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Most likely to get a divorce! Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
17th Apr '13

So, this morning when I was dropping off my little brother & his friends off at school I was listening to the radio and 104.1 was saying that new research shows that couples who are more old school, meaning women do everything & men just work are less likely to get a divorce.



Opposite to couples who are more independent where woman work, men work & they both share the house work, etc.



Anyways, I totally forgot to post about this in the morning. Just wondering what you guys think?

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
17th Apr '13

WELL, I can only really speak for my marriage, but we're more traditional, and it seems to work really well for us. We seem to have a lot less stress since I became a SAHM, versus when we both worked, etc.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
17th Apr '13

Eh I don't know. My husband works, I stay home. AND he does a lot of help with the housework, including all the laundry. He gets frustrated with little things I do, like not turn my clothes right side out, or leave my pants in front of the toilet when I undress while I pee... But nothing major. I don't see anything divorce worthy. Maybe we're a middle ground.

user banned 3 kids; Texas 26201 posts
17th Apr '13

I think it depends on the couple and how well they get along.



Granted, I stay at home and he works, but the roles have been reversed.



We're also the type that if something is wrong, we fix it and we never go to bed mad.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
17th Apr '13

I think it depends on the person really. Some women are OK with being in an old school marriage where they stay at home and the husband brings the money, some husbands want their wives to also have a job instead of just staying home. It's just a matter of being with a person who's on the same page as you when it comes to what to expect from a marriage. In the end the stuff that makes a marriage work are basically the same: respect, love, communication etc etc, some people just do it old school, others don't.

UhmAmber 1 child; Texas 2415 posts
17th Apr '13

I can see that... If you feel more independent, it's probably easier to leave. I feel like I see tons of SAHMs on here that wish they could leave, but feel stuck.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Hoot.:" I think it depends on the couple and how well they get along. Granted, I stay at home and he works, ... [snip!] ... but the roles have been reversed. We're also the type that if something is wrong, we fix it and we never go to bed mad."


:!:



And this. Which obviously has nothing to do with the roles, who works, etc.

nutmeg. California 22281 posts
17th Apr '13

I think the whole feminist idealism is terrible for a marriage.
I have my own education, career, hobbies, etc. but at the end of the day being a wife, and then a mother, is number one.
Out of all of the "jobs" I have, I put homemaking first and I believe it truly is the most important!
I think there's a lot more to it than whether or not one or both parties goes to work, and what one person does or doesn't do at home. It has to do with the mindset and how the family and homelife are looked at.
Needing your spouse isn't a negative thing. Serving your spouse isn't a negative thing....

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting mayhem.:" WELL, I can only really speak for my marriage, but we're more traditional, and it seems to work really ... [snip!] ... it seems to work really well for us. We seem to have a lot less stress since I became a SAHM, versus when we both worked, etc. "


:!: same for our household!

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
17th Apr '13

I think working adds stress for ME in particular. DH and I both work and do housework and take care of the kids 50/50 and it works really well for us. BUT I wish I didn't have to work because coming home to dishes and laundry after a long day makes me more overwhelmed and probably less friendly. Lol.

pennylove 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Australia 1325 posts
17th Apr '13

could be true in my situation. i wish i could find the middle ground but half the time it feels like a game....... eg. who does what " based on who works more, parenting is also based on this........... :( makes me sad

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting pennylove:" could be true in my situation. i wish i could find the middle ground but half the time it feels like ... [snip!] ... like a game....... eg. who does what " based on who works more, parenting is also based on this........... :( makes me sad"


My husband tries to play that game sometimes "Well I changed two poopy diapers today already..." "Yeah? So? Do we want to really add up stuff? It's not a contest of who does more what."

Naturally Alternative 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 6041 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Amber :]:" I can see that... If you feel more independent, it's probably easier to leave. I feel like I see tons of SAHMs on here that wish they could leave, but feel stuck."

This.



Plus I think those with more "traditional" ideas also hold on to the thought that divorce is frown upon. Certainly not all, but I"m sure it helps the numbers be higher.

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting pennylove:" could be true in my situation. i wish i could find the middle ground but half the time it feels like ... [snip!] ... like a game....... eg. who does what " based on who works more, parenting is also based on this........... :( makes me sad"


I'm a hairstylist and DH works editing media. I have to really real myself in from pulling the whole "But I'M on my feet ALL DAY LONG!" lol.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
17th Apr '13
Quoting Naturally Alternative~25w:" This. Plus I think those with more "traditional" ideas also hold on to the thought that divorce is frown upon. Certainly not all, but I"m sure it helps the numbers be higher."


That is true. At least in our marriage. To us, (moreso me, probably) divorce is just not an option. If I even considered it an option, I probably wouldn't have gotten married.