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Any advice? Brandy Rakes Due January 14 (boy); 1 child; Barboursville, West Virginia 113 posts
17th Apr '13

My husband and I have been together almost three years and have two kids. We still have sex often I guess but for me it's just not like it use to be however I still play along. I've recently had mirena birthcontrol put in and am constantly bleeding so as if thing's werent bad enough/ we hardly even do it now. I just don't know what to do. I love my husband and love being with him but the desire to have sex for me is just gone and this birthcontrol isn't helping.

.Jezebel. 1 child; Sumter, South Carolina 9451 posts
17th Apr '13

Maybe your hormones are all messed up? I went to the doctor a few weeks ago and they game me a shot. Things have been much better. I'm not on BC so I don't know if that would matter. I suggest talking to your OBGYN about it. :)

Brandy Rakes Due January 14 (boy); 1 child; Barboursville, West Virginia 113 posts
17th Apr '13

I don't know why but I just feel too embarrassed too. I mean, I feel like since I've started this birthcontrol I've had alot of embarrassing issues.

.Jezebel. 1 child; Sumter, South Carolina 9451 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brandy Rakes:</b>" I don't know why but I just feel too embarrassed too. I mean, I feel like since I've started this birthcontrol I've had alot of embarrassing issues."</blockquote>




Don't be embarrassed. It's not like you're telling your friends, it's your doctor. He is there to help you through stuff like that. It's most likely caused by your BC.

Brandy Rakes Due January 14 (boy); 1 child; Barboursville, West Virginia 113 posts
17th Apr '13

I just feel like maybe if I'm not being satisfied maybe he isnt either but wont say so. I cant talk to him about it because he refuses to open up on his end and the one time I said I wasnt pleased he cried and he's admitted before he wouldnt tell me even if he wasnt cause he doesnt want to hurt me. I've tried explaining, it doesnt help our relationship not to be open but he doesnt get it.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Brandy Rakes:" I just feel like maybe if I'm not being satisfied maybe he isnt either but wont say so. I cant talk to ... [snip!] ... cause he doesnt want to hurt me. I've tried explaining, it doesnt help our relationship not to be open but he doesnt get it."


just tell your hubby that your bc is killing your sex drive and you need to make a dr appt about it

Bobber Due October 1; 1 child; Manitoba 137 posts
17th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brandy Rakes:</b>" I just feel like maybe if I'm not being satisfied maybe he isnt either but wont say so. I cant talk to ... [snip!] ... cause he doesnt want to hurt me. I've tried explaining, it doesnt help our relationship not to be open but he doesnt get it."</blockquote>




That would be frustrating. My SO & I are always open about this kind of stuff, its stupid not to be, how can you fix it if you don't talk about it? Try reasoning with him & talking to him about the b/c issue. Maybe you being up front & honest & letting him know its what you want will eventually get him to come around. & yes, talk to your DR. Don't be embarrassed just do it, it will help.

SubLowe 1 child; Oceanside, California 15389 posts
17th Apr '13

it could really be becuase of your hormones. youve had 2 kids in 3 years. I didnt get my sex drive back until about 1 whole year after waning breastfeeding with my daughter .. and i nursed for 2 years, so it was like 3 years of no real sex drive just playing along. i had a feeling it was hormones and it mustve been bc im back to my old self and maybe even more turnd on and comfortable with hubbs then ever before and we have been together for 8 years

Brandy Rakes Due January 14 (boy); 1 child; Barboursville, West Virginia 113 posts
22nd Apr '13

I just feel like at 20 years old and only being together 3 years we shouldn't be having these problems yet.

SubLowe 1 child; Oceanside, California 15389 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Brandy Rakes:" I just feel like at 20 years old and only being together 3 years we shouldn't be having these problems yet."


i really must disagree there. i feel like we were most unstable in our first years of relationship. i know that everyone is different but to give you hope if you want any .. we really were just not anywhere as close as we are today with my hubby. granted weve been together for like 8 years and didnt have a kiddo until 4 years ago

.Jezebel. 1 child; Sumter, South Carolina 9451 posts
22nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting OneLoveMama:</b>" i really must disagree there. i feel like we were most unstable in our first years of relationship. ... [snip!] ... as close as we are today with my hubby. granted weve been together for like 8 years and didnt have a kiddo until 4 years ago"</blockquote>




I agree. It's much harder in the beginning. Most people have a hard time opening up and just being comfortable with the other person in the beginning of a relationship. Especially being younger. There are things that I do with DH now that I never would've done in our younger years as a couple.