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How to get my 9 yr old to read... mamiKrystal 4 kids; Hayward, California 647 posts
18th Apr '13

First of all, my step son is 9 years old and doesn't like to read. He refuses to do his fifteen minutes of daily reading that is a required part of his homework. Being my step-son, I don't feel comfortable simply making him read. I don't want to come off as so strict that he starts hating me. To get him to brush his teeth at night, I used a reward chart for a few weeks, and that sort-of worked. I don't want to use reward charts for everything though, I'd rather go about this another way.
Does anybody else have this issue, and any ideas on how to deal with this?
My four year old and three year old love reading, and I believe it is a very important part of their education.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
18th Apr '13

Will he read to you or the other kids?

E☮M♥M♫A 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Cleveland, Tennessee 2643 posts
18th Apr '13

How is he with your other kids? Maybe suggest him reading a book to them?

mamiKrystal 4 kids; Hayward, California 647 posts
18th Apr '13

I have done that, and usually he just says he doesn't want to. I did convince him to do it once though. I'll keep suggesting it. I also usually ask him if he wants to listen while I read my son's books to them at night. I figure maybe him listening to me reading to them might spark a tiny bit of interest in reading himself.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
18th Apr '13

Does he just not like what you've offered him to read? Or is it reading itself that is too hard for him right now, which is causing him to dislike it?

Booger & Bubba's Mommy 18 kids; Illinois 8136 posts
18th Apr '13

Turn off all the electronics in the house as soon as he gets home from school. There is NO screen time until after dinner & homework is done. Make it a family reading . Give the LOs a book to 'read' ,grab one for yourself & enforce the 15time limit.



Does the school offer any incentives? Ours does Pizza Hut "book it" & a monthly reading log. If the log is fully filled out they get a special treat, pizza party, ice cream party, movie time, extra recess, it varies.



Have him pick out what he likes, diary of a wimpy kid, big Nate, comic books. It doesn't matter what he reads as long as he is reading.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:</b>" Turn off all the electronics in the house as soon as he gets home from school. There is NO screen time ... [snip!] ... pick out what he likes, diary of a wimpy kid, big Nate, comic books. It doesn't matter what he reads as long as he is reading."</blockquote>



All of this.

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
18th Apr '13

If it doesn't have to be specific books, then the best advice I can give you is to seek out books on topics he is interested in. Nonfiction or fiction. Even comics would be a good start, anything to kindle an interest in the written word.

mamiKrystal 4 kids; Hayward, California 647 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting homes cool:" Does he just not like what you've offered him to read? Or is it reading itself that is too hard for him right now, which is causing him to dislike it? "


Well his choices are either the books he picks out himself from school, the ones my son gets from preschool, or the pile of books I've collected for all three of them. So, I don't think the problem is the selection of books.
From the few times I've heard him read, I suspect he is having difficulty reading. My approach to that would be that he needs practice and maybe practice reading lower level books than what they offer him at school. And I don't want to be mean, but even if he dislikes it, it's a part of his homework that he can't just ignore. If he doesn't read or get interested in it a little bit, he'll never improve...

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:</b>" Turn off all the electronics in the house as soon as he gets home from school. There is NO screen time ... [snip!] ... pick out what he likes, diary of a wimpy kid, big Nate, comic books. It doesn't matter what he reads as long as he is reading."</blockquote>




:!:

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting mamiKrystal:" Well his choices are either the books he picks out himself from school, the ones my son gets from preschool, ... [snip!] ... part of his homework that he can't just ignore. If he doesn't read or get interested in it a little bit, he'll never improve..."


Have you tried taking him to the library to pick something?



Do you have a smart device that could maybe pick up ebooks, to give an even wider variety? Most local libraries can also lend ebooks.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting mamiKrystal:" Well his choices are either the books he picks out himself from school, the ones my son gets from preschool, ... [snip!] ... part of his homework that he can't just ignore. If he doesn't read or get interested in it a little bit, he'll never improve..."


I agree. I just figured that the methods of approaching this would be different if it was a genuine struggle, versus him just not wanting to read anything...ya know?

mamiKrystal 4 kids; Hayward, California 647 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:" Turn off all the electronics in the house as soon as he gets home from school. There is NO screen time ... [snip!] ... pick out what he likes, diary of a wimpy kid, big Nate, comic books. It doesn't matter what he reads as long as he is reading."


That is already a rule, no tv or games until homework is done, but he never does the reading part. The time I did try to make him read when I found out it was part of his homework, he cried and his dad and mom got into an argument about it, so I backed off since then.



I do like your idea of all of us reading for 15 minutes, that might work. I'm going to try doing something like that.



And no, as far as I know, the school doesn't offer any incentives. I actually dislike his school...they sell candy and junk food to the kids on Fridays.

Booger & Bubba's Mommy 18 kids; Illinois 8136 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mamiKrystal:</b>" Well his choices are either the books he picks out himself from school, the ones my son gets from preschool, ... [snip!] ... part of his homework that he can't just ignore. If he doesn't read or get interested in it a little bit, he'll never improve..."</blockquote>




A 9yo doesn't want to read books that a 3&4yo are intrested in. You need to get him books for his age. You need to model reading to him.
Instead of listening while you read to the younger ones he should be reading to himself. Or you read a much older book to him like Harry potter.

mamiKrystal 4 kids; Hayward, California 647 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Autumn Whisper:" Have you tried taking him to the library to pick something? Do you have a smart device that could maybe pick up ebooks, to give an even wider variety? Most local libraries can also lend ebooks."


I don't know where the library is or how to get there. I rarely drive. My kids don't all fit into our vehicle. That's why we haven't been to a library. And no I don't have any smart device. Are there any ebooks for kids that I could get on my laptop that you know of?