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    • They should get some help -- Votes: 18
    • They should do it alone -- Votes: 1
Helping kids with homework? Olivia Foxworth 3 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 4184 posts
18th Apr '13

Me or DH

The kids came home from school and have to do a project on a animal, they have to learn all about the animal that they picked and make a poster with fact and pictures and also have to do a creative project with it, like draw the animal, write a story or poem about the animal or build a 3D animal or some other creative thing

Keep in mind they are 6 and 7

Dh says that they should do it all by them selves as it is THEIR homework and not mine.

I say they get my help! I help them look up the info and we read it together, help them put their posters together (Like give them the letter for their title and they glue it on) and of course they wanted to build a animal, so I helped them cut out the big pieces from foam board because it was to hard for them and controlled the super glue (Because I know my kids and they will glue their own foot to their head if I let them have the super glue) they painted and cut out a lot of it and stuck all the pieces on.

Who is right in this situation?

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
18th Apr '13

You are right, IMO. There's nothing wrong with assisting your kids with their homework or projects, as long as you're not doing it FOR them.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
18th Apr '13

You are. My Daughters have mandatory Science Fair projects every year. The Teachers actually send home a paper on how Parents should help with it. They expect Parents to help, to guide them.

dbailey 2 kids; Arkansas 3735 posts
18th Apr '13

I would help them

Booger & Bubba's Mommy 18 kids; Illinois 8136 posts
18th Apr '13

Both. You didn't need to help them with the posterboard. They should have done that by themselves. For the animal it should have been drawing a picture since that is more on their level. You need to support them not help them do the project. It's not teaching them problem solving if you help them all the time.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15536 posts
18th Apr '13

They are to young to do it all by themselves. I help my son do homework every day. DH pretty much did his whole leprechaun trap project with little help from DS lol.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30567 posts
18th Apr '13

I think they should be helped when they are having troubles with it, so you can explain it to them.

But I don't think a parent should do it for them. My mom did that and it didn't help me at all. I mean I am sure she just didn't know how to help the way I needed, since I have learning disabilities and she did get me a tutor, and I was in special classes. I remember in 6th grade, the library class made everyone write a report on a subject they picked...mine was Giant Clams lol. My mom ended up doing it for me, but it was kind of too tough for me at the time. Anyways, I would never do my kid's work for them. I learned from my mom's mistakes with me.

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 23055 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Olivia Foxworth:</b>" Me or DH The kids came home from school and have to do a project on a animal, they have to learn all ... [snip!] ... them have the super glue) they painted and cut out a lot of it and stuck all the pieces on. Who is right in this situation?"</blockquote>

I think they should get some guidance. My neighbor has 2 kids in school. The first one was a smart self-starter and nearly always lead the project and finished it. Child #2 is very different and she struggles about when to help and how much. We talked about it a lot and she decided to ask the teacher as SOME projects at school are obviously done by the parents.

So, I'd give her some help and then ask the teacher. I'm sure she values involved parents AND she will probably give you tips on how much to help. SOMETIMES kids should get some criticism if they don't apply themselves. It depends on the age and their stage of learning and development.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27026 posts
18th Apr '13

I help. With big projects I assist, with smaller things I explain, she does it by herself, and then we review together. I am ALWAYS involved in homework though.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5945 posts
18th Apr '13

At that age i say you're right. You should help them learn how to search for info, and prepare the report. The detail they need isn't going to just come to them. They have to learn what is expected. Teach them now so they can do it by themselves later.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15342 posts
18th Apr '13

As a teacher, yes please help your children with their homework.