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NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Ellie.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mallard+ 1 1/2:</b>" And this is why I stick to my small ... [snip!] ... nothing happens and the schools are extremely small."</blockquote> Kids can be even worse in small towns.... boredom."


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Seriously. I live in a small town. The highschool here has two full time liason officers because there is so much fighting/drugs/bullshit. They don't even have one officer at the highschools in the city I went to school in. If there is nothing to do, kids are going to find their own entertainment and it usually isn't in a productive way.

user banned Logan, Utah 3594 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting 11 weeks with #3!:" Thats not necessarily true. I mean yes, when my mom was in school and pregnant at 15 it was definitely ... [snip!] ... they were married first, which I thinks makes a difference. And they didnt have much of a choice about it. BUT, its not new."


That has to be different to location because my grandmother is turning 80 and it was not normal for her generation to have kids at 13, we had this talk a couple years ago when I discussed a relative who got pregnant at 14. She was appalled. She started having children at 18 and thinks that is about a normal age to start a family because women shouldnt have careers anyways (according to her )

Rafael's Mommy ♥ Texas 764 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting 11 weeks with #3!:" I dont know what tampon girl is..."


A girl posted a video of her sucking on a used tampon.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Rafael's Mommy ♥:" A girl posted a video of her sucking on a used tampon."


:shock:



OMG BARF

user banned Logan, Utah 3594 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Rafael's Mommy ♥:" A girl posted a video of her sucking on a used tampon."


ewwwwwww

mom of three 3 kids; Missouri 5303 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Rafael's Mommy ♥:" A girl posted a video of her sucking on a used tampon."


:shock: omg... no way!!!

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Emily Dickinson:" As an elementary teacher, I do worry. Not for the reasons you listed but because kids don't seem to have ... [snip!] ... they don't feel remorse. They simply justify their actions by attempting to point the finger at a "more" negative choice."



Exactly. There seems to be no personal accountability anymore



"If i did this, it's cause xxxxxx and is not my fault"



1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Emily Dickinson:" As an elementary teacher, I do worry. Not for the reasons you listed but because kids don't seem to have ... [snip!] ... they don't feel remorse. They simply justify their actions by attempting to point the finger at a "more" negative choice."


That is sad. But I know it is right. I remember grown up how my mom and all the other parents we knew pumped good manors and sympathy in to our heads. The first time I saw a kid that didn't do what they were told by an adult as soon as they were told to do it I was in shock (and i was 8 by then). Now it is even worse. People are so determined to get their kid the latest crap and not have them left out. Kids are entitled and selfish no it is sick. I think we need to bring spanking back. Parents are to damn soft now a days.

Emily Dickinson 18 kids; Indiana 57844 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" Exactly. There seems to be no personal accountability anymore "If i did this, it's cause xxxxxx and is not my fault" "</blockquote>




But parents don't to teach accountability. When kids get bad grades, its the teachers fault now. When a child makes a bad choice, they want to know "who made them do it." Kids aren't held to the same standard we were.

HamHam 18 kids; India 3485 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Emily Dickinson:</b>" As an elementary teacher, I do worry. Not for the reasons you listed but because kids don't seem to have ... [snip!] ... they don't feel remorse. They simply justify their actions by attempting to point the finger at a "more" negative choice."</blockquote>




In my opinion, those values you just mentioned are what's missing, and that is frightening. They bully because they have no remorse, compassion, etc. It's as if there's no motivation or incentive to just be a decent person. I sometimes feel like society is no longer set up to accomodate the decent ones... It's all about being recognized for the wrong & short-lived reasons.

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Emily Dickinson:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mallard+ 1 1/2:</b>" And this is why I stick to my small ... [snip!] ... you. Until a method lab exploded with teenagers nearby. I was exposed to far more in a small town than I ever was in the city."</blockquote>




I grew up in a small town but I've lived in the city as well and I've seen way worse stuff and seen teens doing WAY worse stuff in the city then I ever did in my hometown. The worse thing we ever did was go to a party and get drunk and some smoked weed. And I'm talking like 2 gas stations and school and that's it small town. Our entire school 7th-12th grade only had 400 people. Only 60 in my class and that was after we consolidated with the school in the next town over.

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3300 posts
18th Apr '13

No.



People did all the same or equally dumb shit back in the day we just didn't have the same access to technology.

Emily Dickinson 18 kids; Indiana 57844 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" That is sad. But I know it is right. I remember grown up how my mom and all the other parents we knew ... [snip!] ... out. Kids are entitled and selfish no it is sick. I think we need to bring spanking back. Parents are to damn soft now a days."</blockquote>




Do you know how shocked I was when a student told me he wasn't going go do something I asked? I had no idea how to respond because I can't even fathom talking to a teacher like that.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting Emily Dickinson:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" Exactly. There seems to be no personal ... [snip!] ... now. When a child makes a bad choice, they want to know "who made them do it." Kids aren't held to the same standard we were."


I am trying my best to hold Cora to a higher standard. I expect manners and curtesy from her. And if she doesn't act appropriately, then a punishment ensues.



I only hope that she turns out to be a good kid. I know good parenting can only go so far.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting HamHam:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Emily Dickinson:</b>" As an elementary teacher, I do worry. ... [snip!] ... is no longer set up to accomodate the decent ones... It's all about being recognized for the wrong & short-lived reasons."


Do you think kids were not bullied before? I know my Mom talks about having been bullied before. Of course, they used to beat the crap out of you more than they typically do now. . . This was back in the day when they paddled you in school (she was the ONLY girl to have ever been paddled, lol). I think when we get older we tend to romanticize our past. It becomes the "good ole days" and we forget that all of this stuff was out there too.



I think we're just more aware of it now.