to be sleeping with any woman that caught his eye. We no longer had anything left to our marriage. It wasn't a marriage anymore. I divorced him and I have never looked back.
Oddly enough, when I presented him with the divorce papers to sign his only comment was, " I thought you said this wasn't an option?" I told him that he found his.
If he was doing anything illegal that he refused to stop doing.
Quoting Bree-L:" If he was doing anything illegal that he refused to stop doing."
Even smoking pot? Driving without a seatbelt?
<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Even smoking pot? Driving without a seatbelt? "</blockquote>
Lol no. I figured it was obvious that I didn't meant anything like that. Lol. I'm talking about bigger things. Things that could land him in jail for a long time or get him killed.
Quoting Bree-L:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Even smoking pot? Driving without a seatbelt? ... [snip!] ... anything like that. Lol. I'm talking about bigger things. Things that could land him in jail for a long time or get him killed."
Ohh I see. Hey, you never know lol. Some people are very uptight.