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Husband watching porn in his cellfone mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
19th Apr '13

so I am 37 weeks pregnant. I always had a doubt about my hubby watching porn pictures, videos etc. Last night I checked his cell fone and shockingly there are many downloaded porn videos . I feel kinda cheated esp when i am pregnant. I used to wonder why On weekends he wakes up early and goes downstairs with his ipad. Sometimes in the restroo with his cellfone. I asked him one time why he sees pictures of girls and i was jokingly said to him that i know you watch porn videos and he was like yes i do so what? but last night i saw his cellfone he downloaded lots of porn vids. I don't know how to react , i am angry and feel cheated but sinc ei am nearing my due date i dunno how to handle this. do i ask him directly?



I didn't knew he is still watching when i am pregnant too. I thought he used to watch once in a while but seems like he is obsessed

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18293 posts
19th Apr '13

I honestly think you're overreacting. Like, a lot.



But then again, i watch porn on my phone....sooooo :lol:

Tasha & Nika TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; San Jose, CA, United States 15867 posts
19th Apr '13

You are insecure about yourself and the way you look.



Porn is something imaginary, and something that men use as a means to get off, this is by no means related to the way you look or how he feels about you, men just like porn..



Why do you feel so hurt about it? He's not physically getting off with another woman, it's just his imagination. How would it be different, if he were in the restroom picturing these women in his mind instead of looking at them?

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" I honestly think you're overreacting. Like, a lot. But then again, i watch porn on my phone....sooooo :lol:"


well may be i am overreacting but somewhere i feel like cheated by him. He watches all the time esp on weekends, i hope he is not having any affair with other woman

Derp TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11449 posts
19th Apr '13

You need to tell him how it makes you feel but you also need to realize that pretty much every man looks at porn. It's a harmless endeavor for the most part.



My husband watches porn on a regular basis and I couldn't care less, honestly. We still have a great sex life and I'm not insecure about anything.



Even when I was incredibly pregnant and we stopped having much sex I didn't fault him for watching porn because I realized he had needs and I wasn't meeting them anymore. In fact, I was kind of relieved he was okay with watching porn at that point because I sure as hell didn't feel like having sex :lol:



Everyone masturbates. Men are just way more visual than most women are which is why they tend to like porn more. Don't take it personally, or try not to at least. I can almost guarantee he's not looking at porn because he thinks you don't do it for him anymore. He's looking at porn because, well, he's a guy.

lexi & #2's mumma Due January 9; 1 child; Perth, Australia 1165 posts
19th Apr '13

Its porn.. It's better then him being with someone else!

*Kristina G* Due August 18; 2 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 191 posts
19th Apr '13

I think your overreacting it's not like he's cheating on you there just videos. I watch porn with my hubby soo it doesn't bother me its kinda a turn on nd it spices up the sex life alittle.

*Kristina G* Due August 18; 2 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 191 posts
19th Apr '13

I think your overreacting it's not like he's cheating on you there just videos. I watch porn with my hubby soo it doesn't bother me its kinda a turn on nd it spices up the sex life alittle.

Derp TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11449 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" well may be i am overreacting but somewhere i feel like cheated by him. He watches all the time esp on weekends, i hope he is not having any affair with other woman"

If he's watching porn a lot on top of being with you then chances are he's not having an affair. Besides, men who watch porn aren't more likely to have affairs. That's a huge, huge leap to make. Porn does not equal infidelity.



Now if you think his porn habit is replacing your sex life and he might have an addiction then that's another story. Like I said before, I don't mind that my husband watches porn because we have great sex but if for some reason he started choosing porn over sex with me I would be extremely bothered. That's not okay.



I'm going to guess that since you're 37 weeks you guys probably aren't having much sex. I know I didn't feel like it when I was 36 weeks along... He's probably just looking at porn because he's a guy and isn't getting his rocks off in any other way at the moment. It's nothing personal.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30523 posts
19th Apr '13

Dude, chill the f**k out. It is only porn smh. You act like you found another chick's panties in his back pocket or some shit...that would be cheating, watching porn is not cheating. I never understand why some chicks overreact to their SO/DH watching porn..

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18293 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mrssenorita:</b>" well may be i am overreacting but somewhere i feel like cheated by him. He watches all the time esp on weekends, i hope he is not having any affair with other woman"</blockquote>




For real? You sound borderline crazy right now.




Why would he watch porn if he was having an affair? Two women, and jerking off to porn constantly? Ain't nobody got time for that.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Tasha & Nika:" You are insecure about yourself and the way you look. Porn is something imaginary, and something that ... [snip!] ... How would it be different, if he were in the restroom picturing these women in his mind instead of looking at them?"

i am sure he masturbates looking at porn videos and just be normal and loving as usual with me but why porn? can't he control like i do during pregnancy?

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting *Kristina G*:" I think your overreacting it's not like he's cheating on you there just videos. I watch porn with my hubby soo it doesn't bother me its kinda a turn on nd it spices up the sex life alittle."

watching together is different he does this hiding, why shud he hide from me

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30523 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Derp:" You need to tell him how it makes you feel but you also need to realize that pretty much every man looks ... [snip!] ... he's not looking at porn because he thinks you don't do it for him anymore. He's looking at porn because, well, he's a guy."


Man, when I was pregnant & had nobody to have sex with...I seriously watched porn like almost every day hahaha. I am worse than some dudes with porn lmao. My BD likes to crack jokes on me because of how much I like porn.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15191 posts
19th Apr '13

You two need to talk about porn. You need to tell him how it makes you feel and he needs to listen, and he needs to tell you why he watches it and you need to listen.



Generally men watch porn for nothing other than to masturbate. It's the sex they're watching, not the people having the sex. I guarantee if you ask any man what either person looked like in the porn he watched an hour ago, he couldn't tell you



That being said, you two need to be open and honest about it and respect one another's feelings.



I wouldn't assume he's cheating on you because he's watching porn.



I think the entire issue here is that you two haven't discussed this at all.



And the fact that you two go behind each others backs and check one another's phones. So obviously there's a lack of trust for some reason.