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Stranger Danger _______Nope_________ 23772 posts
18th Apr '13

My daughter is in a pee-wee karate class. Today was their 4th class I believe, and they went over stranger danger. This included what to do if someone has a gun and tries to force you into a car, or tries to pick you up and walk away with you.



I personally had no idea that would be taught in a karate class. Self-defense? Sure, but not "stranger danger" sort of stuff.



My question I guess is, do you feel we should focus on stranger danger like this? It is too emphasized? Not emphasized enough? Kids are FAR more likely to be abused by people they know rather then strangers, so is all of this stranger danger stuff doing any good at all? Is there a better way?



D&D

HotMom21ERF Due December 17 (twins); 1 child; Kentucky 20828 posts
18th Apr '13

Well, kids DO get abducted/kidnapped. Yes, I think they should continue teaching about it

Rafael's Mommy ♥ Texas 764 posts
18th Apr '13

I don't think it does any harm.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting HotMom21ERF:" Well, kids DO get abducted/kidnapped. Yes, I think they should continue teaching about it"


But the odds of it are SO small compared to being abused by people you know. Shouldn't we focus more on trying to teach kids about that?



It just seems like they are being made SO fearful. . . And of something that is so rare. . . .

April_Pike Due May 28 (girl); 1 child; South Carolina 72 posts
18th Apr '13

It's not a bad thing to teach them.. Theres always that possibility someone could come up and snatch your kid! Atleast they are making them aware of it being a possibility...

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 61358 posts
18th Apr '13

I wouldn't mind something like that being taught, I think the more personal warnings (against those we know harming us..) need to be handled by parents, and not a general class like that.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting homes cool:" I wouldn't mind something like that being taught, I think the more personal warnings (against those we know harming us..) need to be handled by parents, and not a general class like that. "


Maybe I'm paranoid, I just feel like raising kids with so much fear isn't good either. . . I mean, being aware, sure. But, this idea that every person you don't know is BAD? That every stranger wants to hurt you? I don't know. . . I just think it breeds a LOT of fear, and knowing that isn't who you generally need to fear, I am afraid that it's a lot more fear then is actually needed.

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 61358 posts
18th Apr '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Maybe I'm paranoid, I just feel like raising kids with so much fear isn't good either. . . I mean, ... [snip!] ... of fear, and knowing that isn't who you generally need to fear, I am afraid that it's a lot more fear then is actually needed. "


Yea, I get what you're saying. Maybe kids don't read into it as much as we do? I don't know.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
18th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Maybe I'm paranoid, I just feel like raising kids with so much fear isn't good either. . . I mean, ... [snip!] ... of fear, and knowing that isn't who you generally need to fear, I am afraid that it's a lot more fear then is actually needed. "</blockquote>




I do teach my kids (especially my DS) that any stranger might run off with them and try to hurt/kill them. I don't sugar coat it either. I'd rather them fearful than being so trusting that they'd willingly go off with a stranger. I may be the oddball, though. DS is 5 1/2 and is overly friendly and chatty to strangers. He's even invited strangers to our family functions. Like random people off the street. He has absolutely no fear of strangers and would leave with one in a second if they promised something interesting.



DD is picking up that DS isn't afraid and she's starting to act the same. She's easier to convince that strangers are potentially harmful than DS though.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 6120 posts
18th Apr '13

I think we should teach both.

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32450 posts
19th Apr '13

Do people really need guns to kidnap like 3 year olds? lol. They don't even grasp the concept of guns to be afraid of them enough to be a real threat.



I think I'd be uncomfortable with it, because teaching "Stranger danger" actually hinders kids getting help when they really need it. It also makes them more fearful of people than they need to be and hinder their social skills.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 6120 posts
19th Apr '13

We, the parents, should be teaching our children how to be safe and aware but not live in fear. As parents we should know how to best communicate this to our individual children in a way that they will receive it best, and then teach them what to do in different situations.



Example: I taught my children that if they are ever get lost from me in public and can't find a policeman then they should look for a Mommy with children and ask her for help. She may be a stranger but if she and her children seem nice and friendly then they may be willing to help.



This is just one of many scenarios that we have gone over on a regular basis.

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32450 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Kaleighshaleigh:" We, the parents, should be teaching our children how to be safe and aware but not live in fear. As parents ... [snip!] ... and friendly then they may be willing to help. This is just one of many scenarios that we have gone over on a regular basis."


Women are statistically more likely to kidnap children than men are.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 6120 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Squid Kid:" Women are statistically more likely to kidnap children than men are."


Not one that is already a mommy with children with her.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
19th Apr '13

NVM! Wrong thread lol