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Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" That's up to you. I hope it never happens again. ... [snip!] ... my boss is good to me and I wouldn't be able to get another job making what I do and still getting tips which is what I need."


Just please communicate your concerns with her. Try not to do it in a accusatory fashion, just say something like "I noticed some bruises on Ainsley and she said you spanked her with a rod. Is that true? If so, I'm really not comfortable with that. Here are some discipline actions I do at home that really work with her..." Hopefully she will listen.

whitney ♥ ainsley 1 child; New Hampshire 16454 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Gotcha. Did you call the grandmother yet? I'm really curious on what she has to say for herself. "</blockquote>




Yeah I did. I told her I was uncomfortable with it. She said that day Ainsley ran out of the house and went to play outside by herself because nana didn't get up and get her shoes on fast enough. She knows that's definitely not okay. This was after screaming for a half hour about wanting to go outside and repeatedly trying to go out by herself

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Probably. Like you said, she probably doesn't see a problem. But if she has any respect for OP as a parent, she won't do it again if OP nicely asks her not to. "


Definitely.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14140 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Gotcha. Did you call the grandmother yet? ... [snip!] ... not okay. This was after screaming for a half hour about wanting to go outside and repeatedly trying to go out by herself"


Did you tell her what disciplinary action you'd prefer she do instead in that situation?

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5680 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Gotcha. Did you call the grandmother yet? ... [snip!] ... not okay. This was after screaming for a half hour about wanting to go outside and repeatedly trying to go out by herself"</blockquote>




Abuse is never ok. And she didn't bruise by moving. .. and 3 rod marks. You only should spank once. 3 Times is more out of anger. ... but whatever guess its ok to bruise our children for not listening.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Jays*Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... only should spank once. 3 Times is more out of anger. ... but whatever guess its ok to bruise our children for not listening."


Um of course, bruising children is the best.

Bobber Due October 1; 1 child; Manitoba 137 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Gotcha. Did you call the grandmother yet? ... [snip!] ... not okay. This was after screaming for a half hour about wanting to go outside and repeatedly trying to go out by herself"</blockquote>




So? My kid throws fits too. I wouldn't spank her with a rod three times because of it. I hope you explained there are other disciplinary techniques.

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3311 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Gotcha. Did you call the grandmother yet? ... [snip!] ... not okay. This was after screaming for a half hour about wanting to go outside and repeatedly trying to go out by herself"


She is a kid. That's what kids do, if Nana can't understand that than she is in position to be undertaking child care. She will continue to have child like meltdowns and from the sounds of things she will continue to be beat.



It sounds like Nana is making a lot of excuses and blaming the BEATING on the victim, your child.



I could really give two flying fucks about what happened in "her day". Carseats were not manditory when I was a kid but I still put my child in one, today.



OP, I get it. You are not rich, you are stressed out, you want all this business to kind of disappear so that you can go on about your life without stressing about child care. Unfortunately however, its too late for that. Something has happened and its extremely bad and extremely damaging to your child. Please, please take pictures and document what happened. And please alert the authorites.



Tell your boss whats happening, tell a neighbour, tell anybody that you have to to save your daughter from this woman.